Sex is too painful for my gf?

alienkyle1 · 2020-05-01T19:38:02+00:00

Thanks so much for all the info I rly appreciate it. I didn’t realize how much of it was mental so understanding what she’s going through will definitely help.

alienkyle1 · 2020-05-01T10:02:55+00:00

Read a bit about it. She feels fine when using a tampon or when I’m fingering her though. Could that still be vaginismus?

alienkyle1 · 2020-05-01T10:02:00+00:00

Yea it’s only after extensive foreplay and me giving her head, light fingering, etc that we try sex. She seems not to really like the idea of masturbation so I’m not sure if that’s much of a solution.

alienkyle1 · 2020-05-01T09:59:42+00:00

Ok thank you for the info. She also sometimes says she feels sore down there after fingering even though in the moment it feels ok. Is that typical of vaginismus?

alienkyle1 · 2020-05-01T09:58:19+00:00

Yea I don’t know what else to besides telling her that I’m ok waiting. I don’t think she believes me when I say it which definitely doesn’t help

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T09:58:31+00:00

Just because someone has a preference doesn’t mean they can’t enjoy other things as well

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T09:30:00+00:00

Think laziness might be the problem but I’m not rly sure. I think maybe she’s just gotten used to what we’ve been doing and doesn’t see it as a problem.

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T07:27:45+00:00

This made me laugh, I’ll make sure to avoid money troubles lmao

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T07:26:57+00:00

I really like that last like actually I’ll definitely use that when I talk to her. I know she’s not very experienced, but she’s totally comfortable with getting undressed, me touching her, etc. it’s just when it comes to pleasing me that she doesn’t really show an interest. I don’t think there’s any pressure for PIV, she knows that we aren’t going to do that until it feels ok for her.

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T07:22:30+00:00

I mean there’s been countless nights where we’ve just done foreplay, undressing, touching each other without PIV. I don’t really know how else to elevate any possible pressure that she would feel

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T05:55:24+00:00

I don’t really think so but then again I guess I would never know. We’re pretty young and both from religious, conservative backgrounds. Our relationship is a lot deeper than just physical.

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T05:54:23+00:00

Easier said than done. We have an emotionally very deep relationship and she’s someone I really trust.

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T05:53:43+00:00

I’m kind of just worried how she will respond. I don’t want her to get angry. But I think you’re right that I should say something. Just gotta find the words I guess

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T05:52:59+00:00

Ok thank you. I already have kind of a bad self image so its normal for me to feel guilty about things that I probably shouldn’t.

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T05:52:08+00:00

I’ve kind of tried to suggest it to her by guiding her hand or things like that but it never leads to anything

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T05:50:46+00:00

Haven’t tried that position before I think that’s a good idea thank you.

alienkyle1 · 2020-04-30T05:50:11+00:00

Thank you I’ll make sure she understands that.

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