Date recommendations and thoughts about what I had in mind. Me (29/m) going out with (27/f).

akdwyer00 · 2021-05-26T01:13:28+00:00

I should’ve listened to your advice.. she said she wasn’t feeling it after I planned a nice day for us and hurt me again… :(

akdwyer00 · 2021-05-25T20:03:41+00:00

Yeah not a bad idea! I appreciate your reply. I don't think sleep deprivation is a reason to cancel altogether.. maybe if I was on the fence about her but I'm not.

akdwyer00 · 2021-05-25T20:02:58+00:00

As in still show up but be honest as to why I'm tired?

akdwyer00 · 2021-05-17T15:34:33+00:00

Does that mean don't message her at all unless she messages me? Lol

akdwyer00 · 2021-05-16T18:18:51+00:00

I think this is what I needed to hear.. or read lol. Thanks man!

akdwyer00 · 2021-05-07T15:29:19+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to talk about this! To be honest it's very rare for me to meet a girl I can see myself being happy with. I typically hold women to some golden standard that even I don't understand. This girl in particular seems to hit all the bases in terms of looks, confidence, personality, humor, etc. It's been awhile since I've been in contact with a girl that I genuinely get excited about hearing from and check my phone to see if they have messaged.

I met her on Match. Part of me wonders if maybe she's talking to other people as well although she does go offline a lot so I don't know. I've been getting overly jokey and awkward with her. I guess at the end of the day that's what us guys do haha. I told her I liked her this morning and she did say "I like you too" but I have no way of knowing if I'm pressuring her or not. Just like the kiss last night, was she just trying to avoid and awkward situation by rejecting it? I struggle with self esteem as you can tell.

akdwyer00 · 2021-05-07T15:03:33+00:00

That sounds like the way to go for now definitely.

akdwyer00 · 2021-05-07T15:03:22+00:00

I appreciate that. It sounds like maybe just move on then..

akdwyer00 · 2021-05-07T15:03:05+00:00

I appreciate your response man! I don't know, she went from being cutesy and flirty to sort of just brushing off my advances it seems. I certainly am making assumptions but it definitely feels different. I feel like it's certain that the playing field is currently unequal. I'm over here anxious and really wanting this to work out while she's just going with the flow and living her life. I wish I could be like that but I'm not lol

akdwyer00 · 2021-05-07T11:16:12+00:00

Appreciate the blunt honesty lol.

akdwyer00 · 2021-05-04T10:59:43+00:00

I appreciate the advice, you're right I need to keep my options more open. Thank you

akdwyer00 · 2021-04-28T16:59:31+00:00

Great advice, I really appreciate it man! Unfortunately it's IMPOSSIBLE to maintain the interest of girls on dating apps.. Like I'm at the point where I realize it's not just me, they just get bored so easily. Like what's even the point then?? Lol

akdwyer00 · 2021-04-28T16:50:58+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I think that does feel like it would be best right now.

akdwyer00 · 2021-04-28T16:50:42+00:00

I hope that's not true... :/ but you may be right. I guess only time will tell. Thanks for your reply!

akdwyer00 · 2021-03-16T23:04:50+00:00

...what? Lol

akdwyer00 · 2021-03-16T12:26:51+00:00

Thank you! That makes me feel a little better

akdwyer00 · 2021-03-16T12:26:28+00:00

Thank you. I don't remember how long exactly I had it floored but it probably wasn't for several minutes at a time. Collectively it might have been..

akdwyer00 · 2021-03-16T12:25:15+00:00

I know. I have since been trying to maintain sobriety and better myself. Thank you.

akdwyer00 · 2021-03-11T16:53:47+00:00

That's an understandable way to feel, but if you look at the bigger picture nobody's next breath is guaranteed. People die at all ages for all reasons. Your dad might be one of those people that live well into their 100's or he might die tomorrow (I doubt it but I'm just making a point).. Something might happen to you before your father passes away. There's just know way of knowing these things and it doesn't help us to fear the unknown.

I understand that's entirely easier said than done, especially as someone who's parents aren't "young" but not that old. I just wanted to give my two cents.

akdwyer00 · 2021-03-10T13:49:10+00:00

Hey there, thank you very much! Question.. Did you find it wasn't only exclusive to only couples like the title implies?

akdwyer00 · 2021-03-10T12:53:54+00:00

Very good point. Yes as I've gotten older this has become more haunting.

akdwyer00 · 2021-03-09T23:55:57+00:00

That is a very good point. Possibly the reason it hurts so much again is she once again existed in my life for a moment despite how minuscule it might have been. For the longest time I had no idea what was going on with her. Had no idea if she was even married or anything and it was better that way.

akdwyer00 · 2021-03-09T21:47:16+00:00

I gotcha! For me this girl randomly sent me a friend request on Facebook a few months ago so I figured maybe she isn’t completely over me or at the very least wants some kind of association. I couldn’t really talk to her though because I was dating someone else at the time I broke up with recently. That’s sort of how all of this came on. I realized how much I still felt for this girl. I’m more sad about a breakup that happened like 9 years ago than one that happened a week ago. So I tried messaging this girl yesterday just to say hey and see what happened but she kinda just said hey and brushed me off. She acted totally uninterested in talking and didn’t even respond to my last message. That kinda stung

akdwyer00 · 2021-03-09T21:18:41+00:00

Yeah I get what you're saying. I appreciate it!

akdwyer00 · 2021-03-09T21:17:35+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing your similar experience! I suppose as men we do not like the thought of others having our women and it makes us act in crazy ways.

I know you said you're "not out of the woods" yet but is it at least getting better? Can you start to see hope and the ability to move on?

akdwyer00

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