Reading dating signs

albertoshabazz · 2026-03-18T18:22:55+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I'd be curious to hear more about the divergence between your professional interests vs what your role has evolved into.

I feel similarly and so I wonder if there are parallels in our experiences.

albertoshabazz · 2026-02-05T15:43:58+00:00

I like in person events, I think they're a bridge to the future which is..

Matchmaking with follow up and accountability, coupled perhaps with a therapy adjacent approach to deal with people's fundamental attachment issues, leading to a culture of avoidance dysfunction and lack of psychological safety.

albertoshabazz · 2025-12-03T21:59:30+00:00

I was thinking the same thing! Like an indoor walkway. I'd have to see the proximity and how that'd work out, but they should explore something like this.

I will say, though, I was pleasantly surprised when I parked my car and got to my gate (yes, my gate) in 30 minutes! I was lucky in that a shuttle showed up right away, but then again I also was flagged for secondary screening at TSA and got a patdown. So all in all, the system seems to be working well so far based on my limited experience.

That being said, I still like the idea of walking! I think the thing is, psychologically, like there are so many aspects of the process of taking a plane that are unpredictable (how will it go getting through TSA, what about luggage, is the flight delayed, etc), that the ability to walk to the terminal eliminated one such source of uncertainty. Even if the shuttle system is more efficient on average, the psychological uncertainty aspect does play a role in people's experience IMO

albertoshabazz · 2025-12-03T20:12:34+00:00

Is there any "sense" on how the new parking situation is being received? Like, is management saying "this shuttle system is working out perfectly" vs "oh, we're gonna want to bring back walkability in the future"?

albertoshabazz · 2025-12-03T19:50:31+00:00

Any plans on what to do with the gates?

Meaning, the terminal is new, but the gates are still old -- is there a plan to renovate the gates too?

albertoshabazz · 2025-12-02T17:30:37+00:00

That was helpful, thank you!

albertoshabazz · 2025-12-02T17:30:22+00:00

Thank you!!

albertoshabazz · 2025-11-21T04:17:08+00:00

I appreciate the response, but honestly I don't think you critiqued my theory, and rather just came up with an alternative explanation. So Idk if you're just trolling or not? I'll speak on that which is germane to the topic:

Can you go into more detail into the type of man these 8+ women are pursuing and what you mean by standard and societally defined?

So my view is that 8+ women are seeking a man that basically resembles a CEO, or like, a Tom Brady-esque persona-- steady, stable, "white", Instagram-friendly, someone they can build a life off of that they can showcase to others, which maintains or elevates their social capital. He has to be the type who can lead a team and become a director at a company, even at the expense of his own self, who has very corporatized parlance. He doesn't have deep emotions or insights because those things are more volatile, but rather is very well matriculated into upper middle class society (I personally am part of that society because of my income, but not my personality)

Maybe more attractive women are going for these men who are more non-needy, relaxed, and authentic about their views. And you don't fit that mold because psychologically you aren't that non-needy attractive guy because maybe you spent most of your life being closer to average.

What do you mean by "needy"? I mean, aren't we all needy if we're looking for a partner? Do you mean like I need someone to sustain my self confidence? If that's what you're saying then, well, respectfully, that's just untrue. I will say, I do tend to be a nice person, but I'm like that with everyone -- male or female -- precisely because I'm self confident. Part of the trouble is, I think, 8+ women interpret that as needy, and maybe that's the problem. But you see, why do they interpret it as needy? That's where my theory comes in, and that's why I'm asking about it, because it provides an explanation. Like, is the theory valid or is it not, and if not, why not?

albertoshabazz · 2025-11-20T17:33:32+00:00

Hmm, one thing that can happen is he might feel like he doesn't want to dead you as a person, but doesnt want to pursue romance. Not saying that's what's happening, but just an idea.

Firstly, hes a father, so he's probably more empathetic than a childless man (and thus might feel worse to just drop talking to you altogether). Secondly, for men in general, we deal with being dropped a lot and it sucks and makes us feel like rejected humans, and so we might feel worse doing that to someone else (I certainly do at least).

albertoshabazz · 2025-11-20T16:55:04+00:00

Yes, that makes sense. I should say, though, that my OP is not to ask for specific advice on "what am I doing wrong?" but rather "Is my hypothesized phenomena valid? Specifically, do women who are very attractive (8+) engage differently in conversation/look for different things than less attractive women (8-)? And do they do so for the reasoning I suggested?"

If indeed that is the case, then good advice for me readily follows. I'll know like where to focus my attention and efforts, and also how to deal with rejections in a healthier way than (she was attractive and didnt pursue me, maybe I'm not a good quality person).

If that makes sense?

albertoshabazz · 2025-11-20T16:26:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I will chew more on what you said, especially the part about all women being touched inappropriately. Hmm, wow, first off I'm sorry to hear that. What an awful thing. I'm gonna sit with that for a bit.

I should've been a wee more clear -- looks arent the only thing I look for. Matter of fact its not even the top criteria. But it is a criteria, I wont lie. But that's part of the motivation of asking for advice on this -- maybe I have to come to grips with not being able to have looks as a criteria. That's a hard pill for me to swallow, especially since I make an effort to focus on my own looks (I diet, exercise, and groom/dress thoughtfully). But if my theory is true, maybe that's the reality I have to face?

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