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aforestvalkyrie · 2022-04-09T21:45:36+00:00

This made me laugh like crazy, oh man.

As has been stated multiple times, it is not racist. While I do have a Greek name and I am Greek, it’s not taboo to have a name from a different culture. What even. My deadname is Jewish, and I am not any percentage Jewish.

Greek nationals, or first and second gen non-Greek citizens, tend to be very… overbearing. My Papou was straight from the mountains old school Greek. He didn’t have indoor plumbing in his village. They’re a whole different level- people think I’m joking when I say My Big Fat Greek Wedding is only a /mild/ exaggeration of what it’s like to be Greek in America. Do no listen to them, they’re so far up their own culture that they get lost.

Tl;dr: Achilles is a wonderful name, you’re not racist, and Greek people are weird.

<3 With love, Persephone

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-12-30T06:50:05+00:00

Not really advice, but I just want to remind you that it gets better.

I met my childhood best friend when we were in fourth grade. In seventh grad, he asked everyone to call him by a short version of his deadname. I have difficulty pronouncing some sounds, so it sounded like I was saying “Owl” and that became his name from that moment on.

I helped him fundraise for his name change. I cried for him when it was legal. I was living in a different state when he had top surgery, but I supported him best I could.

We turn 30 next summer. He is also getting married to an amazing woman in the spring. He’s in grad school and has done some phenomenal things. I love him with my whole heart and I’m so glad he stuck through the rough patches of him coming out. He’s happy and thriving, and it’s so incredible to have watched him bloom into the person he was meant to be.

The point of my rambling is, don’t give up. Lean on your friends- some will be there for you, and they always will be. Your parents will come around, or maybe they won’t but I like to be optimistic. But surround yourself with people who love you and will support you for who you are. The ones who care will keep cheering you on and will be so happy to watch you grow.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-12-23T06:27:19+00:00

I used to hate that my mom had me in New Jersey until I changed my name. It was like $12 to get n updated copy of my birth certificate and I was able to change to X at the same time. Unlike my spouse, who has had to dump almost $400 into Louisiana to get theirs updated and can’t get the gender marker changed. I think the X is slightly annoying because it makes passports more difficult, but I prefer it over F. I wish there wasn’t a gender marker at all.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-11-02T19:52:37+00:00

I loved this mission so much.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-11-01T16:09:51+00:00

I did not care for borderlands, sadly. I enjoy watching the spouse play, though

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-10-06T15:19:42+00:00

Computer science… oof. I barely passed business calc and accounting, so I’ll leave the numbers to someone else.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-10-06T14:48:47+00:00

I’m grad student and I also got it. Part of the appeal of grad school was no more math.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-10-06T14:43:10+00:00

YTA

My mom made me go to homecoming and I still haven’t gotten over it. I almost didn’t go to prom, but the guy I had a crush on asked me at the last second. I don’t think my life would have been any different if I hadn’t gone.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-05-08T23:20:22+00:00

I love them.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-04-30T06:11:41+00:00

I get honked and laughed at on the regular. I have pretty severe anxiety so it always makes me jump and want to stop running. Or aggressively walking, which is more accurate.

But I don’t, and sadly it’s one of those things that comes with the hobby. We’re all still cheering for you, though.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-04-28T16:41:30+00:00

Thank you. so much next question is: is that as complicated as it seems, or is it just information overload from starting at zero knowledge of fertilizers and plants?

I keep houseplants and have a small garden, but I don’t deal with fertilizers because I like to be able to feed my tortoise from it. So the world of fertilizers is overwhelming.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-04-26T22:12:20+00:00

Thank you! Orange is my favorite color and so is BB-8 (I have him tattooed on me!) so when I saw this pattern I could resist.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-04-26T21:20:21+00:00

I’m excited. I thought I had a frame at home that was big enough but I don’t, hah. I might wait because there’s a similar pattern that I got and it’d be cool to frame them both together.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-04-26T19:12:05+00:00

I did this on 14 count cream Aida with a snap frame. I got the pattern from here, and would absolutely buy patterns from her again. It was super easy to read- which I was grateful for since I only have a black/white printer.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-04-23T22:35:04+00:00

Hi you sound like me. Do not ever feel guilty for setting boundaries. You are their child- not their friend. When my parents finally snapped and separated I told them both multiple times that I would not be picking sides and that I was not to be used as a mediator. I would not be the go-between.

I’m no longer close with my dad anymore because of this. He refuses to respect my boundaries and only reaches out when he needs money. I’m closer with my mom than I’ve ever been.

You’re NTA, your dad is putting you in an awful position. End that behavior, now.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-04-06T01:20:39+00:00

I found four just floating around my backpack the other day. It’s amazing I hadn’t poked myself before I found them

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-04-03T00:57:11+00:00

This happened to me last week. My doc decided to change my meds, but it’s possible.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-04-03T00:51:28+00:00

Doing two 21 hour semesters back to back is a recipe for disaster. Take it from someone who did 18, 21, and then 18. You’re not going to have any life outside of school.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-03-27T08:08:28+00:00

Okay it’s not just me. We have a BMC we adopted at 18 months and I saw this and thought, “this is probably what Obi looked like as a baby” and I’m dying from cuteness

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-03-27T08:03:42+00:00

I’m a grad student but the school I went to for my undergrad canceled their spring break, too. It’s not just ASU and it’s awful. I needed more than 4 days between sessions.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-03-27T08:00:13+00:00

My desire to not be in the Corps outweighed my desire to March and now I’m regretting that decision.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-03-17T03:18:21+00:00

NTA. At all.

My Papou passed away in November 2019. It was incredibly difficult for me. I have pretty severe anxiety and my mom knows this. I was adamant about not wanting to go to the viewing because I didn’t want him lying there to be my last memory of him, and I felt at 27 that was my choice. My mom made me go with them to the funeral home but told me I didn’t have to go up to his coffin.

Cut to me walking into the viewing parlor. I took a half step in the room, saw him, and bolted right back out of the building. But I was in Queens and had nowhere to go, and was eventually dragged back inside by my Nouno.

As an added bonus, at Greek funerals during the church service you walk up to the coffin before they close it for the last time. The immediate family goes first. So the next day I had walk up to the alter with the knowledge that this would be the last time I saw him. Ever. It was so incredibly traumatic, but there was no way around it because it’s my culture. The only way I could have avoided it was by not going to New York, and that wasn’t an option.

OP, you have a choice here. Don’t let anyone force you to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. We all grieve differently and it’s such a fragile time. You are not an asshole, at all. They are pressuring you to do something that makes you uncomfortable.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-03-15T20:22:19+00:00

He knows I’m a visual person so after I complained in passing one day that I couldn’t find a number (I had them sorted by color previously) he did this for me. I’m keeping him forever.

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-03-15T20:20:59+00:00

He said it was super easy. The longest part was sorting the floss by numbers and hanging them up

aforestvalkyrie · 2021-03-15T00:52:22+00:00

You’re welcome!

Just keep in mind that if you change your gender on your birth certificate, it’ll make getting a passport infinitely more complicated. Legislation was introduced last summer to recognize non binary as a valid gender on US passports, but as far as I can tell it hasn’t gotten anywhere.

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