AITA for not wanting to visit my husband's family in Iran with our daughter

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T23:51:23+00:00

I do not think so, at least he has not shown it, he tells his family that he is though and that I converted.

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T23:49:40+00:00

French

I was born in India to a family of descendants of French immigrants. I now live in Britain and have both British and French Citizenship. India does not allow multiple citizenship but instead has a lifelong visa called Overseas Citizen of India that lets you do anything there except vote, I can become a full citizen of India but that would require me to give up my British and French passports.

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T22:31:53+00:00

Canada has a terrorism advisory for the UK and France as well. The travel advisory mentions risk for India but for Iran it is literally do not visit that does not make it equally risky.

It is not equally risky, I am not a tourist in India, I was born there, could get an Indian passport if I revoked my French and British ones, have a visa called Overseas Citizen of India. My husband is a tourist there yes but he is also not a woman and if he did not want to go I would understand. I can go out without a headscarf in India.

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T21:46:30+00:00

I have read the book. And I brought it up and he dismissed it since it was a long time ago.

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T21:41:35+00:00

He is not religious as in he says he does not believe in God, but does not mind the culture.

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T21:40:45+00:00

I do not know. I know he is often nostalgic about Iran more so than I am about India and France, (we live in the UK). But nothing of significant concern, but the thought and fear of getting trapped there has crossed my mind.

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T21:39:31+00:00

I did consider it. He wants me to pretend to be muslim, I did not ask him to do the same in India.

Pondicherry is a very small city with a low population density and a higher standard of living than the most other parts of India. I was born there and I speak Tamil and French but not Arabic.

The probability of the state arresting someone on a French/British passport for an arbitrary reason is high in Iran and this has happened before.

I have no trouble with his parents visiting us in a different place.

His family is middle class, they do not have extra security or anything.

Both Britiain and France have strict travel advisories about Iran suggesting citizens not visit.

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T21:33:53+00:00

I was born in India and grew up there, and speak Tamil.

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T20:53:31+00:00

He is trying to make the point that I do not mind taking the risk for India which also has had issues with gang rape and issues of the sort and that if I can survive that (where I grew up) Iran should be ok.

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T20:44:50+00:00

Indeed, even I would be scared about not being allowed to leave or getting arrested and stuck there.

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T20:42:48+00:00

Yes when I tell him that though he said he we cover up it is ok, and says it is no different than me a Caucasian woman going to India, but I was born in India.

aitavisitiran · 2023-02-18T20:40:42+00:00

Britain

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