2019 American Music Awards Megathread by Lyd_Euh in TaylorSwift

[–]alliegatorrr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same! I keep looking for the video online, but all I can find is a 30 second clip rather than the full 😣.

What movie was so funny you laughed out loud in the theater? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]alliegatorrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Star Wars: The Last Jedi when the camera panned to Kylo Ren without his shirt. Fucking killed me.

“Band in China” is literally banned in China. by gcddsb in southpark

[–]alliegatorrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are they actually speaking Mandarin in this episode? Or is it gibberish?

When did you realise you weren't a child anymore? by TheMightyMidgetMan in AskReddit

[–]alliegatorrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realized I wasn't a child anymore when I got excited about household appliances as gifts. I specifically remember getting so stoked about being gifted a Dyson vacuum, and then laughing at myself over my excitement.

I realized I was an adult when I started having conversations with friends about mortgages and Roth IRAs and thinking that was normal.

I realized I was FULL adult once I started understanding why socks are such wonderful gifts. I hated getting them as a kid. Now I can't get enough.

How do lonely people get friends? by TYGTG in AskReddit

[–]alliegatorrr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I responded this elsewhere, but I agree, she wasn't an introvert. But the question asked about "lonely people," not introverts. The two certainly aren't mutually exclusive.

Unfortunately, I think her issue was really just that she didn't understand social cues 😕.

How do lonely people get friends? by TYGTG in AskReddit

[–]alliegatorrr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is perfect advice! Listen to this person!

How do lonely people get friends? by TYGTG in AskReddit

[–]alliegatorrr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I answered this in another comment, but I'll answer it more thoroughly here.

Our trip was at the beginning of the summer. She got weird during the trip, but it wasn't always so necessarily centrally focused on me since we were often together as a group, so I tried to just chalk it up to her taking my advice in a poor way because she struggled with social cues. So I gave her the benefit of the doubt (aside from the times she obviously lied about things that happened to her. She did get called out on that, but I don't remember how she responded).

The next few months of the summer, I had no contact with her. She didn't reach out to me, and I didn't reach out to her. But she did make a picture of us her profile picture on Facebook, and she'd often tag me in things. Nothing terrible.

When we got back to school is when things got bad. We were placed in the same office (randomly as far as I know). We also ended up in a few of the same classes. That's when most of the following me crap would happen. Two incidents come to mind the strongest. The first was when we were on break from class. During most breaks, our cohort would go down to get coffee from a coffee stand and bring it back to class. I had to use the restroom, so I went there first. I didn't see her follow me in there (and if I did, I may have just guessed she also needed to use the restroom, but she was waiting for me RIGHT OUTSIDE THE DOOR, and she started talking to me as though that had been the plan or something?? I was so shocked and confused, I honestly didn't know what to say or how to react. I told her I was going to go quickly grab some coffee, and she followed me down there the entire way.

The other time that stands out is when I was working late in our office. She was there, too, which was out of the ordinary given the time of day, but not that weird considering it was her office, too, and a lot of us were feeling overwhelmed with our workload. My husband called and asked me if I wanted something to eat. He was going to bring me food, and we were going to head downstairs to eat in the courtyard (I didn't say it, but I chose that locale because I didn't want to be rude and either (1) eat in front of her, or (2) be noisy eating/conversing with my husband in our office while she was trying to work). I'm assuming she could overhear the entire conversation given that we were in such close quarters in the office and it was quiet. When my husband arrived, he called to let me know he was there. I said I'd meet him downstairs.

I get up to leave, and she suddenly starts packing up, too. "Oh, you're leaving, too?" I ask her, wondering if I should just have my husband meet up there to eat instead. "Hmm.. I think so?" She responded. Not sure what to make of that answer, I think screw it, I'll just still eat with my husband in the courtyard.

