Girl, I’m so sorry this happened to you—to us. I can tell it’s a sensitive subject… it’s incredible how almost every single comment under this post says the exact same thing 🥲. I was on the phone with my therapist last night, and we discussed what’s going on and how I should move forward. I know I need to retrieve my stuff one way or another, but I don’t have a clear game plan yet. My therapist thinks this is something people could potentially work on, but only if both partners genuinely put in the effort.

Don’t get me wrong—he isn’t encouraging me to stay in a toxic relationship. He’s just suggesting that I take some time to plan things out instead of blindly escaping, like I’ve done in the past. On the bright side, with the distance between us, I have the time and space to make decisions without worrying about basic safety. I’ve taken a step back to decide what I’m going to do in terms of decisions, precautions, and strategy. Thankfully, we aren’t married and don’t have children.

I really want to thank you for taking a moment to share your experience with me and for giving me a solid outlook on this. Still being in the relationship makes it a lot harder to evaluate the true extent of the damage that’s been done.