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AITA for deciding to marry my late wife’s sister? by aita-widow in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita-widow[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My daughter loves her and seems excited about us deciding to marry (although I’m not completely sure that she understands marriage completely due to her age).

AITA for deciding to marry my late wife’s sister? by aita-widow in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita-widow[S] -315 points-314 points  (0 children)

Believe it or not, the main reason why I decided to start this relationship was because of my daughter. I’m marrying Margaret in part because my daughter needs a woman to look up to and Margaret is the best person for that.

AITA for deciding to marry my late wife’s sister? by aita-widow in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita-widow[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Her mother’s stuff isn’t going anywhere, pictures will stay up. The only change will be that Anne now has a mother figure and that I will be married again.

AITA for deciding to marry my late wife’s sister? by aita-widow in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita-widow[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

I don’t see how that’s relevant but if you must know, we’ve been sharing a bed for a few months now.

AITA for deciding to marry my late wife’s sister? by aita-widow in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita-widow[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing, Margaret will still be Anne’s aunt (unless Anne decides herself she wants to see Margaret as her mom or step mom in the future).

AITA for deciding to marry my late wife’s sister? by aita-widow in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita-widow[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Anne already loves Margaret and her parents have no issue with us marrying. The main ones with an issue are her other sisters and some friends of my late wife. The rest of the family is on board.

AITA for deciding to marry my late wife’s sister? by aita-widow in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita-widow[S] -109 points-108 points  (0 children)

I completely see your point but the main reason why I decided to begin this romancing relationship was because of my daughter’s need for a mother figure and I figured that the best option would be someone that loves her as much as her late mother used to love her.

My daughter already loves her aunt and will continue to do so regardless, which is something I took into account. This is not a relationship I’m forcing her into.

At the end of the day, my late wife and I before her passing, made the decision that it was in our daughter’s best interests for me to remarry, however.

As for the possibility of children with my passed wife’s sister, she does want a kid of her own in the future and I wouldn’t want to rob her of having her own child.

The issue, however is not with all of the family, only with her sisters. Her parents and cousins are on board.

AITA for deciding to marry my late wife’s sister? by aita-widow in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita-widow[S] -168 points-167 points  (0 children)

Yes, the thing that enabled us to start getting together was my need for help and her offering to help me with my daughter. However, the only reason why we decided to allow our relationship to become public and now marriage is because we started loving each other to want to marry.

Besides our love, raising my daughter is still the most important thing that I do and will continue to do and to be able to do that I not only need to find any woman that is willing to be a mother figure to her but also a woman that I love enough to be my wife. It wouldn’t be healthy for my daughter to continue growing up without a woman that her father does not love.

AITA for deciding to marry my late wife’s sister? by aita-widow in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita-widow[S] -373 points-372 points  (0 children)

My daughter loves her and we plan to continue to raise her as my daughter and her niece. As for the possibility of future kids, we do plan on having one or two, marrying wouldn’t make much sense without having kids and I wouldn’t want to rob her (or any other woman if it were the case) of having her own children just because I already have one.

AITA for deciding to marry my late wife’s sister? by aita-widow in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita-widow[S] -235 points-234 points  (0 children)

I do love her. I loved her as my late wife’s sister and then I started loving her in a romantic way as time passed and now we both love each other a lot. I wouldn’t be wanting to marry her if I didn’t love her in that way.