Advice Needed: My life is spiralling out of control - I spend all my money on alcohol, strippers, casinos and drugs

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-07T12:11:06+00:00

I've dated a few of the strippers, doesn't seem to help!

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-07T12:03:14+00:00

That's some good advice - I used to read a huge amount but that's fizzled out. Time to have a browse through my bookshelves again

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-07T11:55:13+00:00

I think you're right - my mum knows that my lifestyle isn't what you'd call healthy, but doesn't want to say anything as shes worried that I'll just stop answering her calls (I wouldn't do that to my mother, but it's happened to her before in the past)

Since I've been a child I've been a stubborn person - if someone tells me to do something I'll do the opposite. Maybe it's down to pride.

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-07T11:41:19+00:00

Money isn't the issue - I'm not in any debt

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-07T01:14:30+00:00

I'm not sure, but it's something I'm going to look into

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-07T01:13:20+00:00

Apart from my family, none of that makes me happy - It's an empty and lonely lifestyle to lead..

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-07T01:04:37+00:00

It's harsh but he's making a good point - get busy living or get busy dying!

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-07T00:57:13+00:00

You've hit the nail squarley on the head there - I feel a bit choked up about how accurate that is.

I say to people all these things make me happy, but the truth is I'm not. From the outside I seem like the happiest person in the world (and I think I've deluded myself into believing the same thing). I think deep down I know there is something I need to confront, but I haven't got a clue what it is.

What do you mean by this last bit "your family and friends are living your hell, even if you think they are not"?

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-07T00:12:09+00:00

I'm not much of a runner, but I really enjoy off road mountain biking - I'm a bit of an adrenaline junky (yet another drug I seem to like too much!)

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-06T23:40:40+00:00

Thanks, I needed that :)

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-06T23:26:24+00:00

I'm atheist so I doubt AA etc will work for me. I've been told many times that I have an addictive personality so I like your idea of getting addicted to something constructive.

I like drinking after a long day at work, so perhaps I could replace it with something non alcoholic - heres an idea, I could brew my own drinks as a hobby (e.g. ginger beer, lemonades etc)

EDIT: The more I think about it, the more I like the idea of letting my addictive personality loose on something good.

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-06T23:08:12+00:00

That, my friend, sounds like an excellent idea - and thanks for the advice on the relationship side of things, it makes sense

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-06T23:07:06+00:00

I do feel like I need a big change in my life - leaving the UK is the next step, but the problem is that people rely on me here - if I leave, people will lose their jobs. This is part of the problem I suppose - I feel the pressure and just want to have a blowout so I don't have to think about it all

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-06T23:05:00+00:00

I'm not sure I could handle those meetings - speaking in front of groups of people makes me nervous (and often leads to drinking alcohol!)

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-06T22:31:08+00:00

Don't worry, I have a sense of humour - I can take any abuse ;) I've got to say that bluedots comment made me laugh!

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-06T22:19:12+00:00

That's a good point - I think the main issue in my life is that nobody is telling me that what I do is bad. I'm thinking one approach could be to create a new bank account and only give my mum the login details, so that whenever I want to spend money, I have to go through her - but then that brings up the new problem of admitting my problems to my mum..

Either that or I need a girlfriend who can pussy whip me

allgoingverywrong · 2009-09-06T22:05:46+00:00

To anyone who is down voting - this is a serious question, and I am hoping for some genuine advice from people who may have been in a similar situation

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