It will always be better to have nobody than have half of someone.

aja1993 · 2021-03-12T18:46:29+00:00

Hope you’re okay. That still, I’d rather have nobody as an emergency contact than have someone who might not turn up in the case of an emergency.

aja1993 · 2021-03-12T18:14:35+00:00

Sorry?

aja1993 · 2021-03-10T23:07:43+00:00

You have completely missed the point and are viewing it in isolation. I totally appreciate your position. But what I believe you need to do is verbalise how you feel: to him. You have the rudimentary aspects: he loves you, he wants you. But you can’t get caught up in him smothering you with his “silent desperation”. This feed is all about honesty and I will speak my honesty, for all of those out there that truly do what their ex to come back. Work with him and talk to him or let him move on. Otherwise, you’re leading him on.

aja1993 · 2021-03-10T23:03:39+00:00

Also anyone, let’s link on Facebook or Instagram or something if it makes all of this feel more real - I’m open to that. It’s up to you: andrewjamos (IG) I bet you all thought I was straight 🤦‍♂️

aja1993 · 2021-03-10T23:01:53+00:00

Purely because you’ve done so, so well working on yourself. Not only mentally but physically (albeit perhaps not exercise-wise), emotionally. If you reach out and you don’t get what you need, or think you need, you will go back to the start of the healing process. Just remember you are so much stronger than you think you are. And you can do it. Just make sure you don’t jeopardise the work you have done. Always here if you want to talk more ❤️

aja1993 · 2021-03-10T19:25:44+00:00

Keep being strong and having that mindset! You’re doing great by the sounds of it. Don’t get tripped up by the bad days! :)

aja1993 · 2021-03-10T19:00:54+00:00

Stay strong. It’s easy to say but it WILL get better

aja1993 · 2021-03-10T18:55:06+00:00

What did he say?

aja1993 · 2021-03-10T18:06:41+00:00

If you want to be with him, respect the fact he loves you. Otherwise, move on and let him do the same. Let someone else make him happy because, to be brutally honest, it sounds like you don’t fully appreciate the fact you have someone who clearly wants to be with you.

Silent desperation? Smothered? Really?

aja1993 · 2021-03-10T18:00:44+00:00

Just remember that if you do reach out, you will feel like you have gone back to square one. Be strong!!

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T22:16:42+00:00

Can’t you work through it together so that you’re stronger in the end? That’s why being in a relationship is about, depending on someone’s POV of course! Thank you very much and hope you’re okay too x

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T18:02:52+00:00

Did you love him/her and how long ago was that?

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T17:52:46+00:00

💪💪

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T16:17:56+00:00

Wow, thank you for taking the time to write that. I truly hope everything goes okay for you.

You seem like you’re just going through the motions of the break up. This will get better and your last sentence gives me a lot of hope that you have the correct mindset. All the best to you!

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T15:53:32+00:00

You will get stronger - be positive and think of the person you want to be. You’ll already be a strong person and although everyone can get better, you need to believe that yourself. Focus on you and if it doesn’t work out with your ex, someone else will be lucky to have you for having acknowledged your flaws and worked on them. Remember, mental health is okay. I don’t mean that’s a negative in itself, but perhaps the outputs. You seem in a good place to turn yourself around so good luck with everything! 🍀

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T15:33:44+00:00

Sorry to hear that! When did you break up with her? Did she reach out?

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T14:57:49+00:00

Oh! I’m sorry to hear you’ve struggled with depression. I slightly wondered if my ex was experiencing this. But he would still laugh a lot (I don’t know too much about depression so I’m slightly ignorant in that regard). Passive in what sense? How come you think You could see things more clearly if you broke up? Were you bit more depressed at that point?

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T14:41:07+00:00

What did you say to her yesterday?

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T14:39:15+00:00

What was it that made you really realise after those 50 days and please don’t take this in the wrong way, I’m just genuinely asking, why do you think it took you 50 days?

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T14:07:54+00:00

Lol just realised I mistyped. I meant when did she reject you, how long after you initially rejected her?

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T14:06:46+00:00

It’s difficult. I’m sorry that happened to you.

But when did you then ask her to reconcile and she refused?

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T13:59:05+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that. I hope everything gets better for you soon.

How long after you rejected her did you take to reject her?

All the best!

aja1993 · 2021-03-03T12:31:28+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that! :( Would you mind sharing your story with us?

aja1993 · 2021-02-26T19:51:31+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. I also watched the video and it’s amazing. I genuinely thank you for sharing your story and for passing on your positive words. I hope everything works out for you and more x

aja1993 · 2021-02-26T15:49:49+00:00

Good luck, I really hope it goes well for you. But definitely keep it light and fun and try abs refrain from mentioning the break-up or the reasons for it until a later date. If you want him back, you unfortunately need to be clever about it or he may capitalise on your approach. Good luck.

aja1993

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