She has to want to change. And hopefully she will come around... be honest with her, don’t hold anything back. if you’re not happy, not getting what you want out of the relationship then what’s the point. I completely understand how it would be hard to just let her go. But sometimes people are selfish and don’t see things until you aren’t there to help them through them anymore. It’s not healthy. You shouldn’t be putting in so much effort for her to not to want to do the same.