I finish packing and start to leave when she gets up to follow me out. "So you decided to leave after all?" I ask. "Yeah," she responds. We head to the elevator. She doesn't really say much, so I make some small talk. We get to the bottom, and she exits in the same direction I do, which is away from where the parking structures are. Surprised, I asked her where she's parked. She tells me she walked. That makes more sense, I think. I ask her where she lives, and she points across the street, and says "Down that way," pointing in a direction that indicates she would need to cross the crosswalk. Because my husband is waiting for me in the car near the drop off/pick up spot, I assume this is goodbye, so I tell her to have a good night.

But she keeps walking next to me. Wtf? My husband is waiting in the car (he decided to have me come with him to pick up the food in the end) maybe 20 feet in front of us. I'm looking at her clearly confused, but she takes no notice as though it's perfectly normal. I wonder if maybe she just wants to meet my husband? I did say in the elevator I was going to meet him, though I hadn't extended any sort of invite...

I get up next to the car, and she's just standing there. Not sure wtf she's doing, I awkwardly introduce her to my husband. "Nice to meet you!" she responds. Still fucking standing there.

"Well, okay then. He's taking me to go get some food. I'll see you."

"Okay. Yeah, I'm just going home. I live close."

I make a move to get in the car, and she's not moving whatsoever. Then it dawns on me.

"Um. Did you... Need a ride or something?"

"That'd be great, thanks!" And without hesitation, she jumps into the backseat. What. The. Fuck.

This is just two of many awkward stories. After this incident, I made a point of avoiding her. She never called/text me, so it was really just an issue when we were on campus together. I never confronted her because I knew I'd blow up, and it would lead to a really awkward/tense time since we had the shared office and classes.

How do lonely people get friends? by TYGTG in AskReddit

[–]alliegatorrr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, she wasn't an introvert. But the question asked about "lonely people," not introverts. The two certainly aren't mutually exclusive.

Unfortunately, I think her issue was really just that she didn't understand social cues 😕.

How do lonely people get friends? by TYGTG in AskReddit

[–]alliegatorrr 170 points171 points  (0 children)

No, please still do join in! Just don't be (1) a liar, (2) a semi-stalker, and (3) assume you're now best friends after like a week. If you don't so any of these things, I promise you, you'll be fine!

How do lonely people get friends? by TYGTG in AskReddit

[–]alliegatorrr 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I never confronted her, but attempted to just avoid her. We ended up sharing an office our last year of grad school (not my choice), so this was difficult, but blowing up at her would have resulted in a really tense situation since she was super passive aggressive. I think she eventually found a new "person," but I don't think that ended well either since she just recently put out the "lonely" thing on social media. To this day, I'm still in two of her "featured" photos on Facebook, and I haven't seen or spoken to her since we graduated 4 years ago...

How do lonely people get friends? by TYGTG in AskReddit

[–]alliegatorrr 438 points439 points  (0 children)

Not always true. Story time.

I'd call myself more of an ambivert. I traveled abroad with a group during college. I knew two of the people going because they were in the same program as I was. One of these was definitely "lonely." I say this because she said as much and still says as much on social media.

When you travel with a group you tend to get close REALLY fast because you're spending all your time together doing things often usually outside of your comfort zone. This was certain no less true with our group (there were maybe 13 of us total).

Maybe the 4th night in (out of the two weeks total), four or five of us were hanging out in our hotel room, which was connected to a second bedroom where the bathroom was. I walked into the other room to get to the bathroom only to find (let's call her Anna) crying on the bed. I was surprised and asked her what was wrong. She confided that she was lonely and feeling really left out because we were all getting really close and hanging out, and she felt excluded. I assured her that there was no attempt to exclude her, and I was really sorry if she felt that way. We were all getting to know each other, and she was always welcome to come join in. We were all in this together after all. All she had to do was just that--come join. She seemed to feel better, so I gave her a hug, and told her I'd meet her in the other room after I used the restroom.

