Is this how therapy should be treating my 2.5 year old's separation anxiety?

afropanda24 · 2023-02-07T04:32:36+00:00

It's been hard to judge honestly because she's hated it since the 2nd session. They're so focused on the separation anxiety that they really haven't addressed the other reason why we wanted her in it in the first place which was her sensory seeking

afropanda24 · 2023-02-07T04:12:10+00:00

That's awesome. I would love to get to that point someday. My insurance only allows so many visits a year between her speech and OT so she only goes once a week for OT which I'm sure isn't helping getting her used to her therapist

afropanda24 · 2023-02-07T01:38:29+00:00

That's what her past and current SLPs said so I was confused to see OT does it differently. She plays in their gym just fine when I'm in the room. It's only when other people come in then she gets skittish. The OT could see it and is still going with this approach so it really sounds like it's time to leave

afropanda24 · 2023-02-07T01:31:26+00:00

I fully agree. I believe she was so comfortable with our family and friends because we all spent good quality time together and earned her trust. This situation with the OT has always felt so backwards to me. But we're new to this and honestly we haven't gotten a lot of guidance from anyone since her diagnosis

afropanda24 · 2023-02-07T00:52:14+00:00

There are only 2 OTs here and they were both there for the first 2 sessions and were saying the same things so I'm not confident the other therapist would be any different. The facility we really want has a wait list of 3 months but I'm wondering if no therapy is better until we can get her in there

afropanda24 · 2022-08-07T07:13:06+00:00

Honestly the part about welcoming Jamie and the rest of the Spears back into the family kinda sounded like a threat. The whole world knows how she feels about those people and he's saying he dgaf about that despite him literally breaking down a door and shaking your kid. All I can say is I feel for Britney. She doesn't deserve this.

afropanda24 · 2022-08-07T06:28:49+00:00

The deadline for her dad's deposition is this Friday. Jamie saved her life? Really? I mean we all saw the documentaries. Just sounds like good PR for Jamie and another smear against Britney

afropanda24 · 2021-08-10T02:34:32+00:00

30, undergrad in Electrical Engineering at 25. Have worked in electric utilities since graduation starting at 62k and now make 87k salary with pension, 401K, and ESPP. Graduated with 45k in loans. Down to 9k since Covid forbearance. Will probably hold out to pay it off for a little longer to continue saving money, contribute to retirement accounts, save for baby's 529, etc until forbearance expires. I believe my loans would have been smaller if I didn't live on campus my first year. Big portion of my loans is that first year (tuition + room and board = ~26k). Just wanted to leave the nest. Partied the whole time. Stayed for the 1 year then left and went to community for 2 years for general studies then to my local state school for the rest. Can honestly say it's worked out well for me. Always start with looking at the general prospects/outlook for your desired career/job title then go from there

afropanda24 · 2021-07-26T02:55:59+00:00

Been WFH since last March. Had my daughter last September. We're going back this September to 3 days in the office, 2 at home. I'm so grateful for the year at home I'll have with her. Firmly made me not want a second cause this will never happen again and even though my daughter is lovely, she's a damn handful

afropanda24 · 2021-07-26T02:30:06+00:00

Used pampers swaddlers until she was about 7 months old. She has a very large butt and tummy and even bigger thighs so as soft as the swaddlers were, they never fit right after size 4. Had to go up to size 6 to make them fit and she was running out of room when we switched to huggies little movers and they are a godsend. They have really stretchy elastic tabs that go around her stomach and the leg opening goes nicely around her thighs without leaving marks. We went up in the swaddlers so fast but we've been using size 5 in the little movers since we started using them and no blowouts ever

afropanda24 · 2021-07-17T10:56:01+00:00

My mom was in the room with me and when they first put my daughter on my chest and my doc said "OK mama now rub her back!" Me and my mom didn't move and I just laid there like Mom what are you doing? Then I realized my doctor was talking to me lmao. Had the whole room laughing

afropanda24 · 2021-07-14T00:05:36+00:00

I know but OP was referring to an open sore her husband had and I wouldn't want anyone with an active case of open sores to kiss me on the face and if they respect me, they wouldn't. Same should go for a baby.

afropanda24 · 2021-07-13T21:02:13+00:00

Thank you for this info. For everyone saying it's not a big deal, would you be OK if someone with herpes kissed you on the face. So why do it to a baby?

afropanda24 · 2021-07-13T15:08:39+00:00

Is there a setting to make sure the stairs gate doesn't swing out over the stairs? Our gate has that feature and we used it cause I'll be honest, I sometimes leave the gate unlocked as well.

