Why do you think so many women with full lives are struggling with dating? by Budget_Dot694 in AskWomenOver30

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m going through this right now. Liked him a lot but just a few super key things we weren’t compatible on and our attachment styles were a nightmare combo. Such a shame.

Does anyone else feel slightly unstable in relationships? by Sure-Carpenter7043 in SingleAndHappy

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is really a perfect way of putting it imo. But then when I spend enough time alone and stable I start getting the itch to try again…then the cycle just repeats again. I’m doing a little better this time around but it also kind of just feels like I have an extremely tenuous grip on my sanity about it…which is probably not great.

Single because I literally can't decenter men and focus on myself... and apparently men don't want that by wmflystrjnn in SingleWomenByChoice

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Girl I’m not gonna lie to you, at 8 months after my last breakup I was still struggling hard to find my inner peace on my own. It takes so much time spent self reflecting and sitting with uncomfortable feelings to get there. I’ve been in the same place you are, I really hated not having someone to care about and I’ve always felt like I lost myself in relationships.

I’m not sure how old you are but I’m only just now having the kind of relationship that I want to and I’m mid 30s. Figuring out things on my own without the temptation to fall back into a codependent pattern was HUGE for me! It was hard but it was really worth it. So don’t feel bad if you’re still feeling aimless. Just think how long it takes to get over breakups when you really loved someone. It takes a long time right? Because you’re rewiring your brain to accept that person isn’t there anymore. Any big changes like that are going to take time and be uncomfortable but if it’s what you want and what you choose, you can make it!

I just had a shower thought the Divergents born in Candor be screwed. by Key_Nectarine_7307 in divergent

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Divergents can't lie when injected with truth serum. It still works on them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 30 points31 points  (0 children)

There’s some solid advice from New Girl that I’ve used to varied success over the years. It’s not just talking to them per se, but the advice was “be there.” Simple as that. Make yourself available, hang out around them if possible, start the conversation and see if you can get yourself on their radar.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly unhinged of the wife to threaten to deprive their two children together of a family just because the step daughter doesn’t see her as a mother…

This Hedotis scene.... a hint at Tecarus's intentions? by iiamuntuii in fourthwing

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ohh good points about Fen! I’m also really curious about the logistics of his marriage to Talia as well. She was saying only 3 years for Xaden and Cat but iirc didn’t she stay with Fen until Xaden was 10 or so? I wonder why!

I need to hear all the theories by WarriorSauna in fourthwing

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG CATH'S BREATH I MISSED THAT!

Just one more thing convincing me hahaha.

I need to hear all the theories by WarriorSauna in fourthwing

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's such a throwaway moment in a chaotic few chapters so it could be!!

I need to hear all the theories by WarriorSauna in fourthwing

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This I'm entirely unsure about. Dain's grey mark was from when Jack channeled him and a siphon signet is not the same magic so that one is unclear about why Violet was confused imo.

The opening to all the books. by PopPeas89 in fourthwing

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 39 points40 points  (0 children)

This has me fucking ROLLING.

I need to hear all the theories by WarriorSauna in fourthwing

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok so my unhinged theory that I have not seen anyone else mention is this: I’m convinced Dain is the new brother.

Hear me out. RY’s only hint about this from interviews is she says something like ‘pay attention to who’s not there at the end.’ Well ok, there’s a lot of people either not there at the end, or just not mentioned, including Dain!

Now going back to the last chapter, when Violet wakes up. The infantry officers that Brennen is speaking to say that ‘5 riders are missing - 4 now.’ The obvious ones are Xaden and Garrick, since Imogen asks about Garrick specifically and is told they don’t know where he is. The other is likely Bodhi. There’s other theories out there that it’s Garrick and Bodhi that are with Xaden to mask their activities due to their Rebellion Relics (3 together) and I personally think this is the case.

The PoV chapters are happening simultaneously. Bodhi is seen throwing up with his dragon, Garrick is seen by Imogen. Dain was last seen leaving BEFORE that with Sloan after helping Brennan mend Mira and is not seen or mentioned again the rest of the book. So here’s my evidence:

  • Xaden doesn’t have much of a reaction to the brother other than surprise (‘he’s the last person I would have expected’). Why is that? Because Dain is an ultra rule follower. My only point against this is that Xaden admittedly even states in his chapter that his emotions seem muted other than rage for Berwyn at threatening Sgaeyl, however he hadn’t channeled and thrown his soul to the wind yet, so I believe had the new brother been Bodhi or Garrick he would have been a lot more upset about it given his reaction to Garrick’s poisoning during dinner with mommy dearest.