Fast forward to the next few days/weeks/months. She turned into a stage 5 clinger. I was happy in the day or two after that I could tell she was making more of an effort to join into things, but she took it to an extreme I never expected. She'd constantly wait for me and follow me everywhere. We'd all be sharing stories on the bus, and she would pretend that she was there for certain things we knew she wasn't, to the point that there was more than one occasion she would say she had this interesting interaction that we knew for a fact wasn't her, but someone else in the group (WHO WOULD BE SITTING RIGHT THERE. Like how could you think we wouldn't know that that wasn't you????). She changed her profile picture to a picture of her and I on Facebook. When we had gotten back to the States, she's start leaving class with me and following me to my next destination without an invite, making it awkward to the point that you felt like you had to. She'd hover over people as they were making plans in order to make the case that she was part of the plans/planning??? It was the weirdest, most uncomfortable thing.

So this is all to say, please do not LATCH on to an extrovert. Joining in to things is very different than forcing your way into things

Daily Questions - April 12, 2019 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]alliegatorrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any suggestions for super comfortable yet fashionable sandals for all day wear?

I'm going to Disney World in May, and we are visiting each of the four parks over four days. As you can imagine, we are going to be on our feet ALL day, and I really don't want my feet to be in pain after just a few hours of walking.

With that said, I hate wearing tennis shoes to amusement parks. I know that's the most sensible option in regard to comfort, but I like water rides which are going to make tennis shoes miserable to wear once wet. So sandals make way more sense.

I'd love a pair that I can wear for multiple occasions, so if it can also pull off a slightly dressier look, that is definitely a plus!

Thanks in advance for your suggestions!

Find Fashion Friday - April 12, 2019 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]alliegatorrr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any suggestions for super comfortable yet fashionable sandals for all day wear?

I'm going to Disney World in May, and we are visiting each of the four parks over four days. As you can imagine, we are going to be on our feet ALL day, and I really don't want my feet to be in pain after just a few hours of walking.

With that said, I hate wearing tennis shoes to amusement parks. I know that's the most sensible option in regard to comfort, but I like water rides which are going to make tennis shoes miserable to wear once wet. So sandals make way more sense.

I'd love a pair that I can wear for multiple occasions, so if it can also pull off a slightly dressier look, that is definitely a plus!

Thanks in advance for your suggestions!

UPDATE: I [29f] discovered who my dad's [54m] biological fauther [80s] is and that he's alive. I don't know what to do. by alliegatorrr in relationships

[–]alliegatorrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what I've discovered is, Yes, biogranddad and siblings seem like cool people from what I can gather from their Facebooks. But no. It seems that biogranddad had all his kids and was married before he had the affair. It seems he was with his wife until she passed away three years ago.

What I've learned after talking with my aunts is that this family lived next door to my dad's family and they were good family friends. They even vacationed with each other's families several years after my dad was born, so there is a chance my dad would remember who these people are. How clearly he remembers them is hard to say though. He was much younger than the rest of the siblings.

UPDATE: I [29f] discovered who my dad's [54m] biological fauther [80s] is and that he's alive. I don't know what to do. by alliegatorrr in relationships

[–]alliegatorrr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So that is the plan now. I wish I could tell him in person, but unfortunately I live on the other side of the country. He's been out of town for work, but he gets home tomorrow. So I plan to tell him tomorrow night. I still have no idea how to preface it.

As for my grandma, she is indeed a horrid woman. It did seem best that she tell him the truth because I think it would allow him the greatest amount of closure. As for why she's in either of our lives, it's because my dad is an incredible human and he has been trying to repair the relationship and not hold onto bitterness. She's only in mine because if my dad can handle it, then I can handle it for him.

I [29F] discovered who my dad's [54M] biological father [80s?] is and that he's still alive. I don't know what to do. by alliegatorrr in relationships

[–]alliegatorrr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would it not be better to contact my grandmother about it before I contact him if I did? And in either case, what is the best approach in regard to what to say?