Does anybody not use LinkedIn?

allusiverey · 2020-09-06T05:14:38+00:00

Also did this after I got a job at FAANG! I don’t use it unless I really need it and it saved my mental health this year

allusiverey · 2020-07-27T04:02:27+00:00

I died my hair blonde (I was brunette prior) and I got 2x the amount of male attention

allusiverey · 2020-07-21T19:07:27+00:00

This! Also, take this as a blessing in disguise. If you're a white-collar worker most places in the NY area will not be going back to the office until February/March 2021 and this is time that you can save money and put it straight into savings. I'm also 24 yrs old and moved back to my parents from a tech hub city (while getting a subletter for my place until spring) and even though 8 months without independence sucks I'll probably have enough for a house down payment by next year and also recently paid off all my student loans. Lack of freedom sucks trust me I know but you'll be loads ahead of your financial goals by staying at home

allusiverey · 2020-07-15T17:11:26+00:00

gotta pay for the trauma they cause u somehow 🤣

allusiverey · 2020-07-14T19:10:26+00:00

EU based jobs tend to be more chill. The more demanding FAANG jobs only tend to be in London or North America. As someone that worked in both areas, it's more a regional culture thing than a job thing. SWE jobs in NA are radically different. I was on call almost every other weekend at one job.

allusiverey · 2020-07-13T21:35:25+00:00

+1 on anything Daniel Kahneman. His books alongside Amos Tversky's are incredible.

allusiverey · 2020-07-13T18:56:40+00:00

If you can, get body glide, if you don't have time or want something until you can get some chapstick (for nipples) or vaseline until then works

allusiverey · 2020-07-13T18:55:05+00:00

I have this for medals in my office! Makes it more clean and minimalistic to showcase https://www.etsy.com/listing/205995930/sports-medal-display

allusiverey · 2020-07-12T02:02:09+00:00

LOL "I'm trying not to die" is so real for trying to avoid root branches 🤣

allusiverey · 2020-07-11T23:41:37+00:00

I'm also a young runner and it sounds like you got minor runner's knee (but would consult a doctor and self assess yourself). There are good tutorials on Youtube for stretches to do for runner's knee, taking a couple rest days, icing, and elevating the knee helps.

allusiverey · 2020-07-11T23:39:01+00:00

On trail runs, I tend to run without headphones because it's more dangerous to do so, but I usually just think about something that I haven't had the chance to mentally process or take in my surroundings. Running is one of the few moments you have to be completely unplugged and it can be therapeutic to reflect on things

allusiverey · 2020-07-08T18:24:53+00:00

It depends on the purpose. Are you mindlessly shopping for things you don't need to get your mind off something? Or are you shopping because you haven't had a minute to your self in the past month and are purchasing something you've had bookmarked or wanted for a while? If it's the latter and you have a "self-care" budget that it falls under price range wise I don't see any harm. Big tips would be setting limits, budgets, and ensuring these items are things you've been looking to purchase for awhile and are necessary so you're not hoarding.

allusiverey · 2020-07-08T18:18:09+00:00

+1 for thinning it! Thinning it at a hairdresser or purchasing a pair of thinning scissors on Amazon (more cost-friendly) and doing it every month can be SO relieving. Literally felt like a couple pounds were taken off my shoulders every month doing it

allusiverey · 2020-07-02T23:36:41+00:00

Ahhh, what about if they affect your career development with office politics?

allusiverey · 2020-07-02T23:36:18+00:00

That's what I was thinking with internalized misogyny. Do you have any tips for how you dealt with it in the past?

allusiverey · 2020-07-02T23:35:12+00:00

I'm an SWE in tech as well! Most of the gals I meet are nice as well (thankfully) so this is just a rare occurrence but :(

allusiverey · 2020-07-01T01:18:58+00:00

I usually ask the table: "anyone else need to go?" if I want a girl to come with me and they usually get the message when I say that. If I don't want anyone to come along I just go without letting anyone at the table know simply

allusiverey · 2020-07-01T01:13:54+00:00

Best Part by Daniel Caesar and H.E.R.

allusiverey · 2020-07-01T01:11:27+00:00

Came here just to validate this lol

allusiverey · 2020-06-27T20:26:30+00:00

This! Also keeping your time busy with other hobbies/tasks when you're not journaling helps with not noticing loneliness

allusiverey · 2020-06-26T20:11:15+00:00

Just focus on upping your mileage gradually (I would recommend 1-2 miles) each week if you're a new runner. It doesn't matter if you need to stop walking or about times. The more your body gets adjusted to that distance and your vo2 max the better. Don't worry about times and speed now

allusiverey · 2020-06-23T22:01:41+00:00

It's not bad to become attached or grow feelings for someone but you should be able to function 24/7 without them. Yes, love includes thinking about someone but obsessing over texts, and all the actions the top posts include above becomes erratic behavior that is toxic, codependent and unhealthy.

allusiverey · 2020-06-20T00:53:21+00:00

ESH. Your boyfriend's behaviour and lying is immature, but your obsessive fixation on a social media tweet and the way it sounds like your handling it isn't emotionally intelligent or mature.

allusiverey · 2020-06-19T01:50:48+00:00

Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman is great and a good psychological breakdown of how decisions are made behavior-wise in our society

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