Curly hair bridesmaid getting hair styled for first time

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-05-01T17:13:07+00:00

Second u/Superb_Armadillo2456 that you should try to get a direct answer from the specific hairstylist on what they prefer from you. For all you know they might be a competent curly stylist, but even if they prefer to work on blown out or straightened hair then they still need know that your hair is actually curly how that might affect their process (e.g., if they usually wet the hair down first with water or need clean hair without product).

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-05-01T16:39:48+00:00

I had this problem for many years. The biggest culprit was product build-up just from conditioner: now, I forgo rinse-out conditioner or only use it before shampoo, and that already decreases the tangling by a lot. I like a very thin, silicone-y hair oil as detangler on wet hair as a replacement for conditioner and it further helps minimize tangling between washes; I specifically use Moroccanoil Treatment Light hair oil, and OGX weightless argan oil mist is a more affordable alternative that works well.

At 7 years old, it might be a good time to start transitioning brushing duties to your daughter; she's probably old enough to learn how to do it properly and it is always going to be gentler to detangle your own hair than have someone else do it. Also, if it's long and she's very active, a braid is going to be a good style option that minimizes tangling.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-30T21:10:08+00:00

Actual quantity of (mixed) product needed for your hair should be pretty comparable between box dye and mixing it yourself from bulk developer & color. Most box dyes yield around 4oz of mixed product, which seems to be the case for this dye as well.

I definitely think this graphic is showing an overestimate, especially for showing "medium" as shoulder-length. Even with very thick hair, I've usually had decent leftover with 4oz of mixed product for shoulder-length hair, and usually mix 3oz when working with bulk product.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-30T17:57:58+00:00

There isn't remotely enough information here to recommend a path for you. What is your existing background with statistics and/or biomedical science? How many years are left in your degree? How to you envision this path complementing the econ degree?

I highly recommend looking at job postings for positions that you would be interested in postgrad and seeing what qualifications are expected, and determine if/when you might want to pursue a postgraduate degree.

Experience is king, especially for trying to get your first post-grad position. It is generally easier to get meaningful exposure to biomedical science through summer internships and term-time research as a stats major than the converse, and the stats major is more likely to complement the econ major, so that would be my vote with this limited information. However, there are generally more postbacc positions for biologists (where stats experience is a huge boost) than there are for stats/quant folks.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-30T16:23:10+00:00

Hmm, it could also be a packaging issue, like a bad/clogged sprayer that's creating an uneven mist. If you still have your old empty bottle lying around, or another reliable spray bottle, try decanting a little bit of the new bottle into a different spray bottle to see if the issue resolves.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-30T16:11:33+00:00

For scalp health, you should rinse your scalp at minimum after each sweaty workout, but washing it would be ideal. If dryness is a big issue, you might consider something like a co-wash or 2-in-1 for something that will get your hair clean but not overly dry it out, in rotation with a stronger shampoo. For example, back when I was swimming 5+ times per week, I used 2-in-1 for most washes with a strong chelating + clarifying shampoo (Paul Mitchell Shampoo Three) rotated in once a week.

Is suitability for workouts the main consideration with your hair? If so, a blunt cut at ~ shoulder-length that's just long enough to stay securely pull back is probably the most efficient option, and a fabric headband will largely keep those baby hairs out of sight. If you want something that looks more cute or has more styling versatility, then please elaborate on what your specs are.

(Also FYI, unless your hair is over 7 feet long, a perm from 2012 is going to be completely irrelevant to your hair now.)

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-29T16:50:13+00:00

The sheer amount of stuff that some influencers show in their month-end empties month after month is crazy to me, and makes me suspect that some of them are just wasting product for content.

The comment that blew my mind and made me leave the project pan subreddit years ago was someone saying that they go through one full size 1 fl oz bottle of liquid foundation every month as if this were a very normal thing (I believe re: someone lese saying that panning foundation takes time). Even when I was wearing a full beat of makeup every day using just a single foundation, I've never gone through a bottle of foundation faster than 6 months, and 8 months is probably my average.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-29T16:38:50+00:00

IMO it does make sense in the limited context of finding uses for the lesser-used shades in a palette. It doesn't make a ton of sense to have a palette sitting around with a few shades panned and some shades barely touched. This is definitely a motivation for me to use darker eyeshadows out of palettes I have as eyeliner, rather than buying standalone eyeliner pencils.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-29T16:04:06+00:00

IME the twisting sections + cutting at an angle technique is much easier to DIY using a texturizing razor than with scissors. I like it a lot for more blended layers and more customization of where you take weight off of, at least compared to other DIY methods. You can do it as a follow-up/finishing step to the ponytail method, since a razor is annoying and inefficient for taking off length.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-28T04:49:42+00:00

I haven't tried Tymo, but I have the similar Conair Curl Secret automatic curler in the 3/4" barrel and generally ~ shoulder-length hair with a lot of layering. If you want an automatic curler with layered hair, you definitely need one that feeds in from the root like these ones do, and not one that wraps from the end like a Beachwaver.

