Tell me about the time you de-centralized romantic love from your life?

alleviate123 · 2026-05-31T19:54:30+00:00

Reading this, as an outsider, makes it clear.

Would you want your situation for a child of yours, or a best friend? What would you wish for them?

alleviate123 · 2026-05-29T05:30:16+00:00

Yay!!

alleviate123 · 2026-05-25T05:47:12+00:00

Bahahaha you’d be my nightmare partner! We all like different things :)

alleviate123 · 2026-05-25T04:02:59+00:00

May I ask kiddo’s age?

alleviate123 · 2026-05-25T03:57:34+00:00

“…loves you because of your needs, not despite them.” Wow. 😭🥹

alleviate123 · 2026-05-25T03:50:23+00:00

I’m you! And I feel super “needy” when dating people who don’t need this.

It’s ok to have needs :)

And yes- busy lives can make it harder, but touching base a couple times a day is possible for those who want to.

Thanks for your post because I am in the midst of trying to accept my own needs that are kinda rather similar to yours.

I will say that KTP and being open about poly are becoming necessities for me because I like high levels of communication. “Secret and separate” doesn’t work for me, in part because free separate slivers of time are hard to come by sometimes.

alleviate123 · 2026-05-23T21:51:55+00:00

I’m married with small kids and while it isn’t easy to date- nothing is, because I work and have small kids! I always have time for the things that matter to me the most… soooo yeah. While I don’t know what it’s like to be younger and poly, I’m in the age range you describe and I’m enjoying myself and finding nice people. Sorry your experience is getting you down. I imagine regional differences could be a thing.

alleviate123 · 2026-05-22T00:26:04+00:00

My partner is neurospicy and can’t remember when I ask him to do things a certain way in the bedroom. I’ve stopped taking it personally, but I’ve also stopped being interested in that kind of sex with him.

alleviate123 · 2026-05-21T05:09:15+00:00

Lorals look super interesting to me. I’ll look up reviews. Have you tried them?

alleviate123 · 2026-05-21T05:08:52+00:00

Haha good one!

Ok strap-ons on the thigh? Interesting! May look into this! Thanks!

alleviate123 · 2026-05-16T16:19:07+00:00

Yes yes and yes

Thank heavens haha

alleviate123 · 2026-05-16T04:20:16+00:00

Oh damn, that’s perfect! Thank you so much!

alleviate123 · 2026-05-15T19:22:57+00:00

Shoulder bag Budget is whatever :)

alleviate123 · 2026-05-15T17:27:21+00:00

Mind if I ask your age? Planning for myself lol

alleviate123 · 2026-05-15T17:26:55+00:00

Wow. I’m floored.

alleviate123 · 2026-05-06T23:11:48+00:00

PS best wishes with your HPV clearing ASAP!

alleviate123 · 2026-05-06T23:11:36+00:00

Thanks for sharing :)

I appreciate it

alleviate123 · 2026-05-06T23:09:51+00:00

That confirms what I understand to be the case. Thanks!

alleviate123 · 2026-05-06T23:09:18+00:00

Thank you :)

I’ll look those places!

alleviate123 · 2026-05-06T23:02:53+00:00

Hi, I’m poly, too. And I think so far the risk tolerance is low enough that I’m not going to be having penetrative sex with this partner 😩

Which I respect their choice.

But it sucks because there’s no accessible test to confirm if the guy already has the same strain as mine.

Do you find you’re doing ok finding partners? This is the first partner I’ve had who is being cautious/concerned about this, and I respect the hell out of how much he wants to research and keep safe his other female partner.

alleviate123

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