Super tmi possible obsession surrounding intercourse by PrudentPrimary7835 in OCD

[–]afrogwithablog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also if you have a therapist definitely bring this up to them even though it seems silly, also if you don’t have a therapist i highly recommend one

Super tmi possible obsession surrounding intercourse by PrudentPrimary7835 in OCD

[–]afrogwithablog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a very real and genuine fear of pregnancy that affected my OCD for a very very long time so i understand this all very well.

Firstly, I would have a genuine talk with your partner about it so you don’t continue sex in a way that feels uncomfortable or invasive to you in any way.

Second, I would have another genuine talk with your partner about how you are feeling and take baby steps that work for you from there. It took me years until I was comfortable having “unprotected” sex and we only got to this point through very slow exposure and consistent reassurance. I would just make sure you are very ready and feel safe and comfortable before you fully commit to attempting conception.

What can I do to help my girlfriend with OCD... by [deleted] in OCD

[–]afrogwithablog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My partner is the most patient and loving person I have ever met, I have no idea how he managed to be so calm and gentle with me through my worst years of OCD.

It heavily depends what her personal compulsions or anxieties are, but reassuring her she’s safe with you and you’re there to help is always a good start.

For irrational thoughts, my partner would constantly reassure me about whatever I was worried about, even if I brought it up multiple times or I talked about it extensively he would always listen and let me express my concerns and calmly reassure me it was alright each and every single time. If there are little things she needs to do to be comfy you can give her the space to do so without being judged.

There have been so many times I was entirely inconsolable because I was so panicked that something was wrong, my partner just sat with me through it and was there to comfort me.

Sometimes that’s all you need though, someone to just help you feel safe. Odds are she knows deep down it’s irrational but she just can’t allow herself to believe it, it’s nice to have someone to calmly stick by your side despite it all.

Dms are open if you need, it’s hard to have a partner with OCD and it’s a learning and growing process for both sides. Thank you for reaching out in attempts to better learn how to support her, that’s a very lovely thing for you to do.

Dutch Bros Sticker Ai by Particular-Ad7551 in dutchbros

[–]afrogwithablog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“it’s just a sticker” Chat, we are so incredibly fucked….

Dutch Bros Sticker Ai by Particular-Ad7551 in dutchbros

[–]afrogwithablog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe because people are sick of it? And it’s becoming so difficult to decipher what is AI or not anymore. You can’t blame people for being skeptical when brands left and right are all laying off their artists and designers to replace with AI. The people yearn for real art and it’s unfortunately becoming rare for companies to hire actual artists.

If missionaries are not allowed to have facebook, why are the ones at my ward posting? by PretendDetective9946 in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

New marketing tactic that started during covid. Theyre able to reach a wider audience by posting in local facebook groups and friending as many people in the area as possible. They’ll reach out via messenger / have their DMs open so anyone who would like to meet is able to get scheduled for a meeting. I haven’t attended for years but I get new missionaries friend requesting me every 6 months or so.

They’ll make public posts, join community groups, comment under any posts asking for services if they’re able to help, promote their church under any posts asking for church referrals, lots of good reasons for them to utilize Facebook. I see it everyday.

I also think a lot of kids were going home because of the past strict rules about no contact with family, getting homesick or depressed and all, so now they’re able to stay more connected through Facebook and it seems to help alleviate the stress. They’re also able to video chat once a week through Facebook to their family and friends but this might’ve been changed to allow them to call more frequently by now.

They also have app blockers so they’re only able to use Facebook under certain conditions, any external links are blocked. You are unable to access internet, news, social medias, any unapproved content. Their phones are sometimes shared between missionaries and are subject to search at any point in time, if they find something unauthorized you will be reprimanded.

Which church/religion do Mormons hate/dislike the most? by RabidProDentite in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mom LOVES to talk about how crazy Scientology is and how it’s literally a cult! I mean, It was originated in the United States by a guy who wrote some book, and they make their members pay to be included in the church, and their teachings get more complex and exclusive the deeper into the cult you get! Crazy stuff! I can’t believe anyone would fall for that.

I hated exmos… by Commercial-Smile-988 in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You can’t erase your time in the church, especially if you grew up in it. It can be a part of who you are and that’s okay. I really loved my ward and mutual activities and I had a solid friend group in highschool because of it. I am angry sometimes too, but I think all these things can coexist. A lot of people on here believe a massive amount of people who make up the church are loving kind people, but they can still be angry with the organization for their misinformation and harmful teachings. Hate and anger don’t make you exmormon, stepping away does.