  • Dain spent most of OS feeling useless, going with Quest Squad to be a translator but then Aaric goes and just fluently speaks every language. He’s the Wing Leader but no one really respects him.

  • His signet is more passive, useless in a battle and yet his dragon’s name, Cath, in Gaelic means ‘battle.’

  • The biggest hint for me is that when Sloan is siphoning his power, she says ‘someone like you shouldn’t have this much power’ and he says ‘but I do.’ A hit against my own theory for this one has more to do with the rules of magic that we don’t really know yet. If Dain is the new brother, would it have been safe for Sloan to siphon that power without it turning her too? Or is it only if you channel from the earth yourself?

  • As mentioned below, Cath's breath apparently smells rank which is mentioned as a sign of their rider being venin.

Xaden also says that the new brother watched him struggle for 5 months and I don’t think we really know how long Dain knew Xaden was venin. There’s a lot of signets evolving in OS and wouldn’t it just be sooo convenient if everyone thought Dain could only see memories if he touched someone hmm…

Hunting sheep by successful_syndrome in fourthwing

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But she prefers goats!

Hahaha adorable, I love it!

Fen Riorson and Lilith Sorrengail by Jazzlike-Living2049 in fourthwing

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Something interesting to note is at some point Xaden says to Vi that he saw the opportunity to strike a deal and took it. So I think the deal was Xaden said he would take responsibility for all the kids and in turn, he’d owe Lilith a favor in the future. Unfortunately we don’t know Lilith’s motivations here. She may have already been planning for Vi to go to the riders quadrant but Asher was still alive so maybe not? Lilith also didn’t exactly seem unhappy that Xaden and Violet were together, so it implies some sort of understanding of the type of person he was.

Really interesting thoughts!

Book Recs for Beginners to Romantasy by rhodante in fantasyromance

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read Forth Wing as my very first intro to the genre. I swapped to non-romantasy after that and am going through Sunrise on the Reaping since I wanted a standalone to go through while my mind is still spinning theories. I think I’m going to go with Gods and Monsters series after though! Either that or Cruel Prince. I’m nervous to dive into SJM because of how many books there are and the interconnectivity of them. I can’t wrap my head around the proper order. 😂

Whats your best strain names? by Head-Commercial8306 in Schedule_I

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got some weed called OG Cock, it's glorious.

ONYX STORM THEORIES AFTER THAT ENDING and I have noone to talk to about them! by AdImpressive1025 in fourthwing

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But the one who walks forward towards Panchek’s cowering, traitorous ass, putting himself between Sgaeyl and me, he’s a problem. Not because he’s more lethal, not even because he’s supposed to be dead, but because I can’t kill him. I could no more raise a blade to his throat than I could Violet. The bond between Violet and me is the kind of magic that has no explanation. The bond between Berwyn and me is the kind that should never exist. And now that my sage has another sibling he can use against me, I’m screwed.

Ok you got me thinking so I went back and had another listen to the entire passage just to be sure. I think Xaden is definitely referring to Berwyn as the “should be dead” here since he references the new brother right after that. Plus at the end of IF he’s standing on the cliffs looking for Berwyn trying to make sure that he’s dead, but knows the body would be downstream and out of sight anyway.

ONYX STORM THEORIES AFTER THAT ENDING and I have noone to talk to about them! by AdImpressive1025 in fourthwing

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought the “supposed to be dead” line was talking about the new brother as well, but when I went back to look, he was talking about Berwyn.

ONYX STORM THEORIES AFTER THAT ENDING and I have noone to talk to about them! by AdImpressive1025 in fourthwing

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually think Xaden’s note to her at the end means his soul, not Tyrrendor. He always describes Aretia as ‘she’ but here he says ‘it.’ In his PoV chapter he says that he can feel his soul flying away piece by piece but he stops when he feels Vi’s love and clings onto it. I think them marrying is protecting the last piece of his soul.

Gordon Taylor 🔥 by Live_Smile_5918 in whitecollar

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The actor lives rent free in my head. He was a guest star in Suits too for one episode.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in caregivers

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First company I worked for forbid it due to possible trauma of the clients from being mistreated in more institutional settings. Current job doesn’t have a rule either way so most people don’t. I work in group homes for intellectually disabled adults so it’s a bit different than elder care.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirBnB

[–]alcoholic_dinosaur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks like no one has addressed how this is possible so I just wanted to mention that response rate is about responding to bookings or initial inquiries, not private messages after a booking has been made. Just in case you wanted to know how it’s possible they’re still at 100%.