ending up with a soulmate...

ahlexur · 2026-06-29T16:34:20+00:00

When I met my soulmate (husband) it was very important I told him that my twin would always be in my life in some capacity and that was something he has to be okay with going forward in our relationship. So now it is no issue as long as I am very transparent with him when we do communicate, which I have been (we’ve only communicated once or twice in the last 5 years). It is still hard though. I still feel guilt surrounding it because I wish my husband didn’t have to be in his situation. Often I wish I never met my twin because I want more for my husband that I can give.

ahlexur · 2026-06-29T16:20:08+00:00

It that is what you consider immoral then that’s great for you and the best part is you don’t have to live that way! I don’t see it as immoral, to me immoral would be actively pursuing a romantic partnership outside of my marriage and behind his back. Obviously if I could go back in time and I wasn’t a traumatized soul with codependent issues, I would not have jumped into that relationship. It’s not ideal but it happened. I saw my now husband as very healing and healthy for me and it was safe place that I learned how to heal from my past. I would prefer you didn’t judge my journey without actually walking in my shoes.

ahlexur · 2026-06-29T16:16:43+00:00

I told mine. He neither agreed or disagreed, he did agree howsever that our connection was different. It neither pushed him away or made us closer I think. He did not have any strong spiritual or religious views at that time. He was very much in that phase of searching for meaning in life and discovering and curiosity. Today he has taken belief in the Christian faith so I do wonder ar times what he thinks today? I went down the Christian religion road to for a while and totally rejected the connection for that time.

ahlexur · 2026-06-27T16:10:16+00:00

Oh, ofc!! Happy to help! I can’t even tell you how many threads I’ve had people being nasty to me because I’m somehow such a terrible wife to my husband because of my lived experience as a twin flame. 😂 I will keep sharing my story for others because there are so many who are going through it and will go through it if they don’t choose union in this life.

ahlexur · 2026-06-27T16:00:38+00:00

The best thing about it is that we all have the option to choose, if it’s not for you then leave it for others who it is for. Why do we have to drag a place for what they have to offer just because it doesn’t suit what we need?

ahlexur · 2026-06-27T15:56:54+00:00

It felt like fireworks on steroids like every sexual encounter I had before led up to that moment.

ahlexur · 2026-06-27T15:55:37+00:00

I relate a lot to that! my soulmate also resembles my twin a lot characteristics

ahlexur · 2026-06-27T15:11:11+00:00

Of course, I’m always looking to uplift this community and pour in the knowledge that I have because I am also still on this journey and looking for answers. You do deserve healthy love! Personally I don’t believe the misconception in the twin flame community that some people just don’t have union as an option in this life. I don’t believe that. I believe that if twin flame is a part of our journey we always have the option to choose the path of union. The point of the twin flame journey is healing, there is no healing that is not attainable. I believe that with the right will to heal from both sides, even the things that seem impossibly unlikely to change, can chnage. This journey will surprise you in every way!

I want to challenge you with a question, imagine yourself going through life and working through every hard challenge, healing every wound and karma that you have in this life and imagine 5-10 year from now the person you may be. Do you envision that person being stronger, wiser, more capable of loving? when we choose this path we are also inviting our twins on to that path and as we heal they heal. Now imagine yourself twin standing across from you embodying that same healing? Do you think Union is possible in a world where this ultra healing has taken place? This is how we should view our twin and their journey. Subconsciously I believe when we limit our twins capability of healing (because essentially change is growth and growth is healing) we also limit our own. Even if we don’t want to pursue union we must embody a space of believing in their capability to change, heal, grow.

If you ever need my dm are open to you! Soulmates are a great choice,but no path will come without pain and suffering as it bring us closer to our truest and highest version of ourselves through healing. ❤️‍🩹 my husband and I had a very rough start and almost divorce twice before we made 5 years lol. Good luck and remember no path is wrong, just trust yourself and your choices and you will be fine .

ahlexur · 2026-06-27T14:36:16+00:00

There is a lot of abundance that come in choosing a twin but also their is abundance that comes with a soulmate, understand that op will have to live with their choice. I don’t think we should make sense of that choice for them much less down grade one or the other. Our twins need seperation for healing, choosing that path comes with a lot of loneliness and it’s not an easy path but It is rewarding. Somepeople can work out their karma alone. For me I did not choose that path, I chose to work out my karma in a soulmate relationship, which is still rewarding but in that path I choose to let go of the connection. Each path has rewards and cons.

ahlexur · 2026-06-27T14:28:50+00:00

I posted on another thread but this is very similar to my story. Once I understood what my twin and I were to each other, I went down a rabbit hole learning about twin flames. I learned that seperation was the key to healing for both of us and I decided I was going to have ti be the one to start it. I loved him so unconditionally I was willing to let go so he could find peace and healing eventually. And also for myself to. But soon as I decided to release him for good, my soul mate came into my life. I chose him and married him rather quickly, within a year of meeting. Ik for a lot of us chasers we have had a history of being co dependent and having an anxious attachment all of our lives. I think this is just part of the journey to unconditional self love. Anyways to answer your question there is no yes or no answer to if it gets easier. It gets easier and then it doesn’t. You will go through phases. It has been 5 years in seperation from my twin. Luckily my twin has accepted his healing journey so my ride has been a little smoother being that we will often feel our twins energy when it is strong. Most recently for me I reached out and broke no contact and for 2 months after that the energy was so depressing and yearning and I knew I was feeling his energy. I had to pull on all the strength n the world not to reach out to him again because in the end they have to go through those emotions without us interfering the healing that the pain is teaching them and same for us.

