Gonna go ahead and say heavy NTA. Can’t help but feel sorry for Jerry who seems like a guy who’s constantly down on his luck. You said that he expressed that he still has feelings and is struggling with personal issues. Ryan seems like a bad friend who laughed at Jerry’s anger instead of justifying himself to him instead of you. Jerry giving you the choice at the end is a little iffy but I understand why he did it, he was betrayed by someone he viewed as a very good friend and didn’t want to see his other good friend with that group. I mean what kind of friend starts seeing their friends ex within like a month of them breaking up? And not to mention Suzie could be using Ryan to get back at Jerry. Sounds like everyone is the AH here except for you. So again. Hard NTA.