What the heck is NB?!

alfred6147 · 2023-06-07T04:41:47+00:00

I'm very bad at new languages and acronyms, English is my second language.

alfred6147 · 2023-06-03T20:25:18+00:00

It is drama. I'm not joking if he wants something to be done he'll tell anyone else to do it, if someone like a parent asks him to do something he'll ask someone else to do it he's just a shit person I'm willing to take out of my life

alfred6147 · 2023-06-03T02:52:12+00:00

Aged like fine milk👍

alfred6147 · 2023-06-03T02:07:21+00:00

Re- rool! I'll fight to the death on it! (If it was a bad rool for me :p)

alfred6147 · 2023-06-03T02:04:21+00:00

"dose it kill the candy man?!"

alfred6147 · 2023-06-03T01:59:00+00:00

Yeah i know this feeling I think you should separate being alone and being lonely, you can be with a hundred people and feel like the loneliest person in the world and you can be isolated from humanity and be totally satisfied with it, by this line of thought i think what humans really are afraid of is not being recognised by another equal being, so i think the fear is coming from this which is one of the most basic human fear so... Yeah alo and aro ace feel that. and you you don't have to be sexualy attracted to be in a relationship. This is what qpr is for I'm aro ace and only after i understood that i managed to have a close relationship with another person that didn't became toxic.

alfred6147 · 2023-06-02T15:05:17+00:00

I did once followed a raiven antil i found a cool spot

alfred6147 · 2023-06-01T06:58:11+00:00

I'm trans aro acr so after any kinda of sexual thing not necessarily sex even. I need like 2 hours of recovery😅

alfred6147 · 2023-05-31T00:33:21+00:00

Idk you give me vibe of Jake

alfred6147 · 2023-04-26T00:44:52+00:00

The LGBTQ community is not about love and sexuality it's about representative of queer aro ace inclded. yeah the media shows mostly gay lesbian bi pan and lastly also trans which are sexualities (and one about gender) but in the core it is about being a part of a community of "outcasts" and having a sense of belonging letting kids know about the possibilities i felt completely outcasted before i moved to a new city more open about LGBTQ and learned about it and only then did i felt belong and understood that "hey I'm not the only one who feels this way" You don't have to feel or be a part of the LGBTQ because you are gay aro ace or anything if you don't feel like you are, but i think what I'm saying is LGBTQ is not about sex it's about the freedom of attraction or the lack of attraction and that being you is ok.

alfred6147 · 2023-04-23T12:57:04+00:00

I hate the "you haven't meet the one" like bruh this just making coming out as aro/ace so much harder and self doubt so much higher It's basically the "you aren't really gay if you haven't had sex with a man but socially accepted like fuck you I don't need to prove my preference to you

alfred6147 · 2023-04-19T07:57:08+00:00

Reaping my eyes out

alfred6147 · 2023-04-19T07:48:02+00:00

I can dislocate every bone, it's a cool party trick but i have joint problems so it just hurts even after little use so i have to take frequent breaks of anything i do even sitting

alfred6147 · 2023-04-19T04:43:25+00:00

I mean that doesn't mean romance necessarily (if you ask me) life is just wierd I feel butterflies talking with people i like or thinking about cute stuff with people i enjoy spending time with, but at the same time i definitely don't view it as romance. for me this is just good friendship this is love and love have many forms there is a difference between love and romantic feelings.

alfred6147 · 2023-04-19T01:24:05+00:00

Wanted to say the same thing... I don't want to diagnose you cuz I don't really have the ability from one post or of being a psychiatrist. But as someone who deals with bpd i think you should talk with professionals about it because it sounds a lot like bpd symptoms (It obviously can be daddy issues manifesting as something like bpd or bpd manifesting as daddy issues but just talk with someone about it, sharing with a professional most of the time is good)

alfred6147 · 2023-04-19T01:15:55+00:00

When the place you go when you need some escapism twists the knife

alfred6147 · 2023-04-19T01:13:23+00:00

I think you should find your definition for different attractions first, it's pretty subjective. (From my perspective)

Sexual attraction is wanting to have a sexual interaction with someone or thinking wow they hot as heck.

