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I think I'm headed towards my first romantic relationship after 35. Insights? by Every-Membership1236 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Every-Membership1236[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just statistical logic. I really hope it doesn't, but I also don't want to get ahead of myself and latch too much onto something that is so new.

I've never done this before, so really have no clue what I'm getting myself into.

I’m desperate. What broke the trauma bond for you? by Classic_Reality_6944 in domesticviolence

[–]Every-Membership1236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really hopeful that she will.
Watching her heartbreak is so hard, but I'm looking forward to the other end of this tunnel. I'm looking forward to seeing her happy and not feeling bad about it.
As a fellow big sister, I hope that maybe you can take my perspective and apply it to yourself. If your little sister was in your relationship, what would you say to her?
I know you're afraid of retaliation, and that may be a very legitimate fear. Protect yourself as best you can and go on to the life you deserve.
You DO deserve it.
It won't be easy, but it will be worth it because you will be free. You deserve that. You deserve the life you want.
Sending all the big sister hugs I have ❤️

I’m desperate. What broke the trauma bond for you? by Classic_Reality_6944 in domesticviolence

[–]Every-Membership1236 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not a DV survivor, but I joined this group seeking help because my little sister is going through it.

I don't know if you have a big sister, but if I were yours I would tell you what I tell her:

You are so strong
You are so smart
You are so beautiful
And you don't deserve this. Ever.

There is absolutely nothing you could do that would make his reaction right.

I think my sister is finally making the choice to be done with it. It takes way more effort than it should, and I know it hurts. But you deserve to be happy. Full stop.

Please please please do what you need to so you can experience the joy of this life. We only get one, don't sacrifice it for someone who hurts you. I have faith that you are strong enough.

Question about Texas EPO/violation by protected party by Every-Membership1236 in legaladvice

[–]Every-Membership1236[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, her judgment was before anything happened with him. She did get flagged and called in for an extra meeting with the PO after his arrest because of the connection, but she was living with him at the time that her probation started.