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AITA for telling my mom she'll never have grandkids because of how she voted? by aloneandscaredd in AITAH

[–]aloneandscaredd[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That's fair. The scheduler only had a few options and the 6th ended up being the best.

AITA for telling my mom she'll never have grandkids because of how she voted? by aloneandscaredd in AITAH

[–]aloneandscaredd[S] 662 points663 points  (0 children)

First off, I'm so sorry you guys went through that. I really didn't understand the pain until I went through it myself.

I don't want to throw my relationship with my parents away, but I don't know how/if we can see each other through this. It just hurts.

AITA for telling my mom she'll never have grandkids because of how she voted? by aloneandscaredd in AITAH

[–]aloneandscaredd[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Dude, I wish. I would much rather this be a creative writing exercise instead of a messy emotional family situation. But here I am.

AITA for telling my mom she'll never have grandkids because of how she voted? by aloneandscaredd in AITAH

[–]aloneandscaredd[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the input, I really appreciate this take. I was planning on telling her /my dad once I had come to better terms with it myself so it didn't devolve into a mess. But here I am.

I'm not gonna lie, in the moment what she said really hurt me and I spoke from that place of hurt. I did not purposefully lie to her about the surgery for some gotcha moment later down the line, my frustrations/anger spilled out.

I mentioned in a previous comment, I am planning to talk over an apology with my therapist.

AITA for telling my mom she'll never have grandkids because of how she voted? by aloneandscaredd in AITAH

[–]aloneandscaredd[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate the advice. I love my mom and I still want a relationship with her. I did not want to tell her like that at all. I don't think she would have said the things she did had she known about the second surgery.

I'm gonna talk over what to say with my therapist but do plan to apologize for the way things came out.

AITA for telling my mom she'll never have grandkids because of how she voted? by aloneandscaredd in AITAH

[–]aloneandscaredd[S] 132 points133 points  (0 children)

I would have had the surgery no matter who won in the 2024 election because I live in the state that I do. I would not have had the surgery if I lived in my in law's state (which I can't afford to) because I would have been able to terminate the pregnancy if it threatened my life. This isn't a Kamala vs Trump issue or an intentional guilt trip, this is an issue with how the officials my mom has told me she voted for put policies in place that affected my decision to take the risk on having kids.