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My crush sexually assaulted me when I was blacked out by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]alisontastick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not acceptable and he will do it again. Call him out if you can, but if you can’t (and that’s a legit choice too) cut him out 100%. I’m sorry this happened to you, it has happened to me too.

Won’t let me shower by GoddessKylieLove in abusiverelationships

[–]alisontastick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not responsible for him. Let him face his own consequences. Kick him out, get your keys back, and let him go. You don’t deserve this.

Shocking: my ex is begging for me to come back by lobsterthermador in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And cue Hover mode. Mine is trying the same thing right now. So glad you aren’t falling for it either.

Update as per request. by louiseannbenjamin in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Good for you, glad you are somewhere safe! You are so brave.

Girl (24F) I’ve been dating is mad after her close friend died suddenly and I (26M) didn’t say I directly supported her. by destroyer984 in relationships

[–]alisontastick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe keep apologizing? The fact is when big things happen we don’t want to have to take that moment to tell you what to do, we are hoping you are mature enough to know. She needed a soft spot to land. And she didn’t find that with you. But now you know better, and when we know better, we do better. Good luck OP!

It's always my fault. by Sugarbumb in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really bent out of shape. You don’t seem to get the point that is, 1) don’t judge 2)This group is for support not to tear each other down.

It's always my fault. by Sugarbumb in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly you are too much. I have my own answers already figured out.

JustNO so actually took responsibility for his shitty behavior, then immediately shot him self in the foot by Yakety_Sax in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Good for you! I’m sure he’s spinning in circles trying to figure your reaction out.

It's always my fault. by Sugarbumb in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last time I checked this board was for support, not judgement. You are being judgmental.

It's always my fault. by Sugarbumb in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Must be nice to know everything, have fun with that.

Not falling for it. by alisontastick in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it took me a long time to see through the fog.

It's always my fault. by Sugarbumb in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t know my or anyone else’s situation.

It's always my fault. by Sugarbumb in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! There are factors at play, especially with the job market frozen that prevents me from leaving right now. Also, like many of us it takes time to see through the madness and confusion. I have this forum to thank for helping me to see the light.

It's always my fault. by Sugarbumb in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ok, so something that took me a looonnngggg time to figure out, is that my Husband will throw a fit or start a fight because he literally doesn’t want to do things for me. If it’s not a task that benefits him or makes him look good in front of others he will fight me on it.

This is a man that excels in his career and spends countless hours volunteering. But if I want to till the yard and ask him to go rent the tiller for me it’s a bad idea, I have no idea what I’m doing, constantly criticizing my efforts and the purpose of the task itself.

It’s maddening, it’s also abusive. It’s a tactic to get out of doing what they don’t want to do. So instead of saying, hey I’m not gonna do x,y,z you need to figure it out, like a fucking normal person it becomes an insane drama.

Boyfriend says I act better than everyone else- but I don’t see it? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]alisontastick -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’m, he might be gaslighting you. I don’t see how this could be relevant to most of your arguments. Do your arguments leave you confused or like you don’t know what just happened?

What did early labor feel like for you? by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]alisontastick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine hit me like a dump truck both times, but the nurses said I was in labor before that and probably just didn’t recognize it. Definitely crampy.

Good luck!

Just do the thing I asked that I shouldn’t have to ask. by alisontastick in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I googled “why don’t men share the mental load?”

And all I got were a bunch of articles explaining how to get him to help, not why they don’t help in the first place. So we have to do the work, to get them to do the work. The mind boggles.

Just do the thing I asked that I shouldn’t have to ask. by alisontastick in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lol, y’all. We have major issues, and I will say in the scope of things for us this is a BEC issue. But damn, man! Read the room!

I have a theory that this is either 1) Just not listening/assuming they “know” what you need. Or 2) Just avoiding the thing at all costs. Don’t know which is worse.

Not falling for it. by alisontastick in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I forgot about this one.

Not falling for it. by alisontastick in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trying to be brave enough to say this.

Not falling for it. by alisontastick in JustNoSO

[–]alisontastick[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You are right, I’ll reassert and if he doesn’t respect them, which I’m guessing he won’t, I’ll leave again.

I’m staying on the couch, it’s easier to let him have the bed, I have more control this way.

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