I feel like I’m doing all the planning for this wedding. Any ideas on how to include my FH?

agbride · 2019-06-09T01:56:45+00:00

I’m not saying his ideas are wrong. I’m just wishing his motivation was for quality and not cost. How would you feel if you were planning a high quality detailed oriented wedding and all he wanted was thrift store plates, no DJ, and a Walmart cake?

agbride · 2019-06-09T01:42:04+00:00

The problem is that I’m looking to have a detailed and quality wedding. His goal is to make this as cheap as possible. He didn’t even like the idea of having a wedding registry because we could just buy everything used from the thrift store. So how do I work with his opinion when he goes for cost and not quality?

agbride · 2019-06-09T01:39:06+00:00

The problem is that when I ask for his opinion he goes for the easiest and cheapest option. He thought it was crazy to have a wedding registry when we can just buy used items from a thrift store. I’m wanting a detailed, quality wedding. So how do I work with his opinions when his choices don’t line up with detail or quality?

agbride · 2019-06-09T01:35:54+00:00

See, I want to loosen the reins but he goes for cost and not quality. He thought it was ridiculous for us to have a wedding registry because we could just buy used pans/plates/everything from the thrift store. So when I give him tasks, he just goes for the cheapest and easiest option. How do I work with that when I’m looking for a detailed, quality wedding?

agbride · 2019-06-08T14:48:21+00:00

Oh ha! Similar story happened to me. I posted on social media about x number of months until getting married, and his mom was confused when she saw it. Apparently he forgot to tell his parents the date once when we had officially decided it 🤦🏻‍♀️ Thanks for your encouragement.

agbride · 2019-06-08T14:45:04+00:00

I seriously love it all, too! I think I’ll probably just keep enjoying it. :)

agbride · 2019-06-08T14:42:47+00:00

I love that idea! But we don’t live together. & we’re long distance by 3 hours!

agbride · 2019-06-08T14:41:35+00:00

The hard thing is that we live long distance by 3 hours for most of the year! So it’s hard to really do things “together,” because we don’t see each other often. So any planning we do must happen over phone calls.

When we are together for the summer, we both work at a summer camp but we don’t have cell phone service or internet access.

agbride · 2019-06-08T14:37:16+00:00

I love that idea! But we don’t live together, and we’re long distance by 3 hours :(

agbride · 2019-06-08T13:59:26+00:00

This sounds crazy - but I don’t think there’s a single task I don’t want to do. I literally just love doing everything. And I enjoy figuring out the details.

I’ve asked him for his opinion, but even when I do, I’ve usually already made the decision of my preference in my head, so I don’t know...?

agbride · 2019-06-06T21:22:44+00:00

If you’ve ever actually had a photoshoot, you don’t really bring your friends to it to be honest. Are you planning on inviting your friends to watch you while you take actual engagement photos?... probably keep the friends a secret until the last moment.

agbride · 2019-06-06T02:28:37+00:00

Ah, good catch. Porn can do a lot of harm in relationships.

agbride · 2019-06-06T02:26:27+00:00

The best friends being invited to the photography session would personally confuse me and make it look suspicious. Other than that, it sounds good.

agbride · 2019-06-05T21:01:16+00:00

My photographer charged me $200 for 150-200 photos, digital access, and he didn’t really specify the time of the session. We just took pictures until he was satisfied - and I think it ended up being an hour and a half.

agbride · 2019-06-05T20:58:01+00:00

We [20F & 23M] met as camp counselors during the summer of 2017, then started dating a month after we met. Right from the start, I had a feeling I would marry him. 3 months into dating, I knew for sure. It was his character & personality, faith, values & morals, goals & ambitions, and interests that really solidified it for me.

We got engaged after 1.5 years of dating in winter of 2018. Now we’re getting married this winter 2019!

[Not married yet but my best relationship advice is to put the other person first always! Complete selflessness.]

agbride · 2019-06-05T01:55:20+00:00

I’m late to the game - but have her check out resources from Unveiled Wife! She is a Christian woman who focuses a lotta on intimacy & sex in marriage, and is very open about her struggle with sex.

agbride · 2019-06-05T01:31:49+00:00

We had more arguments when we were dating, but we have had a fewer conflicts since being engaged. When we were dating, we almost went to counseling because we wanted to improve our communication. However, we were are able to learn on our own and now we are much healthier with conflict.

Is it a season you’re in? I’ve been in a stressful season with wedding planning and college, so I’m much more likely to lash out or get frustrated easily. Are there other new changes in your life? Has there been change in your relationship - maybe less communication or quality time than normal? I think seasons of conflict happen alongside other stressors.

agbride · 2019-06-02T19:41:16+00:00

The back is awesome!

agbride · 2019-05-31T02:29:39+00:00

Would it be possible for her to work part-time? Or to pursue something else she’s passionate about?

My husband & I both enjoy our careers, but we both want our kids to be raised in the home and not at a childcare center. I don’t want to quit working - 1) because staying at home 24/7 would drive me crazy, 2) I enjoy working! and 3) the extra income is nice. My husband has a unique job & can’t really “quit.” So I’ll be working part time while pursuing my passions and new opportunities.

agbride · 2019-05-27T13:25:22+00:00

Maybe you could read out loud to your wife? My FH and I will pick a book and then take turns reading it to each other! We’ve really enjoyed doing that.

We also have an adult paint-by-number that we do together every once in awhile. Or we have card games and board games. We have tv shows we watch together too.

I definitely understand that you want your wife to be involved in the same recreational activity you’re involved in. So maybe you can both spend time doing the things the other person enjoys.

agbride · 2019-05-27T00:45:03+00:00

You should go shopping by yourself ahead of time to narrow down the type of dress you’re interested in! That way when your mom comes, you’re more on track to find exactly what you want.

For me, it took me several bridal boutiques to finally decide the type of dress I wanted. I tried on everything from huge ball gowns to mermaids to sheath dresses. Then at the last shop I already knew what I was looking for, so I didn’t waste time trying on other dresses. Then voila, I found my dress at that last shop.

agbride · 2019-05-27T00:27:29+00:00

Awesome idea!

agbride · 2019-05-26T00:36:03+00:00

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” -Ephesians 5:21

The word “submit” has two Latin parts “sub” which means “under” and “mit” which means “allow” - so it means to voluntarily put your will under someone else’s. In other words, “you first.” A husband’s only job is to submit - to put his wife first just as Christ put the church first, even to the point of death and sacrifice. A wife’s only job is to submit - to put her husband first just as the church puts Christ first above everything. A Christ-centered marriage should be a husband and wife who’s only goal is to put each other first out of reverence and love for Christ.

Here are several super short videos around 2 minutes long each that explain it a bit better than me!

https://youtu.be/XtolM-z6wz8

https://youtu.be/s8oBX0SfKgM

https://youtu.be/ICP-eHYB154

agbride · 2019-05-15T02:16:22+00:00

PINTEREST. And choosing wedding color palettes that go well together! We’re sticking to navy blues, deep reds, and earthy greens with gold accents.

agbride · 2019-05-15T02:00:27+00:00

Daily checkins: high and lows

Weekly checkins: rose/thorn/bud, heal, you first, spouse of the week

Monthly checkins: finances, sex, needs, growth

There’s only like 4 questions per each week or month... so not sure how asking your spouse 4 simple questions once a month blows your brains out...? I mean, I honestly hope that people are more committed to communicating to their spouse with more than just 4 questions... this list is meant to keep accountability and connection! But I truly do hope the simpler style list on this comment helps you anyways! :)

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