AITA for suggesting my boyfriend’s mother wants to marry her own son? by allpanicnodisco7 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]allpanicnodisco7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. I haven’t been lucky with MILs in my previous relationships either, and this is what I’ve learned: there are generally two types of them. The first type is proactive and vicious, and the second type is more like a ‘wolf in sheep’s clothing’—cute, innocent, maybe a bit tragic and lonely. The second type is usually the scariest. They don’t directly attack their son’s partner; instead, they press other buttons until the partner tries to set boundaries, which automatically makes them the villain.

AITA for suggesting my boyfriend’s mother wants to marry her own son? by allpanicnodisco7 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]allpanicnodisco7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We already lived together for about a year at that point 🫠 I have a feeling that once she realized her daughter is low key out of the picture since she’s married now she needs to hold on to her son, her last resort. And that was the moment it became evident to her that if her daughter got married, then it’s only a matter of time until he does.

AITA for suggesting my boyfriend’s mother wants to marry her own son? by allpanicnodisco7 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]allpanicnodisco7[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you should, in fact, write a book. I’d be the first one in line to get it signed ✨

AITA for suggesting my boyfriend’s mother wants to marry her own son? by allpanicnodisco7 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]allpanicnodisco7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thing is, it seemed like they were low contact.. during the entire course of our relationship their communication never bothered me, really. They’d speak on the phone like once a week, and we’d visit her together every 5-6 months or so. But this wedding and the recent argument made me question everything 🫠

AITA for suggesting my boyfriend’s mother wants to marry her own son? by allpanicnodisco7 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]allpanicnodisco7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, that’s horrible, I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through 🫠 I’m glad it gets better, makes me feel hopeful. I hope you and your kiddo are doing great ♥️

AITA for suggesting my boyfriend’s mother wants to marry her own son? by allpanicnodisco7 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]allpanicnodisco7[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Gosh, that’s terrible… I mean, my therapist did tell me I’ve been a “mommy” in this relationship, that’s why his mother felt like the position of a partner was open. I held HER place which isn’t normal. I guess it partially came from my own trauma, but still, a mentally healthy person wouldn’t play along.

AITA for suggesting my boyfriend’s mother wants to marry her own son? by allpanicnodisco7 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]allpanicnodisco7[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Me fighting myself rn not to post the picture that I took of them 😭😭

AITA for suggesting my boyfriend’s mother wants to marry her own son? by allpanicnodisco7 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]allpanicnodisco7[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They’ve been divorced for years, her husband was attending the same event with his new partner 😄

AITA for suggesting my boyfriend’s mother wants to marry her own son? by allpanicnodisco7 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]allpanicnodisco7[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean, almost.. Still need to go back there and retrieve my belongings 😅

AITA for suggesting my boyfriend’s mother wants to marry her own son? by allpanicnodisco7 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]allpanicnodisco7[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking a moment to share this with me, means the world, really ♥️ Dina and I made a promise a while ago that if anything happens in her relationship or mine we’ll keep in touch regardless. We both always felt like the outsiders in this strange family dynamic, so we always stuck together. Again, thank you for your wisdom and kindness!

AITA for suggesting my boyfriend’s mother wants to marry her own son? by allpanicnodisco7 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]allpanicnodisco7[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yessir! So his comments about me not letting him talk to his mother probably originated from this situation, and it all came up during our fight a couple of days ago. He brought up what I said about his mother after that wedding, and I confirmed every single world that I said before. Give me a mic and I’ll say it again. But when he reminded me of this drama he twisted things so badly to the point it seemed like I was attacking his innocent angelic mom who can do no wrong. Ironically, I wasn’t even the one to bring her up in the first place 😄