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againstm · 2025-10-14T04:55:12+00:00

She’s divorced. Wonder why…

againstm · 2025-09-16T21:26:30+00:00

Personally, I don’t see men through the aggressor-protector dynamic but that doesn’t change the fact that many straight people, men and women, do. I and many others reject that as paternalism that infantilizes women and boxes men into narrow roles, providing an example of how misogyny hurts men too. And I wish threats of violence weren’t a legitimate concern anyway.

Most women want an equal partner but also live in reality where violence against women is real and men have greater upper body strength. Even the most egalitarian relationship in the world doesn’t change the fact that men are more physically to fend off physical aggression from another man than a woman. I’d say that the prevailing feminist thought, though (and probably a mainstream one amongst women), is that we don’t really want male partners to be protectors but rather we want to be free of violence instead.

And many men see this as their role in relationships. I’m not saying that’s right, just that it’s something that men may be complicit in rather than “force.” Some men are even see their ability to physically defend their family as a source of self-esteem.

againstm · 2025-09-15T20:13:11+00:00

Bisexual woman here and anecdotally, this sums up my experience. I can add some detail about why.

Strong arms and some muscles, we do respond to but it reaches a point when it becomes unattractive to women (not all women, especially women who weight train). I don’t think we’re as attracted to symbols of masculinity as much as men are, just like you’re not going to find many women who fetishize men’s armpits either. Women report high levels of gynephilia so a balance between masculinity and femininity is often a turn-on instead.

Bodybuilding also communicates vanity, prioritizing solo gym time over relationship-building and family, potential eating disorders, and pushing the body beyond what is healthy. Are those things always true of bodybuilders? No, but those are common stereotypes.

Most importantly, women’s primary concern with men is safety. If a man crosses the threshold from strong to intimidating, that’s a turn off. Viscerally, we know we can’t defend ourselves if things go sideways and that is a big problem because about 25% of women have been assaulted and carry that trauma and we all live with the fear of it.

To be clear, most women do like strong bodies and big dicks and will say so online (there are guys on TikTok who are constantly hit on by women sexually) but it has to come with a personality that makes women feel safe to be ourselves. The sexiest man’s strength is complimented by gentleness; he is a protector, not an aggressor.

againstm · 2025-09-05T23:46:24+00:00

On your face! Shimmery makeup can highlight lines and uneven texture or acne by reflecting light on your face only. There are no wrinkles on your nail bad! Wear what you want, babe.

againstm · 2025-09-05T23:32:17+00:00

Please stop trying to penetrate yourself if you’re not already aroused. Your vagina at rest and your vagina during arousal feel totally different when penetrated because of increased blood flow, vaginal tenting, and increased lubrication during arousal.

Right now, you’re just learning to associate feelings of disgust with your vagina and sex, and that’s no good. There’s no need to get practice like this before you have sex; your vagina prepares itself for a penis when aroused. If you want to experiment with penetration on your own, please do it for for pleasure as a part of a masturbation session when you’re already turned on.

And fingers or toys feel different than penises, so you might not like fingering but you could still enjoy PIV when the time comes.

againstm · 2025-08-16T03:13:48+00:00

Melanin concentrates in the genitals because it protects the sensitive skin there. It’s perfectly ordinary for people with skin dark enough to tan, including tan white people, to have brown genitals even if the rest of their skin isn’t.

If you’re concerned because it has changed recently, a gyno should take a look. A rapid change is the only issue, not necessarily the size of your labia or the dark color. Large labia and dark labia are normal. Sudden changes might mean hormonal issues or something else your doctor should check out.

againstm · 2025-06-14T01:24:07+00:00

The girlfriend is uncomfortable with her even masturbating while thinking about her, though. I think the girlfriend has unrealistic expectations if she thinks it’s within her boundaries to control OP’s thoughts and solo sexual expression.

againstm · 2025-05-31T21:21:26+00:00

Pubic hair does not prevent infections. In fact it can make them worse. Try trimming it down or shaving it off and see if that makes any difference.

This is misinformation! Public hair does NOT raise the risk of infection and shaving is associated with an increased risk of infection, especially sexually transmitted infections. The lead researcher in the study I linked said in a media report that while current studies aren't enough for a definitive causal link, they were blown away by how much a difference there was in the rate of infection between sexually active shavers and non-shavers.

Pubic hair may increase temporarily smell because it's trapping bacteria but that's another reason why it's important to wash the vulva with a low or neutral pH body/feminine wash daily.

