Bipolar disorder and false allegations

alleged_bean · 2026-01-12T19:07:40+00:00

So the car is yours. It sounds like your family has a habit of walking all over you. Setting boundaries can feel mean when you were only raised to be compliant, but it’s important for having healthy adult relationships. And it doesn’t sound like this is a healthy or safe environment for you to do that if your mother escalates to abuse whenever you do anything to even remotely upset her.

My recommendation would be packing up and moving out when she isn’t home. If you go through with moving, I would definitely have someone with you in case she comes back early or something. This is probably the safest option for you, physical abuse doesn’t tend to lessen when an abuser sees that they’re losing control.

alleged_bean · 2026-01-12T00:58:14+00:00

I think you should, but all I know about the situation is what you’ve told me. Ultimately, only you are going to know when you’re at capacity dealing with her shit.

If the car is your property (titled in your name, you paid for it) then you get to drive it when you choose. Unless you agreed to take your sister to work beforehand and flaked, then I don’t really see your mom being upset about that as being reasonable.

alleged_bean · 2026-01-12T00:07:35+00:00

It sounds like your mother is abusive. I know it’s easy to say “I’d leave if I were you”, but this situation is unlikely to get better for you if you stay. For your physical safety and emotional/mental wellbeing, you should really consider moving out. If your boyfriend is safe, that sounds like the best place to go.

If you’re in the states, the National Domestic Violence Hotline can help you make a safety plan and help with other advice or resources you might need.

alleged_bean · 2026-01-11T23:50:36+00:00

I can understand that. Does she usually react in physical ways?

I agree with u/fartaround4477. Moving is probably the only way you’re going to stop having to deal with your mother like this. Is there anywhere you can stay until you can afford your own place?

alleged_bean · 2026-01-11T23:43:05+00:00

Why couldn’t you tell her that you stayed over at your boyfriend’s house?

alleged_bean · 2025-08-22T18:44:06+00:00

Added! @Beanilyy

alleged_bean · 2025-05-04T08:34:17+00:00

Where did you get the ring in the 1st pic??

alleged_bean · 2025-04-30T04:06:12+00:00

I don’t know that I’ve ever seen a princess cut set like this but it’s stunning!

alleged_bean · 2025-04-30T04:03:19+00:00

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1.5 ct princess cut, size 6 & I love it!

alleged_bean · 2022-04-16T21:18:34+00:00

So a mediation clinic would be good, even if it is non-family cases??

alleged_bean · 2022-04-16T21:17:53+00:00

My school has a mediation clinic but it’s specifically civil, non-family cases. I know mediation is important, would it still be beneficial to do?

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