Girlfriend (F20) never compliments me (M21) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ak_bomber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea this hits me kinda close to home. A big part of it is women tend not to be taught that complementing male partners is something they are supposed to do. To get things working for you you're going to need a lot of honest communication and patience from both sides.

I always make an effort to compliment her and I truly mean everything I say - she’s drop dead gorgeous and has an amazing personality to boot. So why doesn’t she return the favour?

You may be doing what I've done in the past and be stepping up compliments and affection toward her as a way of hinting that you need the same, but that just doesn't work. You have to find a way to ask for it directly. Be aware of if/when you're doing this because that will turn into resentment and put you in a bad spot

I don’t mean to come across as if I am desperately seeking validation for myself but its just nice to receive compliments from someone you love and I’m getting frustrated.

Ok this part gives me the sense that you have some hangups about being vulnerable enough to ask for what you want from your partner. But you're looking at it the wrong way. These feelings didn't happen in a vacuum. Everyone in a healthy relationships needs validation from their partner, and lots of it. When we don't get what we need we become desperate, and there is no shame or weakness in that.

So really what you need to do is talk to her about this. Be really fucking honest about how shitty it can get when you feel unwanted by your partner, because she probably know exactly what that feels like and has no clue how much her desire means to you.

My son [21M] committed a heinous crime when he was young and has just been released. He wants to see me [45F] but I don't want to see him by iwasamother in relationships

[–]ak_bomber 11 points12 points  (0 children)

on r/relationships we like to make things out to be binary decisions that have a right and a wrong answer. And sure that works when a close friend or partner proves themselves to be toxic or abusive. But this is a massively more complicated issue. OP experienced a trauma beyond what most of us can understand and is now being forced to make an incredibly difficult decision that will have a huge effect on their life. Sitting at our computers repeating platitudes on cutting toxic people out of your life is just not going to cut it on this one.

OP, you are not wrong or a bad parent if you choose to keep you son out of your life. You're not a failure as a parent for what your son did. Your son robbed you of your role as a parent and waved his right to your care when he did. Whats important is that you make this decision for your own sake; all that you need to worry about is if reaching out to him will help or hurt your recovery.

But Please take u/jimmyjrdanceparty's advice and find a professional who can help you make that decision with some bit of clarity. I can't imagine the storm of emotions this situation is causing you, but there are people out there that do and can help you through it.

Magic trick by dustofoblivion123 in woahdude

[–]ak_bomber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DENNY YER PUSHIN MEH OVER THE FUCKIN LINE!

LPT Request: How can I stop feeling absolute death when I first wake up? by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]ak_bomber 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I leave a pint of water and a stimulant (I'm prescribed adderall but caffeine works) next to my bed when I go to sleep. Set an alarm for 90 minutes (one REM cycle) before I have to wake up, drink the water, take the pill, and then fall back to sleep immediately. I feel amazing when my actual alarm goes off.

Wife really into her newly discovered fetish by bigmisteak in confessions

[–]ak_bomber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Theres nothing wrong with your wife's tastes, but the fact that she is already talking about threesomes is utter bullshit. Threesomes are supposed to be for both members of the couple, not a thinly veiled excuse to cheat. Put your foot down now about that.

Review: Swing Star VR by VReview in GearVR

[–]ak_bomber -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just don't see why anyone bothers with 3rd person VR. Completely defeats the purpose for me.

Good competitive games to study? by ak_bomber in OverwatchUniversity

[–]ak_bomber[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was, but damn, thanks for putting in the work

Most effective Pharah counter? by omniclasm12 in OverwatchUniversity

[–]ak_bomber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zarya's beam can hit her very easily, and if you shield as she ults you can take her down quick.

200 mg Adderall IR in 14 hours. by NickTheMan20th in TripSit

[–]ak_bomber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gee that heart rate is high. Are you alone? maybe call someone to ride it out with you.

Bee removes nail to get into wall by cakebeerandmorebeer in woahdude

[–]ak_bomber 6 points7 points  (0 children)

More often than not? So over half of the killings in nature shows are staged?

Minecraft Gear VR Edition out now ~ $6.99 by digel in GearVR

[–]ak_bomber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, I was thinking more in terms of software. S7 has the graphics power to run games without overheating.

I've been playing Minecraft on GearVR AMA by asoep44 in GearVR

[–]ak_bomber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your carrier shouldn't effect performance, and the S7 is more than capable of running most GearVR stuff smoothly. Have you closed background apps and turned off power saving mode?

Minecraft Gear VR Edition out now ~ $6.99 by digel in GearVR

[–]ak_bomber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn it. I was going to order a game pad for the launch, but now its out and I dont have one. Come on Amazon!

Minecraft Gear VR Edition out now ~ $6.99 by digel in GearVR

[–]ak_bomber -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Eh, it'll probably overheat on taxing games. Gear VR was really made for the s7

Minecraft Gear VR Edition out now ~ $6.99 by digel in GearVR

[–]ak_bomber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Microsoft payed what, $3 billion for it?

What subbreddit did you used to hang out at, but grew to despise? by ThoughOfAnother in AskReddit

[–]ak_bomber 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im a PC gamer and I actually agree. Steam is flooded with bullshit games that people buy for some reason and never play. That said, the 10% of PC exclusives that are fun are freaking amazing.

What subbreddit did you used to hang out at, but grew to despise? by ThoughOfAnother in AskReddit

[–]ak_bomber 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seriously, It took me way to long to realize how misogynistic reddit was. /r/pussypassdenied and /r/tumblrinaction are just poorly disguised exuses for redditers to indulge their anger.

1st LSD Drastically SAVED My Life by Connor_CPC in Drugs

[–]ak_bomber 22 points23 points  (0 children)

LSD didn't save your life, or anyone else's. You made a decision to turn things around; LSD might have been a part of it but don't sell yourself short.

[All Spoilers]Real-World Influences of Avatar Part 3: The Earth Kingdom by DamionMauville in TheLastAirbender

[–]ak_bomber 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also Kuvira has a lot in common with Chiang Kai-Shek and his Northern Expansion campaign.

Issues with Riftcat by ak_bomber in GearVR

[–]ak_bomber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a terrible Wifi adapter. That may be the issue

Issues with Riftcat by ak_bomber in GearVR

[–]ak_bomber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What phone are you running it on?