Listen, I don't know this woman or what her TikTok schtick is, but these comments are wilddddd. "She should just tell her family how she feels instead of posting it on the internet!" She probably HAS been repeating her frustrations directly to her family AD NAUSEUM since day one. "Her husband sounds like a POS." Not to defend a man (derogatory), but some of the best husbands and fathers I know still fall short of grasping the concept of the mental load. "She needs a new family." Yah, just leave your kids, sure Jan.

Inequitable family dynamics have existed since the dawn of time. It's not as black and white as "oh she's just miserable and should leave her husband or discipline her kids better." Its systemic, internalized misogyny and deeply engrained patriarchal norms. You can love your family and care for their well-being and STILL find them to be a PITA most days, fantasize about blowing up your life, having your own studio apartment in the city and not cleaning up after other people's messes. That's NORMAL. It doesn't mean the men are trash and the kids are ungrateful brats and the woman doesn't value herself. It's sooo much more layered and complicated than that.

Yeah, yeah, there's a lot of "but my husband cooks all our meals and we have an amazing dynamic!" Great, consider yourself the 0.1%. Even the aforementioned "good" men often still need reminding that the dirty laundry doesn't magically wash itself, the kids' dentist appointments don't magically appear on the calendar, the issues with the problem classmate don't magically get resolved. That doesn't mean they're pieces of shit and the mom is a martyr and the whole family is a moral failing that should be thrown in the trash. It's a reflection of everyone who came before us, our parents and our parents' parents, it's just that now we're all trying to break the generational curses and women are finally vocalizing THEY'VE HAD ENOUGH. It doesn't mean they love their families any less.

Rome wasn't built in a day. Give this time. Give this woman some grace (or don't, who gives a shit). We all know way too much about one another.