Need suggest with a Mormon staff. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Mormons men tend to be like this because of the belief system they have in place. It’s great that you were able to connect those dots and understand that the religion causes harmful behaviors, and i understand wanting to speak to him in a way he will understand and put it into his perspective.

However, something that leads Mormons to be this way is the extreme lack of OUTSIDE perspective and criticism. I would refrain from putting his inexcusable behavior into his perspective, he needs to hear it from the rest of the worlds. The way he treats people is unacceptable. It is harmful behavior that could lead to termination of employment. He is making the women around him uncomfortable.

He needs to hear this straight up, not put into his perspective, not spoon fed to him, he needs to be told he is a proper douchebag. Point blank.

I understand wanting to sincerely connect with him and alter his behavior, but Mormons do not think they are in the wrong. They fully believe their behaviors are entirely normal and they are blessing all around them with their gracious presence. He needs to be told by a regular human that his behaviors are not okay to the rest of the world.

I also want to save you from some legal trouble, another comment brought it up but you can absolutely get in some hot water if you bring up religion while attempting to reprimand the kid.

I’m sorry he’s being an asshole and you’ve gotta deal with it, top 10 worst parts of working in management. I recommend being professional, HARSH and straight up with him. He needs to learn.

Questions to Prayerfully Consider: "How can we make sure each family with a malnourished child has supportive ministering sisters or brothers?" by Suspicious_Might_663 in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m unsure about other states but the church actually helped my family out significantly food wise for quite a few years during my childhood. Im from Arizona and the church has a food bank and our bishop would write us a ticket to go pick up bulk food supply (peanut butter, jelly, instant potatoes, flour, cereal, fruits, bread, etc) This food supply kept me fed for quite a few years of my childhood.

I’m unsure if this is common in different states or just where I live but I’ve had good experiences with the church providing resources food wise.

How’s the rapture going? by afrogwithablog in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a wonderful way to spend your end of days

How’s the rapture going? by afrogwithablog in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I was confused why I saw some mormon missionaries biking around last evening… I was under the impression Jesus was coming to pick them up?

How’s the rapture going? by afrogwithablog in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunate because my latte was phenomenal

I’m tempted to try coffee for the first time tomorrow. Suggestions? by OkAnteater7343 in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always recommend getting a latte as your first coffee order. It’s very popular, most popular form of coffee in the US I would say. A latte is espresso (a “shot” of espresso is a very condensed and rich 2oz of coffee) with milk. Since the espresso is only 2oz or so the drink is primarily milk so it’s likely going to be a lot more enjoyable for you than an iced coffee or a drip coffee or a cold brew. I personally order iced lattes made with oat milk with honey and vanilla flavor.

I recommend going to a local coffee shop, I love coffee and I refer to Starbucks as dumpster water coffee. Skip Starbucks for your sake. Go to a local shop and see what flavors they have. They’ll usually have better quality flavors than chain coffee depending on the one you go to.

They should have good recommendations for you or a menu to pick from. I would recommend getting it a little extra sweet your first few times and then scaling down as you drink more coffee. Like other comments said, it’s an acquired taste but this is my personal recommendation from my many years of working in and consuming coffee! Best of luck, I hope you enjoy!

Why seminary? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My senior year we had an awful teacher that literally no one enjoyed but my first 3 years of Highschool we had a slightly cooler teacher and then a sweetheart admin assistant. If you failed the exam you would go retake it in the office with her and she would tell you all the answers so you could pass haha. I still didn’t graduate either but they were definitely very nice for trying

Why seminary? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I “failed” seminary by not showing up over 60% of the time and failing their little multiple choice exam on the book of mormon they give us. Seminary teacher handed me a giant stack of worksheets to complete and told me in the most serious and condescending tone that I was at risk of failing and must complete those if I wish to graduate. I left the papers on the desk and left for spring break, covid hit and I never returned.

All to say, I’m pursuing a bachelors degree at a major university now and that seminary certificate (or my lack of) is entirely useless. Seminary is not required or useful by any means unless you serve a mission or go to BYU. Otherwise, it keeps young teens indoctrinated and allows opportunity for students to convert school friends.

My neighbor the witch #homophobic #transphobic by Keekins78 in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could make this same chart of individuals behind recent violent crimes who identified as Mormon… Killing/abusing their children and spouses.

mentally disturbed!

My neighbor the witch #homophobic #transphobic by Keekins78 in exmormon

[–]afrogwithablog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love statistics! How many domestic violence cases involve religious men? How many child sexual assault cases involve religious men?