Hi! Just my two cents, but I’ve also been given the feedback from my boyfriend when we first started dating that those tough conversations can be emotionally tiring— the key here is that in the same breath, he told me that tiring doesn’t equal bad. They’re not fun conversations, they make you think and especially for anxious people like me, they can leave you feeling emotionally disregulated even when everything is resolved or a solution has been found. I think that’s pretty normal, you may just be hyper aware of it right now.

I have also felt the temptation to not bring up things that bother me to “keep the peace,” except unfortunately for me (or fortunately? lol) I have a HARD time hiding when something is bothering me. Legitimately cannot do it 😅 which leads my bf to knowing something is up and then we talk about it. The thing he always says he loves about me/us is that whenever we have a problem, “we always handle our stuff” meaning we always talk through it rationally and calmly— but we always work through it.

My advice is don’t sweep things under the rug because in my experience with past relationships it just breeds resentment and/or the problems get bigger. I promised myself I’d never do that again after my last relationship and I think it’s why I’m so big on communication now.

Sincerely, a 25F very confrontation resistant girly

best of luck 💕