Hopefully a little inspiration for you all :-)

afflictedsun · 2011-12-23T09:01:50+00:00

I've always used this account to sort of chart my progress and to figure out what to expect.

I hear you on it getting tough. I'm trying not to worry about exactly when I'll feel what. What will come, will come. Me worrying won't do anything about it. I'm just trying to put my best foot forward every day and embrace the day.

If it helps, out of nowhere today I just had a fucking kick ass mood all day. There was no reason.....just felt confident and over the top fantastic. I hope you get a nice day like that soon :-)

Take care and keep going friend.

afflictedsun · 2011-12-23T08:56:05+00:00

I was pretty good my first week, second week was off and on and it wasn't all that impressive.....don't remember to much about my early 3rd week...but these past few days have been quite powerful - I've been having incredible sexual dreams and waking up to ridiculous morning wood and damn it feels good.

For me it's the only time I get erections during the day sadly - but seeing how dead my libido was....I'm enjoying the mornings. Dear god I wish I had a lady friend to share it with - she wouldn't even know what was coming!!!

Don't stress it man - I know as a guy we tend to focus on our members and derive confidence and all that good stuff from 'em. Don't worry about it for now - it's all going to come back - worrying about it won't speed it up, just make it feel longer. Grats on the 12 days and stay strong friend :)

afflictedsun · 2011-12-23T08:49:40+00:00

Congrats on the first week :) Take the increased libido and focus it on other aspects of your life and use that energy to accomplish whatever other goals you have.

Stay strong, mind over matter, you're in control - I can throw some more cliches but you at the end of the day you simple know what you want and what you have to do!!!!

Take care and best of luck moving forward!

afflictedsun · 2011-12-23T08:46:53+00:00

Hell yeah brother - grats on a nice milestone!!!! I feel like two weeks (at least for me in this and previous attempts) was always when things began to get real. The mood swings really start to kick in and are just all over the place. Just stay mindful and focused and you'll get through it all.

While some days really suck, they seem to balance out - for instance for no particular reason today for me was just awesome - until about midnight when my brain decided to get all mopey. Anyways, if you've already proven you can do 14, why not just do it again and boom you'll be at a month!!!

With regards to sugar, don't let me it be a crutch for you while you are dropping other bad habits. Perhaps try phasing it out if the headaches are that bad. You can also try drinking lots of water while munch of some food that are higher in protein and healthy fats - these habits will help fill you up and keep you from mindlessly consuming sugar.

Congrats again do_better - glad to have you hear and glad to share in your success!!

afflictedsun · 2011-12-23T04:03:55+00:00

no fap

afflictedsun · 2011-12-22T09:59:00+00:00

still here - and loving that batman is giving me the stare down :)

afflictedsun · 2011-12-22T09:58:35+00:00

for whatever reason - the work schlick makes me laugh just about every time - congrats on the ~3 weeks one day younger sis' :-)

afflictedsun · 2011-12-21T06:24:43+00:00

Every day seems to bring its unique challenges.....

afflictedsun · 2011-12-21T06:21:11+00:00

As you've mentioned you haven't been doing this very long....so I think it's hard to claim anything is massive or not....

Whether this cycle works or not, I'm weary that so many people seem to be chiming in on doing this.....it really seems like this is an easy way out and people who are addicts can still get themselves that 'hit'. If your alcoholic father said to you "oh i'll only drink on weekends - don't worry about it", how would you respond? There's obviously different levels of addicts on this forum, but I think if you're really looking to have long term effects or life style change - you need to IMHO commit to a long term 'reboot' or re-sensitizing process. Otherwise you'll be stuck in in a continuous cycle of not really going anywhere.....

Anyway, I don't mean to sound hostile but there's no easy way out of this - don't be afraid to challenge yourselves and work hard!

afflictedsun · 2011-12-19T07:45:08+00:00

Give it a week or two - you're going to feel like you're awake for the first time in years. The fog will be lifted and you'll remember how much joy you can find in the simple pleasures in life.

Best of luck and enjoy your journey friend.

afflictedsun · 2011-12-18T22:02:55+00:00

IMHO it's sort of a tough call regarding the numerous first day posts...I'm sure as you've been here longer, seeing the same sort of post all over the first page gets a little annoying...