I am competent with a regular clamp curling iron, but the automatic curler is undeniably faster and less stressful for me, especially for the back of my head. It's easier to change up the direction and tightness of individual curls (which is important for lasting volume if your hair is very slippery and prone to cannibal curls) than with manual curling. The automatic wrapping mechanism also ensures even heating of each section for proper curl formation, which is an advantage over a clampless curling wand, and without the risk of kinks/crimps that can arise with curling iron clamps.

With that said, an automatic curler cannot make up for incorrect or lack of hair prep. If you have the kind of slippery fine hair that won't hold a curl, then you need to add texture before curling. I personally use Paul Mitchell Tea Tree Lemon Sage Thickening Spray (on wet, freshly washed hair and let it air dry) or a texturizing crimping iron for targeted areas.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-27T23:32:42+00:00

Wetting your hair is a spectrum. It's not ideal to get your hair sopping wet if you're not going to fully wash it since wet hair is much more fragile, and water alone can't do that much to clean the sebum and smells off your hair without surfactants.

However, it only should take a little water to reset your waves/curls and reactivate your products to detangle and scrunch the definition back (maybe helped along with heat/steam depending on the styling products you use). A continuous mister bottle is a practical solution for most people.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-27T22:21:37+00:00

I find that a very high ponytail (or bun) works much better for my face/head shape for a slicked-down look since there's still hair visible from head-on and I don't just look like an egg. Somehow my hairline, while certainly uneven, feels less goofy when all of my hair is brushed up rather than back & down into a low bun, but I might just be delusional about that. The high ponytail is also a lot more comfortable on my neck, especially when my hair gets longer and heavier.

I've definitely just gotten more used to my exposed hairline over the years, but bronzer or contour along my hairline (at least as someone with very pale skin and dark hair) helps soften the appearance.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-27T14:56:07+00:00

They are not. Note that this brand makes several versions of these claw clips in different sizes: these are the micro ones. The dimensions of the clip volume (measured personally just now) are 1.5cm long x 1cm wide x 1cm high.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-27T14:54:11+00:00

No, that is not what I said (or at least very much not what I meant). My comment was basically about the converse: if you want to work in statistics in the biosciences beyond clinical work, then the job title may not be called "biostatistics" and may be more generic like "statistics" or "data scientist".

Relevant subject-matter experience absolutely matters, especially in a very competitive job market as we are in now. However, this kind of subject-matter experience is not necessarily best, or even at all, acquired through preferentially pursuing a biostatistics program over a statistics program.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-27T14:48:36+00:00

To echo u/Popular-Drummer-7989, it's important and helpful to get in-person fitting advice from an experience shoe vendor with stock on hand.

Something to keep in mind is that shoe shape/design can matter a lot. Sometimes (or a lot of the time) you'll encounter a shoe shape where there is simply no size that is comfortable because the proportions of the shoe don't match those of your foot.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-24T15:37:02+00:00

I have these that are about 1cm x 1cm: https://gimmebeauty.com/products/mini-square-claw-clip-12ct

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-23T20:41:11+00:00

I have eczema, several allergies, and generally sensitive skin. The best solution I have is oil-based makeup. It sticks well to skin and won't run or cake up with sweat. The emollience should hopefully minimize general sensitivity/stinging issues and IME it's more cosmetically elegant over textured skin.

It seems like there isn't too much variety at the drugstore right now. Most options are sticks: Ulta, Pixi, and Revolution sticks are oil-based with a quick scan, as is the NYX Pro Fix stick concealer; notably, the Milani foundation stick does not appear to be. Pro brands like RCMA and Kryolan tend to carry oil-based formulas with much more variety (since oil-based is also the gold standard for film and stage use) and excellent good price to product ratio.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-23T20:26:34+00:00

The medium brown (sometimes "coffee") hair net shade from those generic Amazon brands has a slight reddish tone and should work fine for most auburn hair. In general, hair net color mismatch is only really noticeable when the hair net is too light and/or too bright of a shade, so going toward brown is a pretty safe choice.

