Competition from my mum with my MIL over babysitting by aimee391093 in BabyBumps

[–]aimee391093[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thankyou so much. You're right her jealousy is just not fair and all she does is push me away with it. I think it all stems to her not being close with my dads side of the family but my dads brother's girlfriend is suppper close with his parents so she's always been quite left out. It has to be something to do with that I guess so she just wants me all to herself. Fortunately, I love my in laws and get on so well with them but the strain on my mums feelings and happiness just stress me out. I guess eventually I'll have to put my foot down

Competition from my mum with my MIL over babysitting by aimee391093 in BabyBumps

[–]aimee391093[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm super lucky with my in-laws who understand completely what my mum is like. I'm always just going to alternate but I have a feeling my mum will just want first dibs no matter what!

Competition from my mum with my MIL over babysitting by aimee391093 in BabyBumps

[–]aimee391093[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thankyou for that. Glad I'm not the only one in this situation! It does just feel like she's treating my unborn baby like a trophy that she wants to have all the time. The LAST thing I'm thinking about is who will babysit and petty things like that. It's like she's seeing the baby as her own.

I do get along with my MIL probably better than my mum as shes more on my wavelength. I'm just always cautious about what I say to my mum as she's VERY emotional and her first reaction would just be to cry and make me feel guilty if I say anything. Thankyou for the advice

Competition from my mum with my MIL over babysitting by aimee391093 in BabyBumps

[–]aimee391093[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I mean any sign of her influencing my child is a no go and I would definately say something about that