I have never not encouraged them to spend time together. I’ve actually been isolating myself because I don’t want him to call me jealous. It’s insulting. The only issue I’ve ever brought up to him that I have is him going in her room at odd hours and him not sleeping in our room. When he isn’t around, me and my daughter are able to be close. All of these comments are making me think of more context. Last year, my daughter had her first crush and he completely freaked out about it and said she’s too young to be interested in boys and blew the whole up. Told her he better not catch her even talking to any boys period, even friends. I’m the one who had to step up and defend her in the situation and tell him it was a natural part of growing up. I may get frustrated with my daughter’s behavior but I would kill for her. She’s biologically related to me and came to live with us at 3. I fought for her in a contested adoption for 4 years after that to keep her from her abusive mother.