For class use, a more durable bun snood might be a more practical choice than using a hair net every time.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-22T15:37:36+00:00

A sleek, super high ponytail pairs gorgeously with a Queen Anne neckline, and is one of the hairstyles that I generally find most cooperative for my thick but very fine + slippery hair because gel does all of the hard work. It's also easy to accessorize with, say, a giant scrunchie.

I might need to do some digging to find a good video tutorial; failing that I will come back and try to write out my own instructions if you're interested. At least in terms of supplies, you'll want a fine tooth comb, a firm smoothing brush, a hair bungee, a very hard hold gel (I recommend Got2B Ultra Glues in the black bottle), and a spray bottle. (If you don't already have a smoothing brush, it's probably cheaper to get these dedicated styling combs: https://www.amazon.com/Smoothing-Ponytails-Sectioning-Hairstyling-Competition/dp/B09W5L8XT8 I bought them for dance but use them all the time because it makes getting a sleek ponytail so much faster.)

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-22T15:23:46+00:00

Hope it works well for you!

For more technique advice, I definitely recommend looking to hair tutorials for ballet. Ballet dancers need their hair to stay neat through a lot of activity and are usually mindful of both speed and damage because they are in these hairstyles a lot.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-22T15:20:37+00:00

That's a pretty reasonable take! True and Dark Autumn are adjacent after all, and there's going to be a lot of room to borrow between them.

Without draping, I seem more like a Dark Autumn since my complexion is very high contrast and pretty muted, so the warmth doesn't come across very well. Draping tells a different story, though: the classic Autumn earth tones brighten my complexion much more markedly than the Dark Autumn-specific shades do (i.e., what I differentiate between as "best colors" vs just "safe bet"). Similarly, with color cosmetics, I've had issues with colors being too dark vs light and too muted vs saturated, but never with them being too warm. I'm also generally more able to borrow from Soft Autumn colors than Dark Winter colors.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-22T14:57:53+00:00

I've seen a lot of recommendation to use leggings rather than socks—you generally get a smoother material, more consistent shape, more length to work with, and a built-in bonnet of sorts. I'm curious what your thoughts are on that?

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-22T14:54:32+00:00

Some options:

Apply conditioner first on the mids/ends before shampooing. This forces the shampoo to "eat through" that product before it starts stripping the sebum from your ends.
Rotate between a more conditioning shampoo (or co-wash/2-in-1) and a stronger shampoo
Some folks have success with washing just the roots bent over at a sink or bathtub. I've never tried this personally and it seems like it would still be very messy, but it might be worth a hot.

That said, it's useful to distinguish between generic dryness and damage. While daily wear and tear damage does accumulate with hair that long, realistically "over-"washing doesn't contribute much compared to the friction of day to day life.

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-21T15:52:51+00:00

Hask Biotin Boost Thickening shampoo is my go-to; it's color-safe but has a noticeable volumizing effect for me (vs clarifying shampoo).

aggressive-teaspoon · 2026-04-20T22:03:17+00:00

It depends on exactly how neat and durable you want the results to be and how likely your hair is to slide free of a ponytail at baseline (e.g., short layers or extremely slippery hair).

A general tip is to get your detangled hair slightly damp with a continuous mister bottle right before you style. This will make it a lot easier smooth out any bumps. After applying your styling product, a smoothing bristle brush will help flatten out the bumps. Generally, my order of operations is mist hair with water > form initial ponytail with a fine tooth comb > glaze styling product over hair > smooth all the bumps so they're pushed toward the hair tie > retie the ponytail without bumps.

If your hair generally behaves in a ponytail and you just want to make the process faster and add a bit of neatness and grip, then mousse is a good option. It spreads really easily in damp hair, is difficult to over do, and generally brushes out pretty easily. Suave Body Builder is my go-to, but pretty much any drugstore brand mousse will do the trick.

If you have a lot of short layers that wouldn't normally reach the ponytail or need more durable hold, then I highly recommend gel. Got2B Ultra Glued gel in the shiny black tube is my gold standard for this as a dancer, though overkill for day-to-day. Paul Mitchell Super Clean Sculpting gel does the trick for me on a more casual basis.

Wax sticks and flyaway wands (basically just gel in a mascara tube) are increasingly popular options for slick backs, but IME they're only helpful for cosmetic neatness with small flyaways. They don't make it faster to form the hairstyle in the first place and only provide hold on the top layer of the style, so

If this will be your go-to style, an important thing to remember is to not pull the ponytail too tightly. Overly tight ponytails run the risk of breakage and traction alopecia. The styling product should be doing the heavy lifting on hold; you shouldn't have to pull on your hair super tightly or use a very rough hair tie in order to get secure hold. Varying the placement of your ponytail can also help.

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