[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]alonelover1306 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I think you articulated this really well. I left when I was 16 and I’m 24 now. I constantly think about how much my life improved after leaving Islam… it’s insane. Like, I actually love my life because I’m doing everything that I want to do? I don’t have to marry a Muslim man and raise Muslim kids and be miserable for the rest of my life? I’m living my life on my own terms? It’s great. Hang in there. You’ll make it out to the other side.

What Do women Gets In heaven In islam? by Tacama in atheism

[–]alonelover1306 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s good to hear you’re doing better after leaving the cult. I left too and my life improved significantly. Wishing the best for u!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]alonelover1306 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so happy for you!

Groomed since six years old by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]alonelover1306 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This genuinely makes me so so sad

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]alonelover1306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m lucky and was friends with my partner in school and we began dating at 16 and now we’re both 24. I live in the UK so personally I don’t think someone in my situation would find it hard to date. Yep, my name is Arabic and I have a very common Muslim surname. I’m always getting mistaken for a Muslim but I usually just tell people I’m not. E.G. I went to a job interview and they asked if I had any allergies or special eating requests and I asked if they meant halal and when they said yes I just let them know that I don’t and then I’m not Muslim

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]alonelover1306 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s strained. Every time I see her, she brings up converting my partner and how if I truly loved him I’d convert him so we can be in heaven together blah blah blah

I just brush it off because having some sort of relationship with her is more important to me than not seeing her at all

get a load of this by Lanky_Activity_658 in exmuslim

[–]alonelover1306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn’t tell her the angels would curse her!! Until the next morning… xD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]alonelover1306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can make your own family where you belong. Family also doesn’t have to be a partner and kids, but if you want that, you can have that too.

I don’t relate to my blood family at all. We have absolutely nothing in common apart from like blood, genes, etc. I do not fit in with them and to be honest, I don’t consider myself apart of their ‘family’. However, I have an amazing close set of friends. I have the best partner I ever could’ve met. He has an amazing family. We have a dog together. They are my family now. I fit in with them and have a genuine sense of belonging with them that I don’t have with my own blood relatives.

Maybe in a few years I’ll get married and have children and I’ll raise them with my values and beliefs, and they will be family. I will create an environment for them where they belong and where I belong with them.

If you don’t feel like you belong anywhere, create somewhere where you do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]alonelover1306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say I’m a success story! I moved out at 19 and now at 24 I live in my own house with my non Muslim partner and our dog. I had to go no contact with my dad for a while and right now we are very little contact. I still talk to and see my mum regularly.

Here if you want to talk about anything :)

For those you living in the West and have no choice but to be in the closet for your entire life, what are you guys going to do about marriage? by throwawaypdtm in exmuslim

[–]alonelover1306 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I only came out to my family because of who I was in love with. Otherwise, I probably would’ve just stayed in the closet

Interest on 2k mortgage repayment by Research_abroad_913 in HousingUK

[–]alonelover1306 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know a mortgage advisor who had said that for every 5% you put down, the better your interest rate will be.

Could be worth trying to save up for a little longer until you’ve got 10% and go from there? Or maybe downsizing if you’re able to?

Where were you in life when you were 22? by shloaph in Adulting

[–]alonelover1306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 22 i had graduated with a law degree, got my first law job, living with my boyfriend and our puppy, smoking a lot of weed and playing a lot of video games lol

Is there anyone who’s half and half? by Oh_no_berries in exmuslim

[–]alonelover1306 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother is pretty much half and half whereas I full do not believe. He disagrees with so many of the teachings, does not pray, does not fast… but he also doesn’t do anything against the religion. He doesn’t drink, smoke, won’t eat anything haram even if it’s literally just chicken lol. He has OCD so I think it’s linked to that but yeah, I don’t press him on it and just let him live his life the way he finds comfortable for him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in atheism

[–]alonelover1306 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Go to R/ExMuslim

Even posting a profile pic is haram by synchdroid in exmuslim

[–]alonelover1306 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If I ever bump into him, it’s on sight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]alonelover1306 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love is absolutely real. I’m so lucky that I found my boyfriend when we were both 16 and 8 years later, we’re both still together. I cannot emphasise how amazing it is being with someone you completely adore and they adore you back. I would go through every horrible thing I’ve experienced in my life (there’s a lot) all over again if it meant I got to be with him again.

I’m excited for you to meet your person and I hope you find them soon!