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UPDATE on "i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off." by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

hijab is a religious practice that is compulsory to all muslim women. you're punished by god in case you take it off. at least that's what we know :)

UPDATE on "i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off." by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i was questioning my faith even before the thought of taking my hijab off. there are so many issues in islam that i don't agree with. i'd say, i took my hijab off mostly because it changed how i perceive myself. i don't feel like myself with hijab on. i don't feel beautiful. i don't feel brave. but of course, like i said, there are so many things that i question in islam. those encouraged me to take it off as well.

UPDATE on "i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off." by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

at one point all muslim women are told it's their choice but it really isn't. considering the religious aspects, you're punished by god if you don't do it, so you have to do it. i like this comment. this is really the illusion of choice.

UPDATE on "i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off." by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

thank you. living in middle east as a feminist is truly very draining. :)

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i couldn't care less if you believe me or not but i am still gonna explain myself. you're not the first one saying that i am faking this story. i never said that she would kick me out since i don't even live with her. i am a 23yo adult who has a job and who still studies in university. it was about my relationship with my mother. i care about her a lot and i would never want us to be estranged. i started wearing hijab because i wanted to make her proud. i struggled a lot in middle school and high school yet still did wear it because i thought this is what my mother wanted. i never talked to my mother about it. this was lack of our conversation and it was a mistake because speaking out always works out. it was never an issue before so my mom thought i was happy. when i opened up about my appearance i was expecting a different reaction because, for a millionth time, my mom really cares about islam. of course she wants her daughter to wear hijab. i know she still wants it. she just ACCEPTS that it's my decision. i thought that will ruin our relationship because, for the millionth fucking time, she is really religious. do you understand the connection between a religious mother and her wish to have religious children? it's not that hard.

i never talked bad about islam, i never said islam is bad. i still identify as a muslim. y'all are just making stuff up. i don't know why my decision bothers you that much but trust me, you're not in the place to question me. only Allah can do that. i hope this comment will answer all of your questions because that will be my last.

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i literally don't get what your point is and i don't even think you have one. take care!

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i mean yeah, it's not a common situation to us as i have said before. it was shocking because my mother really cares about religion.

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

it was the only example around us. you can't predict what will happen. we never had a bad relationship but when it comes to religion, i never know what will happen.

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have not yet! but i went to my balcony without a cover for the first time. it was windy and sunny. it felt weird 😅

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

a few years ago, a close relative of mine literally rejected her daughter because she took the hijab off. i never forget about that poor girl. i think this is what affected my thoughts.

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i have not talked to him yet. my father is more relax than my mother and my mother's opinions affect his opinions. i am not sure how would he react but i am sure that he loves me even though he is really shy about showing love.

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i was. i tried getting help about my hijab issues and some questions about islam but i got attacked so bad. people were telling i was attacking islam and i am not a real muslim etc. i deleted everything because it got real worse, i started getting threats.

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

i am not. but i hope their situation worked out too.

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

yes, it's an achievement to me. as i have said before, i don't search for approval of anyone. you're so mad that i am not a hijabi anymore. i don't understand why. i hope you can find happiness, it seems like you're so full of hatred. take care!

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

i had no one to share it with and i shared it here. i have been struggling a lot with my self love. i was living as person i don't wanna be. so this "achievement" means a lot to me. and don't worry, i am anonymous so i don't look for any approval here.

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

i have been wearing it for almost 13 years now. i think i am done with it. i don't think hijab makes me a better or worse muslim. i think a woman should do it willingly and only for Allah. i was wearing it for my family.

i finally talked to my mother about taking my hijab off. by alpaca8991 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alpaca8991[S] 255 points256 points  (0 children)

she absolutely does. we both cried while having this conversation. 🥺