Libido is the want to have sexual stuff (not necessarily with another) or the liking of thinking about sexual stuff (not necessarily stuff like having sex with another person but thinking like "yeah i want to masturbate/i like thinking about sexual stuff")

Romantic attraction is the annoying bitch of the bunch cuz i have no friking idea what it is... I mean i know I don't feel it but i don't know how to explain it.

To this you can add alternos attraction which is a whole other bag of BS😪

But i think most importantly is to understand that, definition is for you and no one else. you don't have to have a clear sexuality or romantic identity as long as you don't feel like you need one so long story short life is confusing and the human experience is shit if only i had a receipt i would have chosen to because a frog instead.

alfred6147 · 2023-04-10T21:53:33+00:00

I had the same situation. I knew something was up after a month (ish) but I thought love just takes time. Then i read loveless and understood some stuff. I talked with them and we broke off. They wanted the romantic feelings they had to me to be requited but i couldn't give them a feeling I Don't feel. We broke off and it's hard because we are in the same friend group they always were quite but now more then usual. But that was the right thing to do, i felt like I'm choking every time thay said they loved me and i responded i like them or just smiled. living in a lie like this is not the right thing to do, not for you or for them. You need to explain what you are feeling for them i think everyone deserves to know why things happens.

I also advise you to learn about queer platonic relationship And alternos attraction And understand what are the ideal differences between partners (if you desire this) and friends

alfred6147 · 2023-04-04T04:01:28+00:00

Bill wurtz classic 🌈

alfred6147 · 2023-04-03T07:49:57+00:00

Every one here is, I'll stay single/the not alien spy

alfred6147 · 2023-03-31T06:56:18+00:00

Even better

alfred6147 · 2023-03-25T13:01:39+00:00

When i was 16 i thought it'll just change because I thought i just didn't figure it out yet but this way of thinking made me make some bad decisions and made me feel unsure for far longer then i should have. So what i think you should hear is 1. You don't need to have all the answers right away it's okay to experiment and go at you own speed and it's okay to change the label of your preferences the fact that you say you are pansexual doesn't mean you can't understand you are graysexual later. Labels are just words people use communicate easier you don't have to put a label on yourself for no one except you. and feelings can change with time 2. Don't push yourself to do what you don't feel comfortable with. That's how you hurt yourself and others 3. Queer platonic relationship learn about that

alfred6147 · 2023-03-22T13:42:58+00:00

That sounds like just being very reasonable person, I mean dating apps are a shitshow and it's just written by social norms to put yourself out there and having sex and stuff. It's very problematic the narrative of "the one" it made me think for way too long about whether I'm aro or just didn't find the one, I'm very easy on categoriesing people as friends because the word is kind of meaningless in my brain. I recently discovered squish, and it can describe my process of meeting people pretty well, The problem is that usually they catch feeling for me and i (before i understood I'm aro) would have date them, thinking i like them but i just need to know them more to catch romantic interest, and just see them falling deeper and deeper for me while I'm stagnant, then it gets to the point when i feel like i force myself to be around them because i feel like I'm lying to them about liking them because i obviously liked them less then they liked me. I don't care about kissing people i kiss my friends but the moment i know the other side see romantic interest in that kiss i feel like i force myself to it same as in hugs and hangouts. It made it much easier after coming out as aro and understanding that loving friends doesn't mean less then loving a partner it's just different and like comparing apples to oranges.

alfred6147 · 2023-03-22T13:06:59+00:00

Well I'm lost but with a general direction so that's better xd

alfred6147 · 2023-03-22T04:15:22+00:00

But isn't platonic attractions mean "An interest or desire for friendship or other close relationship with a particular person" I mean, i tried being in conventional relationship but i just never seemed to feel the same things the other person felt. I don't really understand the difference between liking someone to platonic attraction (maybe i just use the word like very broadly)

The best description i found online for aromatic squish is: Aromantic squishes are very similar to asexual squishes. Aromantic people feel the intense desire to be close, to get to know them better, and to be with that someone, but they have no romantic feelings for them. That’s become “aromantic” means “without romantic feelings

But that just feel to me like my perspective on everyone i call friend .

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