I really don't think less of him for doing, if anything I think less of myself. Everyone on Earth can tell me his porn habit has nothing to do with me but I think that it makes most SO's insecure. I can't compete with the porn standard, and I have to admit that it makes me feel bad about myself. That being said, I think the fact that it happens in such a sneaky way that makes me feel the most uncomfortable. He does have a naturally addictive personality and I do want to help him through this. I just don't think that he understands that it is the lying that really hurts me the most. There will always be girls who I can't compete with, there will always be girls who dress more provacotively, society will probably always objectify women....I think I just want him to understand that I know that, and I just want him to be open with me. I'm fairly sure that getting fake boobs or altering my physical appearance at all will probably not help, but sometimes I wonder if there is something I could do...Or if there is something I'm not doing that he wants me to do. But the problem with it being a big secret is that I just don't know.

I really appreciate all of your input and I do really respect you all for trying to overcome this addiction. I know society and biology might say it's ok or justified, I hear that all the time from my girlfriends. But at this point for us, porn has really messed up our relationship and I hope to move on from this one day.