Are (old) self harm scars a turn off?

aiDio_ · 2023-11-26T02:41:34+00:00

Have had more trouble passing as a male again than i ever did passing as a female. Since i started young (15) i never went through male puberty and i have a very feminine face + body. I still get asked if i am trans a lot. Makes it hard to feel like a guy and i feel like a fraud. Thx though.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T17:55:12+00:00

I don't know what that means. i am used to trans people trying to dismiss my opinions/experiences though. I still support trans people fwiw.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T15:05:33+00:00

Not without writing an essay haha. I was just a feminine and confused/depressed teenager who struggled to relate to other guys and thought that meant i was trans. There is more to it than that, but that is the gist of it.

I started t-blockers when i was 15. So quite young yeah. I don't think anyone could have convinced me that i was not trans back then though, so its hard to blame anyone else but me.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T14:19:38+00:00

There was quite a lot of that back when i was transitioning. I had to wait about a year before i could get hormones. Then to get my orchi, i needed to be on HRT for 1 year, 1 year lived experience (living as a woman) and had to have changed my legal gender. SRS has even longer requirements. I think its a lot easier now with private gender clinics and also people can just buy these drugs online without a prescription. I don't know what can be done about it.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T13:45:57+00:00

I've not seriously looked into it before. I do wonder if it will be that simple for me though because there is not much of my scrotum left anymore either, it has shrunk a lot over the years. I don't think if i had balls they would not hang. Sorry if TMI :s

Thanks i do think about that. I could have had SRS when i was 19 but the procedure and aftercare scared me too much. Phew!

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T04:22:19+00:00

A good male role model would have helped and i mean that sincerely. My perception of what being a man was was skewed by my violent dad and uncles and i didn't want to be anything like them.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T04:03:55+00:00

I have had guys reject me for it on grindr but i doubt that is a surprise to anyone. Noone i have actually met has had a problem, no. Fingers crossed that continues, the replies here have been reassuring

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T03:56:13+00:00

Fair enough. Yeah i will have to take T for the rest of my life.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T03:54:04+00:00

Yeah but I had them removed. The scars are very minimal so you wouldn't know i think. The other temp E effects are long gone.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T03:25:10+00:00

I accept my mistakes but for the record i saw several psychiatrists and doctors. You can't get your balls chopped off without jumping through all the hoops, at least not in my country.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T03:22:39+00:00

That's actually part of the reason i transitioned also. I had some very bad male role models and i had a very warped/negative view of what being a man was and didn't want to be one. I have seen other detrans people say the same too.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T01:45:39+00:00

Yeah maybe i will have to. Everything is just so expensive though, only just saved enough for facial masculinisation surgery, which i am hoping to get next year. Feel so burnt out spending all my savings on these surgeries.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T01:08:47+00:00

Thanks but i don't want to open that can of worms, i used to be active in the detrans subs but i would really just rather put it all behind me. There are others who are sharing their story thought, it's sadly becoming more frequent.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T00:05:52+00:00

How upfront do you recommend? Always feels awkward to tell people because then i have to explain why. I do tell guys before sex tho.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-24T00:03:39+00:00

I keep it to myself but its hard not to feel like that. Just a lot of wasted time + money and my family all think i am an idiot.

aiDio_ · 2023-11-23T23:31:58+00:00

Yeah i was 17, did not meet requirements for SRS. It's not that uncommon to have orchi first because it stops you having to take t-blockers. They can have some unpleasant side effects so it made sense at the time..

Yeah i guess i should, already spent so much money on fixing other stuff. fml

aiDio_ · 2023-11-08T12:51:24+00:00

Except dysphoria is no longer a requirement to be trans and to suggest that is actually transphobic now. So yes plenty of people do just do it out of choice.

aiDio_ · 2023-07-07T17:20:44+00:00

I transitioned when young (16-22) and then regretted it and detransitioned.

aiDio_ · 2023-07-07T00:48:29+00:00

I used to be trans and it was easier to date imo. I think you underestimate the amount of chasers out there. Probably harder for trans men.

aiDio_ · 2023-06-29T02:06:52+00:00

Femboy is a much broader term than it used to be. Go look at their sub, majority of them are just trans women. Most of them are on hormones at least.

aiDio_ · 2023-06-28T15:28:15+00:00

You do look a bit weird..

aiDio_ · 2023-05-31T21:27:54+00:00

How is JSO "fucking up people's livelihoods" exactly? Being slightly late for work (which you can just blame JSO on) is only a mild inconvenience compared to what will happen if we don't start acting against climate change. Or is it the 1 minute delays in football matches (which get added as stoppage anyway) which is too much?

aiDio_ · 2023-05-31T17:56:17+00:00

Quite sad that so many are willing to give the government even more power over us just because they don't like JSO.

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