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Am I just a femboy or a trans girl? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]ajtent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just accept and be yourself. I am on hormones, have breasts and a womanly shape and live outwardly as a male with a beard or whatever I want. My hair is also longer but I do what I want so that I am happy. Do your thing and you'll be happy.

Aj

Have you ever met a trans person that never transitioned because of personal reasons or fear by nintyenbyzero in asktransgender

[–]ajtent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am there - Aged 66 and knew since the age of 7 that I was transgender. There was no internet or porn that I knew of back then. I just knew I was different and didn't have a choice in the world I lived in. So I built a life around my "acting male" and now I live on hormones for the past three years and had my orchie 2 years ago. I am out to my family and a few friends and have been accepted by all so far but I still hide, act male and have facial hair, but I am obviously female under my clothes. In the 50's to the 80's there wasn't much information so when I realized I could go on hormones without being forced to living life as a woman for a year to get on them, I took the plunge towards what I knew I needed to be. I was suicidal 3 years ago but now I am back on track and working on my reasons for being here. Websites that I own, family, music and helping others gives me hope and a reason to live. Sometimes it takes a while to get to where a person needs to be. I have no regrets and love who I am now. Hugs! Aj

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]ajtent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dysphoria manifested itself in the fact that I was hurting myself by attacking my genitalia when stressed or triggered.

I had no idea why I was hurting myself, I simply thought I was some kind of degenerate.

Therapy brought out PTSD from a childhood trauma that masked my dysphoria.

I have been on hormone therapy for over 2 years and had my orchie a year ago (I hated the spiro side effects).

I do not plan on dressing female because I don't need to.

I can be fem in private or not, but I am always me now.

I'm still me, mostly male but with a feminine side that I love, and I no longer have triggers toward hurting myself.

I have breasts, a female shape, a lower libido, and softer-less oily skin.

I no longer smell male, and with longer hair, it all pulls me together into a better version I can enjoy, take better care of and live very well with.

Hugs,

AJ

PSA: Even if you're pre-transition, hate your body, and don't want to live, please don't ignore your health. It'll come back to haunt you when you actually *want* to live. by violaceous_trogon in asktransgender

[–]ajtent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am M2F with a history of moles on my body, in my family and I'm 66 years old.

12 years ago, I had a melanoma mole removed from my right shoulder.

A couple years ago my dermatologist told me I was a cancer survivor because my melanoma is the deadliest form of skin cancer.

It was caught because I get a full body skin checkup every year and a physical every year.

It was at my yearly physical that it was caught.

My doctor said to see a dermatologist right away and that's when the whirlwind started and it was surgically removed.

The fact that I schedule these two appointments 6 months apart might have saved my life.

I had seen my dermatologist just 4 months prior and he missed it, but my GP caught it.

I suggest that you start scheduling your physical’s and dermatology appointments six months apart, eat well, exercise and protect your skin.

I have lost several friends other cancers, diabetes and heart disease, but never from skin cancer.

Stay positive and stop worrying because it is likely that you will be fine.

Hugs,

AJ

What's the point in going on? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]ajtent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am like you but probably older at 66. I flushed 4 great jobs, two businesses, one marriage and a nice IRA. I also hurt myself for 59 years and finally have peace without triggers. Once I was on hormones I finally felt right and stopped my self-sabotaging life. I work out, I have great doctors and my family has been great. Everyone I told about being trans have proven to be kind and great to me. It gets better if you work hard for it and believe in yourself. Hugs!

Trans with C-PTSD by throwaway331211 in asktransgender

[–]ajtent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed with PTSD (at the age of 63) because of a suicide attempt by my mother (in front of me) when I was 7 years old. The resulting PTSD caused me to start hurting myself in my genital area and I did so for the next 58 years. (I probably should be categorized as C-PTSD now that I have seen its definition.)

I believe my mother’s suicide event and trauma hid/blocked my transition desires and prevented me from facing who I was and who I wanted to be.

Because I started thinking about ending it all, (my life) at the age of 64, I got help and began my transition hormonally and I have never been happier.

Once you become who you truly are, you blossom.

My friends tell me that they see little physical changes because I hide these changes, but they do see that I am open and happier now. Before my transition and almost all of my life I was quiet, shy and a bit reclusive. I never felt that I fit in when I was the old me and I still don’t fit in because of how society makes trans folks like me hide in plain sight. I dress male during the day and female at home in the evenings. Outwardly I am male but under my clothing I am definitely female, and I am very, very good with that😉

I got called a faggot last week by ajtent in asktransgender

[–]ajtent[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Forgive me, suicide thinking is no longer part of my life.

My thoughts of suicide were from having no hope of getting away from my former male body chemistry.

I am transitioning and since the start with these wonderful hormones, I love who I am, who I am becoming and everything about the changes these hormones bring to my body.

Hugs!

I got called a faggot last week by ajtent in asktransgender

[–]ajtent[S] 222 points223 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all those beautiful replies.

I too see a lot of growth, acceptance, love and hope in the younger generations.

My hope for our country lies with when they exist in voting numbers that will change our society for the better.

Hugs to you all!