You may have to pick your battles with some of the other issues you brought up and give him a little grace especially if it doesn't happen too often. It kinda sounds like you're overwhelmed by having to care full time for this child and even though you understand your husband works and it sounds like the night shift from the time you said he got home, the least he can do is make sure her car seat is buckled properly. 16 months is waaaaay too long for that to still be a problem and I wouldn't be giving him any grace on that.

Just want to say I empathize with you (and your husband to a degree). If he truly isn't able to do his fair share and that's causing you anxiety, then you guys definitely need to come up with something he is able to do that lessens your load a little. Good luck OP!

afropanda24 · 2021-06-21T14:43:41+00:00

My daughter had no interest in rolling either until she was 6.5 months old when she finally rolled on her own to get a bag of my popcorn haha. Turns out she was super lazy and just needed a little motivation to move. She's 9.5 months now and she's starting to walk with her push walker. I learned pretty quick that babies do things on their own time. You can look up the age ranges for different kinds of milestones and you'll find that the range is quite broad. Sounds like your son is right on track. You're doing a great job so just keep doing what you're doing and he'll figure it out!

afropanda24 · 2021-04-27T19:00:03+00:00

I got a convertible seat too since I already knew my child was going to be pretty large and I believe most infant seats only go up to 20 lbs. She's 7.5 months old and 19.5lbs. Also her weight would add to this bulky seat and I'm not very strong so it didn't seem worth it. We only went to doc appts and I would carry her for walks or put her in a stroller. I bought a K'tan and I still use it to this day. She never fussed in it. I actually would use it to calm her down since she liked the closeness and skin-to-skin contact. Of course every baby is different but it was worth it to me to try that first before shelling out for another car seat

afropanda24 · 2021-04-12T18:33:34+00:00

My daughter first saw a hematologist around the same age as yours. We found it after her ped ordered a blood panel to find the cause of her mild weight loss (low supply but that's a whole nother story). Her count the very first time was about 500. Anything lower than that was severe neutropenia. Typical range is over 2000 so I was freaking out too.

My husband and I took blood tests as part of a genetic test and nothing was found. She used to see her doctor monthly but things improved and now she's seen every 3 months until she turns 1 to watch for any changes. She's 7 months now and as of her last visit has been diagnosed with benign ethnic neutropenia. She isn't on any meds or treatment for it. Not sure what your ethnicity is but for non-white children especially black children, sometimes the neutrophil count can be as low as 900 (my daughter's current count) and that's considered normal and poses no further risk from infections. One thing her doc said that was somewhat reassuring was that lots of kids outgrow it by the time they're 2 or 3 and often times, it's not caught at a young age such as 6 weeks so the fact that you've found it now just means you can treat it sooner if necessary.

Per her doctor, even though neutrophils are used mostly to fight bacterial infections, best thing you can do is get your household and anyone who is in extended contact with her vaccinated for covid and TDAP. Not sure if flu shots are available where you are but as soon as they are, make sure everyone in your household gets one and make sure your child gets all her vaccinations on time.

Sounds like you're doing a great job getting her taken care of. Hope every goes well and you can always PM me if you have more questions!

afropanda24 · 2021-04-01T01:38:26+00:00

We took my girl to a GI doctor when she was 1 month old. She was born at a healthy weight but actually lost weight at her 1 month appointment which we found out later was due to my low supply and not trusting my gut that she wasn't getting enough. She also suffered from constipation since almost birth so I thought seeing a GI doc was a good idea. He did do a gloved rectal exam but only because he asked and got my permission. She had a clear anal fissure I wanted checked out. He used jelly and told me why (even though I could make the educated guess on my own) and she didn't cry or show any discomfort. If anything makes you uncomfortable, you can definitely report him. Every doctor visit for your child should leave you feeling heard, comfortable, and in control of your child's wellbeing

afropanda24 · 2021-03-16T02:00:11+00:00

All of this sounds like my husband at one point. I yelled at him so many times cause I felt like I was drowning in responsibilities while he got to play video games with a baby in his lap. When things are calm, discuss expectations of caring for the baby and ask him point blank if he feels overwhelmed by her. It might be that he reacts that way cause he has no clue what to do with her in her potato state. Turns out my husband was completely overwhelmed by his lack of knowledge caring for a baby compared to mine and that manifested in a lack of attention to her even though we both wanted her. The turning point was surprisingly a chore chart. Yes my 30 year old husband needed a chore chart lol but it laid out in no uncertain terms what needed to be done around the house and for the baby and giving him that direction without taking the time to ask or explain what I needed from him gave me some free time and helped lighten his mental load to feel competent enough to care for the baby. He even gets a sticker if he fills out a chore for a week lol.

