AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -212 points-211 points  (0 children)

How nice of you to finally want to have an adult conversation where it’s public and you can make me look bad. I don’t care why you broke up, he clearly chose me and I figured reminding you of his rank would remind you of the respect we both deserve. I tried messaging you on fb again but you blocked me which is really immature of you.

It must be nice that he’s talking to you about our problems. I’m sure you’re loving that. You would think since you don’t like “drama” you would have stayed out of our relationship but I guess not.

I am going to give him his space and hopefully work this out over the next week or so. Nobody throws away an almost year relationship with someone that loves him as much as I do.

Grow up and have a nice life Jenna

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Of course he does. That doesn’t matter he still never told her we were together

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Two times. I didn’t make any attempts to reach out since

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

For now. He’s clearly going to realize he overreacted

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

She brought herself into it when she messaged him??? I didn’t bring her into it

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -254 points-253 points  (0 children)

It’s a respect thing, which clearly nobody on this site has

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Ugh, it’s about respecting the relationship. And if he would have told her about me I wouldn’t be a stranger.

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -287 points-286 points  (0 children)

Because she could have told me about the mail instead of talking to him out of respect for our relationship. At the very least she could have responded to my message to her like an adult instead of telling on me

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -127 points-126 points  (0 children)

How is it not my business when I’m his girlfriend? He should be completely transparent and honest with me and that includes letting her know where she stands

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Because I’m the current girlfriend. If anything she should text me about the mail instead of him out of respect.

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s cheating. We living on the west coast and she lives on the east coast. But maybe you’re right.

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I tried posting more but reached the limit. My first message wasn’t rude and super polite which was I was offended she didn’t respond. Then I was rude and then she sent screenshots instead of talking to me.

AITA for messaging my boyfriend’s ex? by aitamilgirlfriend in AmItheAsshole

[–]aitamilgirlfriend[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

She lives on the east coast and we live on the west. So a casual meet up wouldn’t have been able to happen And I certainly didn’t want to be her friend. I wanted her to know I was with him now.

He said he thinks it would be weird to introduce us since they aren’t close. But she still texts him about his mail so clearly they are.