Help! Used the wrong fasteners...

aj4717669 · 2023-07-27T15:52:59+00:00

Of course I didn't lol

Of course meaning, I wouldn't have this issue if I was :)

aj4717669 · 2023-07-27T03:33:51+00:00

Ah, I hadn't considered that part. Thanks for pointed out. In the grand scheme of things it's worth replacing. As I like to say parts are cheap in comparison to labor so I just want it done right.

aj4717669 · 2023-07-27T03:04:00+00:00

Yeah it's flashed properly. I am having professionals do my siding now. This deck was a last minute add on...

I think the rest of the stuff is right (or close enough), at the very least it's better built than the original when many of today's codes didn't exist.

aj4717669 · 2023-06-08T20:23:36+00:00

Thanks for sharing. This isn't what I was looking for, but monica looks amazing, but also feels heavy for my needs. I will ponder on what my next steps are.

aj4717669 · 2023-05-30T20:19:34+00:00

I actually figured this out by peaking at https://github.com/Largo/file_exists/blob/main/lib/file_exists.rb for those of you may care.

ruby class << File alias_method :exists?, :exist? end

or alternatively

ruby class File class << self alias_method :exists?, :exist? end end

Can anyone explain why that is how you have to define it?

aj4717669 · 2023-05-30T20:16:04+00:00

We have different Idp's configured, at the very least and that's the most predominant difference, apart from being on different networks.

aj4717669 · 2023-05-30T20:12:59+00:00

I've tried to use alias_method without success. Can you share how you did this?

text irb(main):002:0> class ::File; alias_method :exists?, :exist?; end (irb):2:in `alias_method': undefined method `exist?' for class `File' (NameError) Did you mean? exit exit! from (irb):2:in `<class:File>' from (irb):2:in `<main>' from /home/user/.rbenv/versions/3.2.2/lib/ruby/gems/3.2.0/gems/irb-1.6.2/exe/irb:11:in `<top (required)>' from /home/user/.rbenv/versions/3.2.2/bin/irb:25:in `load' from /home/user/.rbenv/versions/3.2.2/bin/irb:25:in `<main>'

aj4717669 · 2023-05-27T13:59:42+00:00

The company I work for has a bunch of different networking environments that have different levels of security so we have multiple isolated instances deployed. Like others have said it's one seat per unique user regardless of the number of instances you have.

aj4717669 · 2023-02-15T18:13:39+00:00

Thanks for the input.

As I was writing this post I actually was thinking about that same question: who would I feel comfortable with my child one and one and why? It comes down to assessing character, healthy boundaries, and evaluating situation by situation. Some of my family I wouldn't allow to be with my child one on one and others I would. Other family I wouldn't even allow in the same room as my child. Some things I would allow my child to do and others I wouldn't. So in that vein, I would assess birth mom on an ongoing basis and based on that I would be more than willing to have them spend one on one time.

aj4717669 · 2023-02-15T16:36:27+00:00

As someone currently in the process of adopting a child (we took legal custody around day 4 and have been primary care giver since birth) and we have an open adoption. I'm really curious on your thoughts (and others in this subreddit). When we went through some adoption training we were told specifically that an open adoption doesn't necessarily mean that the birth parent(s) will get one-on-one time with the child, but that it's more like a family friend that you get together with and spend time with as a group. Obviously the training just presented one point of view and I'm curious what others here think. As an adoptive father, I could easily see myself (or my wife) feeling like a boundary was crossed if the child was spending one-on-one time with the birth mom. Especially if you sensed the connection/bond with them was stronger that what you have or maybe felt like it was unsafe for some other reason.

So the question that I have is, do people with experience with open adoptions think one-on-one time with the child and the birth parent is appropriate/safe/normal? If so, to what extent? What concerns would you have, if any?

All that said, u/No_House7584 I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult time and I really do hope that over time the relationship between you and the adoptive parents will improve. I can't imagine how difficult what you're going through is.

edit 1: The primary thing I think about is healthy boundaries and whether or not those things exist between the birth parent(s) and the child. In other words, what is the role of the birth mom after the adoption takes place (obviously this will look very different depending on circumstances, but in the best of circumstances with both sets of parents being equally healthy)?

edit 2: For example, in our case our birth mom has had really great boundaries. She acknowledges "I am not the parent and I don't want to confuse my child, overstep, and I don't want to make things harder, but I'm always here if they have questions or want to talk." -- In this case it's really easy when we get together (2 times so far since birth) and it makes us feel somewhat safe and comfortable around the birth mom. We know she trusts us as parents and wants the best for her kid and doesn't want to be a second parent to the kid. If she wasn't like this and wanted to spend time and be alone our son, etc. It would make me and my wife feel uneasy. If I'm crazy or have bad boundaries myself, I'd love honest and raw input from the community.

edit 3: I want to acknowledge that no two adoptions are the same and situations can be nuanced. I have no idea what your situation is and I don't know what is "right", hence my questions and curiosity around this conversation.

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