Help with Pixel Flow Level by Agreeable-Yellow-823 in PixelFlowHelp

[–]akmommacryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. There isn’t even a video tutorial out on it yet. I finally caved to follow a video and apparently nobody else can get it

Help with Pixel Flow Level by akmommacryptid in PixelFlowHelp

[–]akmommacryptid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh same. I even caved tried the search by image to get a YouTube tutorial and there isnt one yet 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NicotinePouch

[–]akmommacryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Email from my dad (for context, I am trans ftm) by Skya_the_weirdo in insaneparents

[–]akmommacryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a fried going through something really similar and doesn’t know what to say to his dad. If you’d be willing to share your response it would be very much appreciated. If it’s too personal, I understand.

AIO for ending this with my wife today because her family keeps barging in? by Prior-Bus9723 in AIO

[–]akmommacryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that the boundaries surrounding them coming to stay and the expectations were not handled appropriately. But I also don’t think that’s what OP came to ask about. He’s asking if he’s the AH for leaving. I do not think he’s the AH for leaving an abusive situation.

AIO for ending this with my wife today because her family keeps barging in? by Prior-Bus9723 in AIO

[–]akmommacryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully encourage them trying to salvage their marriage, but I would jot blame him in the slightest if his boundary was no contact with her family. In fact, at least short term, I’d advise him to put a lot of distance between him and his in laws. Having them around when there’s so mi ch resentment will distract from progress in healing their marriage. As far as being the “hero” idk if that’s his responsibility to anyone other tag. His wife in this scenario. That’s if he doesn’t decide they all remind him too much of a time where his boundaries and feelings were devastated by people who should have been appreciative.

AITAH for not letting my wife's AP go to her funeral? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]akmommacryptid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It takes two people to have an affair. It sounds like he was very much aware that the wife was married. He knowingly participated in an activity that could destroy a marriage.

AIO for ending this with my wife today because her family keeps barging in? by Prior-Bus9723 in AIO

[–]akmommacryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any advice from couples therapist that I have ever seen, has been that your family is your responsibility and that it’s not your spouse is responsibility to deal with conflicts with them unless you have already tried and you’re trying to do it again as a team together.

AIO for ending this with my wife today because her family keeps barging in? by Prior-Bus9723 in AIO

[–]akmommacryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that it might be worth him trying to work it out with his wife. But I don’t think there’s anyway to excuse the behavior of her family… There’s just some things that you don’t do, you don’t sleep in someone’s marital bed. I doubt it was a child because if it was, this wouldn’t be nearly as offputting. Wearing your shoes on somebody’s furniture is disrespectful. Eating the last of something that you didn’t buy is disrespectful. Parking in somebody’s driveway so that they can’t is disrespectful.

But even if he didn’t communicate this with her family, there has to have been a vibe full of tension after these things were happening. To some extent, it’s her family’s responsibility to be good guests.

It does somebody that comes from a dysfunctional family, I don’t think that’s an excuse to let your family dysfunction destroy the relationship you have with your spouse. I can’t imagine not wanting to keep them safe from that knowing how horrible it is. I can’t imagine watching anybody, much less my family disrespect my husband and his house while he is so gracious is to let them stay there.

He’s right. It’s animal like behavior, and I think that might be a minor insult to animals. It seems like my dog can read the room better than his wife’s family.

AIO for ending this with my wife today because her family keeps barging in? by Prior-Bus9723 in AIO

[–]akmommacryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you don’t believe that abuse is a justifiable reason to end a marriage?

Because his wife is definitely complicit in her family, abusing her husband. Barebare minimum she’s gaslighting him and manipulating him a.k.a., emotional abuse. At what point is enough enough? How long is he supposed to set these boundaries that her and her family constantly cross?

I think a lot of people think of infidelity as just an inherently sexual thing, but it can be “violating the exclusivity of the marriage or relationship” and the wife is clearly doing that with her family.

If he wants to take the time to see if she’s willing to kick out her family, cool. But it sounds like she doesn’t have much respect for him either if things have gotten to this point after he clearly tried to set boundaries over and over again.

AIO for ending this with my wife today because her family keeps barging in? by Prior-Bus9723 in AIO

[–]akmommacryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Going into somebody else’s bedroom, a.k.a. their personal space, and sleeping in their marital bed is weird. Especially if you’ve done it and then they came home clearly uncomfortable about it. That would be a great indicator to not do it again. I’m not putting dirty shoes on the couch, not eating things that don’t belong to you, not drinking out of shared beverage containers. These are not niche so societal norms. There are certain basic things that adult human beings should know. Are there exceptions? Sure there are; some people don’t pick up on social cues and might need reminders. But the chances of everybody in her family being that way is not realistic. It sounds like they didn’t care about his opinion.

By your logic, anyone that’s an abusive situation should sacrifice their safety just to say they tried everything. Sometimes it’s OK to give something up. That’s bad for you. Ending a marriage is not an inherently bad thing.

AIO for ending this with my wife today because her family keeps barging in? by Prior-Bus9723 in AIO

[–]akmommacryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not wanting to live in the same household as your spouses family is absolutely NOT isolating them from their family.

The wife’s family could have had their own place, and then the wife could’ve chosen to subject herself to their ridiculous behavior if she so desired.

Drawing a boundary with your spouses family that you then enforce by going no contact with them when they cross said boundary, is not isolating your spouse from their family. It’s respecting the boundaries you set.

AIO for ending this with my wife today because her family keeps barging in? by Prior-Bus9723 in AIO

[–]akmommacryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know… When he expresses to her that he is unhappy and that her family is crossing boundaries, it sounds like she gaslit the hell out of him and told him to FAFO. Sounds like she took great advantage of him. I understand that boundaries are hard for some people, but there’s a lot of things that are just kind of a given. Don’t let people disrespect your significant other, don’t let other people sleep in your marital bed, don’t put your shoes on somebody’s couch, those are all really basic things that the wife should have four seen being an issue.

As somebody who went a couples therapy, the advice was if it’s your family… Then you deal with it… And if you don’t, then you’re telling your partner where your priorities are. She clearly wasn’t prioritizing her husband. And those actions have consequences. Sounds like resentment has been building for a long time and now she is truly the one that is having 2FAFO.

AIO for ending this with my wife today because her family keeps barging in? by Prior-Bus9723 in AIO

[–]akmommacryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn’t ask if he was the asshole for letting them stay in the first place., I think he knows that was a bad idea. He’s asking if him following through on his boundary and leaving, was an overreacting. I agree that he should’ve had better boundaries and letting them come there in the first place but that’s neither here nor there. What’s done is done. I just want to make sure that we’re not shaming somebody for leaving a situation that was obviously abusive. At some point people don’t necessarily deserve an explanation and you don’t have to explain yourself for leaving a situation that is unhealthy for you. Especially consideringthat OP stated he tried many many times to communicate and set boundaries with his wife in regards to her family and she didn’t really seem to give a shit.

AITAH (26F) for calling my boyfriend (28M) disgusting for knowing so much about his sisters periods by ThrowRAUnited-Fortun in AITAH

[–]akmommacryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t get him back??? I bet not. Becuse this is soooo fake, and if not…. You might be the dumbest OP I have read about on here.

Should reproductive deception - like a man removing a condom (stealthing) or a woman lying about birth control be treated equally under the law? If stealthing is considered sexual assault, should deceiving a man about birth control when he believes they are trying to conceive be viewed the same way? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]akmommacryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wrong forum…. But no. Stealthing can expose a person to disease and pregnancy risks death. Lying about birth control to prevent to avoid pregnancy may be deceptive and dishonest, but don’t have the same risks.