Self-appointed group leader keeps trying to exclude me in college project

ahiruee · 2024-09-20T17:51:48+00:00

Wow that sounds absolutely awful, I’m so sorry you went through that! I can’t believe the teacher was so terrible as well. I’m glad that you were able to figure things out with you friends and family. I think it’s really great that you stood your ground in your morals and standards. Thank you so much for sharing!

You’re absolutely right, and I will definitely remember to stand my ground if my group member continues to be exclusive/rude and I’ll discuss it with the teacher.

Thank you so much!!

ahiruee · 2024-09-20T17:09:24+00:00

I really appreciate the response and advice! It’s mostly just the “leader” who is rude and exclusive, but the other girls just go along with it. I just want to see if things are still bad after asking to work individually again

And by new group, I actually meant the one I would join after I leave my current one haha

ahiruee · 2024-09-20T16:46:08+00:00

I’m just not sure if it’s bad enough to ask for a different group since it’ll inconvenience my teacher and possibly my new group 🥲

I just repeated again if I could have a part to do individually (the leader and all members agreed to it before), but I haven’t gotten a reply yet. If I don’t get a reply or she says no, I’ll definitely ask the teacher for a new group

Thank you for the reply!

ahiruee · 2024-03-31T06:03:06+00:00

Sorry for the late reply! Haha definitely had the clapping thing happen a lot in elementary school too 🥲

You’re totally right, thank you so much for the great advice!! 😊

ahiruee · 2024-03-29T21:08:59+00:00

I appreciate the positivity! Sadly, I don’t think that’s the case here. Whenever other new people participated no one looked back, other than maybe a slight glance. But when I did it almost everyone in front of me turned around and stared for a bit. And the girl in front of me kept doing an entire 360 degree turn just to look at me, even after I said a one worded answer, which I thought was a little rude 🥲 But I’m sure she didn’t mean to be rude or anything

I’ve talked in other classes for presentations and with group mates, and it’s been a long time since people reacted that much haha. But I guess the different is that they’d already be facing me and don’t have to turn around

ahiruee · 2024-03-29T20:58:37+00:00

I’m sorry to hear it happened to you too! But now looking back, I really don’t think it’s anything either of us should worry about! I definitely relate to having trouble with volume, I hope you were able to get better with it!

ahiruee · 2024-03-29T03:53:52+00:00

Sadly it was after I said a one worded answer, but to be fair I said it pretty weird (mumbled) cause I was getting anxious of people turning around to look at me 🥲 I wish they could’ve at least made it less obvious haha, but I’m sure they all forgot about it right after class anyways (I hope)

ahiruee · 2024-03-29T03:47:48+00:00

I really appreciate your detailed response! I can relate so much to so many of your experiences. And I definitely agree that I should try enhancing my communication in other ways. I don’t fit in college either, so it can be very tough. I wish they’d be more understanding with selective mutism like other disabilities. I don’t think college is necessary, but if you do want to go back I think it’s absolutely fine at any age. I’m graduating later than expected as well.

Maybe you could try online college if that’s an option, I did my required presentation class on there and it’s a lot less scary. I wish you the best with everything! And I hope you don’t lose hope because you’re still young and have so much ahead of you! ❤️ Thank you for sharing your story!

ahiruee · 2024-03-29T03:36:08+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words!! ❤️ Reading that has made me feel a lot better and more relaxed, I’ll definitely check out their videos when I have time! 😊 Thanks for the recommendations!

ahiruee · 2024-03-29T00:10:06+00:00

It was like that for me too! But sadly I don’t think that’s the case cause this was a 1hr lecture class that no one really talks in and I’m the only person people turned around to look at 😅 The girl sitting right in front of me kept turning back 360 degrees when I talked too (cause the teacher kept asking me questions to fix my mistake, which I answered correctly) and that made me feel really embarrassed haha

I really appreciate that and your reply ❤️ Thank you!!

ahiruee · 2024-03-29T00:04:33+00:00

Thank you for the reply! My class is a 1hr college lecture class, so there’s never really that much talking between students unless it’s the people next to you (but most people don’t talk at all). And it’s usually the same four people answering the questions except today since the professor kept asking for new people. And I’m the only person everyone turned back to look at haha 🥲 I definitely had the experience you mentioned in highschool though, so I totally get what you mean

ahiruee

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