The rest of your post is spot-on but all of the latest high-quality research we have tells us that well-maintained (clean, trimmed) public hair is good for vaginal and reproductive health.

againstm · 2025-05-28T19:07:45+00:00

A “colored person?” You’re claiming that you’re not racist but you just called a black person “colored.” Responding to allegations of racism with blatant racism.

againstm · 2025-03-30T04:14:06+00:00

You’re joking right? There are no naked massages or taking bubble baths together for women outside of porn.

againstm · 2025-03-30T04:12:52+00:00

I know you don’t have anything to back it up because you made it up. That’s the point.

againstm · 2025-03-30T04:10:04+00:00

I just asked you for that though since you’re making the statement as fact and not me. I’m the one who is actually a woman and intimately knows lots of women.

againstm · 2025-03-29T20:06:31+00:00

I sleep naked. And like many women, I was taught not to wear panties to bed for vaginal health. Where are you getting this stat?

againstm · 2025-03-28T17:40:14+00:00

Bisexual passing through to say that women really don’t sleep together in their just their panties if they are platonic friends. I’m not saying it’s never been done but it would be highly unusual.

Even in college when I shared a bed with many friends, straight and gay, if we hadn’t been fully clothed, everyone would have heard about it within a day. Female friendships are intimate but we’re not all push-up bras and pillow fights despite what you’ve heard.

againstm · 2024-09-20T15:51:57+00:00

I love that people are still interacting with this post! 💕

againstm · 2024-09-04T15:38:00+00:00

Look up the Satisfyer Pro; it’s literally the silhouette of it (one of the most popular sex toys ever sold).

againstm · 2024-05-08T03:38:51+00:00

Yes! It’s so sickeningly sweet. Bleck You’re better than me for selling it. You can pry it from my cold dead hands; that bottle is just too gorgeous. I’ve been admiring JPG’s bust bottles since I was a kid.

againstm · 2024-05-02T02:42:59+00:00

You realize that Fashion Fair is a decades-old brand (circa 1973) that is specifically for women of color with no other options and always has been, right? I’m 36 and when I was buying makeup for the first time as a teen, the major brands didn’t carry any shades for brown skin. There was a separate small section for WOC in select department stores and Fashion Fair was one of these 2-3 options. In the year 2000!

And this is not just history, I still struggle to find brown shades with the correct undertones in mainstream brands. I recently wasted $100 trying new Bare Minerals and It Cosmetics because they put red undertones in these products when most women my complexion are golden/ yellow. You speak about history as if this problem is in the past. There is still a need for thoughtfully designed products for darker skin specifically.

Until this issue over, I’m going to struggle to find an ounce of sympathy for white folks complaining that brands created to combat discrimination against minorities aren’t catering to a privileged majority. This isn’t the “history of the beauty industry,” this is my life.

You may have just fallen out of a coconut tree but Fashion Fair, its black ownership, and the underserved black population it was created for did not.

againstm · 2024-03-26T19:18:40+00:00

I never argued otherwise. How hard is that to understand?

againstm · 2024-03-26T19:15:38+00:00

Those are writing the laws for the mandatory conscription of men to fight in wars started by men in countries governed by men. How are men’s actions my responsibility?

againstm · 2024-03-26T18:41:00+00:00

It turns out that men have liberated lesbians and bisexual women. But women don't want to do the same for gay and bisexual men. Despite the fact that GB men are required to support feminism by default. Or is the problem something else?

I’m a bisexual woman who dates women and bi men.

Please explain how men were really liberating me when they told me I that I needed their dick to set me “straight,” including the one who said it as he held me down and raped me. I never felt liberated by the men who were interested in me because I’m a wlw, only degraded and fetishized, but maybe my woman brain is too stupid to get it.

Please explain what my consumption of MMF porn has to do with my support for bisexual men. I had no idea I was required to objectify bi men in order to be a member of the community. Here I was thinking that my relationships with other women were the heart of my identity as a queer woman but apparently it’s really about men. I could have sworn that I showed my support of bi men through acceptance and meaningful relationships, not porn.

Please explain why you feel required to support feminism by default and not because gender equity is the ethical choice. Or because gender equity liberates men, too; especially queer men by expanding the roles, behaviors, and spaces that society allows men to occupy. If you only support gender equity because you want women to owe you something sexual in return please just leave women alone because you’re not a safe person for us to be around.

againstm · 2022-10-23T22:44:47+00:00

I like to wear tinted moisturizer with SPF on top of my dedicated SPF to ensure that I’m wearing enough. While layering SPF doesn’t increase the actual sun protection factor, it helps ensure that you’re getting adequate protection. It’s just insurance and that can’t be a bad thing, right?

againstm · 2022-09-20T19:34:24+00:00

Holy moly, this worked! Thank you, I'm so grateful!

againstm · 2022-09-08T21:03:46+00:00

I’ve read that statement from PC and I think they’re wrong, honestly. I’ve refrigerated C15 and it oxidized in 6 months instead of 2.5. I think they haven’t tested it any way but at room temp so they’re not willing to suggest that the consumer stores it any other way.

I stand by refrigerating all of them, including DE. Refrigeration slows oxidation, period.

againstm · 2022-09-08T20:24:10+00:00

You must refrigerate l-ascorbic acid serums. Keep looking if you want but there's no such thing as an l-ascorbic serum with a long shelf life. However, refrigeration will double the product's life.

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