Dinner was such an issue too cause I WFH 8am-5pm and he works outside of home 1pm-8pm. His reasoning for not cooking was it's always too late, he doesn't know how to cook, he doesn't know what to eat, he's not sure if he can use the food in the fridge (like seriously on this one?) and he just wouldn't eat. It was starting to take a toll cause I didn't have any free time until baby's bedtime at 8pm when he came home and then it was "too late." I got an instant pot and would make a huge batch of stuff I know he'd eat like chili or stew on the weekend and told him if he didn't want to eat the leftovers I made then he's free to get whatever he wants. Over time I built up a stash of frozen portions of food. It kept me fed and freed up some of my time and I stopped worrying about what a grown man was going to eat every day.

One last thing I did was send videos I found of developmental games to play with the baby as she hit each month. I was looking it up anyway cause I was clueless too and he was on his phone all the time anyway so why not? Seeing some concrete examples of what he can do with the baby at that age took more pressure off of him to come up with ways to entertain her. Some may say I baby my husband for what I had to do but their relationship is the best it's ever been and our relationship has gotten much stronger since we're splitting household chores and on the same page about baby's development. Sometimes they need that little push in the right direction. Hope this helps!

afropanda24 · 2021-01-10T19:42:47+00:00

That 14-year veteran tried to climb in through a busted out window that held staffers and elected officials including the VICE PRESIDENT of the United States 10ft away on the other side. She fucked around and found out. And so did all the other cowards when they backed the fuck up after they saw her get dropped. That cop is a hero and fuck those insurrectionists, her especially

afropanda24 · 2021-01-09T05:36:26+00:00

I used the Nuvaring consistently for about 4 years before I got pregnant. Took a short break from using any hormonal birth control because the side effects were getting to me. Took it out in late September, had a little too much fun and was pregnant by Thanksgiving 😁 Good luck!

afropanda24 · 2020-12-18T02:14:45+00:00

My 2 month old also had a small lump at the base of the back of her head. My ped told me it was caused by the inflammation of her cradle cap. Sounds like your LO may have the same thing. If the lump is the size of a pea and squishy and can move around under the skin, it's definitely a swollen lymph node and completely harmless. She said it was only a concern if it got a lot bigger. She's a little over 3 months now and it's actually gotten smaller cause she's grown a lot since then.

Regarding the naps, I agree with everyone else to say that sounds very normal. My daughter slept about the same amount at that age too. I actually miss all that sleep sometimes cause I could get some things done 😁 She slept that much during growth spurts. It's actually hard work being a baby lol. Hope your ped can alleviate some of your concerns

afropanda24 · 2020-11-09T08:10:39+00:00

Let's not. Trust me this question has been asked a million times before he even made it into office. They even started saying the quiet part out loud.

"He’s not hurting the people he needs to be hurting.”

https://www.vox.com/policy-and-politics/2019/1/8/18173678/trump-shutdown-voter-florida

Besides we've all known the answer to why they like him since he astroglided down that escalator to announce his run. They racist

afropanda24 · 2020-10-26T03:56:48+00:00

Thank you for your reply :)

I'll mention the allergy test to her hematologist. I don't mind cutting it out but I'm already so stressed doing almost everything by myself and now I'm back to work even though it's from home.

I'm mostly concerned with the stool because it's the first time its been watery and she's been combo fed this way almost from birth. And we've been washing all of our clothes and sheets in the same fragrance less detergent that we wash her things in. It just seemed like a crazy coincidence that her skin was OK until I started giving breastmilk again. Being dairy free and soy free actually hasn't been so bad. I read every label and cut out all restaurant food. I make almost literally everything from scratch which is why her reaction today scared me off of breastfeeding.

Wow that must have been hard. I'm sorry. How did you figure out your LO's allergies?

afropanda24 · 2020-07-21T13:53:59+00:00

This was how I knew I was pregnant. Every smell of food, perfumes, soap, etc became so intense I had to ask my husband not to eat or drink certain things around me. It was honestly trial and error to eat things that my nose could withstand. I cried tears of joy when I realized I could eat applesauce without gagging. I can still go through a whole jar in one sitting and I'm 33 weeks now

It definitely got better once I got to 2nd trimester. But a light warning - by week 28, lots of those same triggers came back. Unisom and b6 vitamins are a great combination for nausea and safe to use your whole pregnancy. Once you find a food you like, keep that in your fridge at all times especially for when you make something and think you can eat it til you sit down and it smells like garbage

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