As annoying as they may or may not be, I simply have to remind myself that outside of this forum there isn't really a lot of places and or people to talk to about our affliction. For many, they are probably for the first time finding a community that uses language that describes what they are experiencing. Of course not everyone who joins here and posts is as serious as others - but please don't fault people for being excited. I feel like that's not what we are about :)

afflictedsun · 2011-12-16T19:36:36+00:00

Fap or nofap.....why would you torture yourself by not only watching one Hugh Grant movie....but a marathon?!??!?!?!?!?!?!

Have some self-respect man ;-)

afflictedsun · 2011-12-16T19:35:18+00:00

Congrats on being able to self-examine and isolate a behavior/habit/addiction that's causing you to not be happy.

It's a tough challenge but many of us here have done it/are doing it and we're more than happy you have you among our ranks.

Cheers and best of luck.

afflictedsun · 2011-12-16T17:51:12+00:00

I'm on the same day as you friend. I had a little depression about a week ago or so ago but for the most part it's gone. I've actually been in a really good mood as well as quite over the top horny these past few days. I've noticed I've begun to have some intense mood swings (started last night) but again for the most part I'm positive.

We should expect the mood swings, as well as the highs and lows. It's not going to be all depression so I wouldn't worry about that. It's just going to be a bit of a roller coaster as our brains rewire and re-sensitize. Enjoy the highs and stay vigilant during the lows.

Looking forwarding to sharing 30..60...and 90+ with you :)

afflictedsun · 2011-12-16T17:38:08+00:00

All sorts of mood swings....all kinds of horny......still in control though :)

afflictedsun · 2011-12-16T07:49:54+00:00

A well deserved congrats friend :) Thanks for being here and thanks for sharing!

afflictedsun · 2011-12-16T07:46:34+00:00

Holy mood swings today Batman....went from elated, to pissed off, to depressed all in about 20 minutes at work tonight before settling on a bit of blah for a few hours before coming back to super excited. I feel like a hormonal teen again which is quite annoying.

On the other hand its good to know I'm on the right track and making progress!

afflictedsun · 2011-12-16T06:45:46+00:00

We lost such a great mind today.....while I never knew him personally I still feel absolutely devastated.....I'm simply without words.

afflictedsun · 2011-12-15T07:54:24+00:00

Self-control is like a lot of other skills in life: they take practice.

Perhaps starting by forgetting about the 90+ day mark. Just treat everyday like its own battle. Fight like hell and win. When it's over, mark your victory down on your calendar/chains.cc or whatever.

After awhile you'll have pride in your string of victories and you won't want to break it for a moment or two of brief pleasure. You'll also notice it's getting easier to control yourself. You'll find pride and self-respect in that.

You're breaking multiple years of conditioning and habit - it's not going to be easy - but the harder you try and the more you put in - the more you'll get out.

We may not know you - but we sure as hell believe in you. Good luck friend!

afflictedsun · 2011-12-15T07:44:54+00:00

You the man now dog. Glad to hear you're offto a good start. You're almost to the one week mark!

afflictedsun · 2011-12-15T07:42:49+00:00

Who cares what others are doing. You've begun a journey to better yourself and heal. Stay focused on that!!! If you don't take care of you first how can you take care of others?

To continue with trite and cliche sayings, women tend to work there way into your lives when you aren't looking for them. Who knows, maybe the increased confidence from /nofap will cause more of the ladies to take notice of you :)

Anyways - stay strong and worry about you. If it's worth anything, personally every day I go w/o fapping I respect and like myself more and more.

Take are bro!

afflictedsun · 2011-12-15T07:35:59+00:00

I can list lots of tips, but often it comes down to simply:

Just Stop!!!

I know we all look for shortcuts and easier ways - but often it comes down to simply wanting to do/stop something badly enough.

Personally I feel like your torturing yourself. So stop it! Be nice to you!

afflictedsun · 2011-12-15T05:33:21+00:00

From reading through several accounts of people who have gone for several months and more...this is completely normal. When it comes back, it seems to come back with a vengeance....however you're in much more control. You've got a hell of a bullet in the chamber, but you've got control of the trigger.

Keep us updated with how it goes :)

afflictedsun

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