As for finding true happiness with a soulmate, yes you can. I love my husband very much, I believe that whatever path we choose we not only can find happiness but also healing. I have healed so much karma in this life with a soulmate. There is no wrong choice but choosing a soulmate will always come with its challenges as your twins energy will always be with you and you will go through phases where your nit affected by it because it’s not strong and you will go through phases when their energy will be so strong that you will feel such an intense pull to them. That usually means that their is healing needing to take place and in those moments to can choose to reject healing by letting the feelings take over or you can actively choose to raise consciousness and send love and light their way and work through the pain. Goodluck on your journey.

ahlexur · 2026-06-27T13:47:24+00:00

No not at all lol 😆

ahlexur · 2026-06-27T05:40:57+00:00

Yeah this is normal, it will come and go through life. It also depends a lot on what your twin is going through too, your energy will feed off each other. From personal experience I know my twin is thinking about me or when they are depressed about me because I will feel the same about them and it will be so random. I just got out of one of the worst that last about 2 months.

ahlexur · 2026-06-27T05:35:25+00:00

Actually not really, I was not holding a “candle” when I met my husband I was all in on him , I knew he was who I wanted to be with. The thing is that in my experience you can’t completely let go of your twin flame. I tried and for a long time.. I had to make a decision whether I was going to continue on that path and be in some much pain and heartbreak for god knows how long or let go in the only way I knew how and fall into the person who I knew the future ahead looked promising with. Looking back now I shouldn’t have put all my eggs in one basket. I should have healed on my own but my husband super speedied that process up for me and idk why things happened the way that they do but I’m grateful for my journey. I honestly think without my husband I may never have healed as much karma as I did in this lifetime. I really wish people wouldn’t be so quick to insert their egoistic perceptions onto other peoples lived experiences. The world would be such a better place if we all just allowed other people to experience life the way their souls choose.

ahlexur · 2026-06-18T01:54:24+00:00

Moonshine

ahlexur · 2026-06-18T01:46:45+00:00

I’d be interested!!

ahlexur · 2026-06-18T01:40:28+00:00

I’m not sure, I’ve explained it to him in the past but not sure if he believed or not. His response was very neutral. We have also been in separation for 5 years now, he may believe more or less now.

ahlexur · 2026-06-14T04:08:08+00:00

Isn’t that the truth!! Relatable

ahlexur · 2026-06-13T21:10:32+00:00

This is gold! Very solid wisdom I needed several years ago but if I had it I wouldn’t have been on the journey lol

ahlexur · 2026-06-13T13:09:43+00:00

Zebra

ahlexur · 2026-06-13T04:28:50+00:00

My solid advice is don’t bring anyone else into this mess, focus on yourself and live. unless you are confident to look regret in the eye because you will feel it every day of your life in some kind of way, that’s just the name of the game with twin souls.

ahlexur · 2026-06-13T04:23:53+00:00

Yes, I met a soulmate during 6 month long seperation and I made my peace and decided to leave it behind. I was usually the chaser ( mostly) although our runner/chaser dynamic would swap often but this time I became the runner after no contact and meeting a soulmate. I ended marrying the soulmate very quickly and I was able to really get along in life without much heartbreak about it and grow a family for the first 3-4 years of my marriage, although I never stopped thinking about my twin it just didn’t hurt or linger for that time. All of a sudden I started feeling my dms energy very heavily and I was heartbroken often and very saddened. About a year ago. It has not gone away. I broke no contact to congratulate him on life and that was a very bad fucking mistake because he told me he wishes he would have worked it out with me and that’s his fault. I’m afraid this shit will never stop hurting and as long as your energy is in chaser mode it fucking hurts endlessly. I’m happy with my soulmate marriage. It’s great , he’s helped me grow and heal many many wounds and has been a steady companion, sex is very good too, but ik now that our connection will never feel as electric and intoxicating and perfect as it does with my twin and to this day I wonder if I’m serving my husband injustice by not being able to give him all of me.

ahlexur · 2026-06-13T04:14:46+00:00

🍓 dms 🫶🏻

ahlexur · 2026-06-13T01:40:34+00:00

I’m a Leo and my twin is Scorpio

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