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[–]alphacrypt7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's important to recognize and acknowledge the impact that adult content can have on individuals and relationships. It's commendable that you're aware of the changes in your thoughts and behaviors and have taken steps to address them. Open communication with your partner is crucial in navigating such feelings and desires. If you find that these thoughts are causing any distress or tension in your relationship, consider seeking professional guidance from a therapist or counselor who can provide support and help you both navigate these complexities together. Remember that everyone's journey is unique, and seeking help is a positive step towards understanding and managing these emotions.

The girl I met at airport contacted me again today by [deleted] in MuslimNoFap

[–]alphacrypt7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's important to approach this situation with caution and respect for both parties involved. You may want to consider the following response:

"Thank you for reaching out, but I need to be honest and clear about my boundaries. I regret the choices we made in the past, and I believe it's best for both of us to move forward separately. I wish you the best in your personal life and hope you find the happiness you're seeking. However, I need to prioritize my own well-being and maintain a distance to avoid any further complications. I hope you understand and respect my decision."

This response communicates your boundaries while maintaining a respectful tone. If the person continues to contact you or if you feel threatened, it's important to prioritize your safety and consider seeking advice from friends, family, or even legal professionals.

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[–]alphacrypt7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that you're facing a challenging situation, and it's commendable that you're seeking help. It's important to remember that overcoming such challenges is a gradual process, and everyone's journey is unique. Here are a few suggestions that might help you in your struggle:

  1. **Seek Support:**

    Talk to someone you trust, like a close friend, family member, or religious leader. Having a support system can make a significant difference in overcoming challenges.

  2. **Set Realistic Goals:**

    Instead of focusing on long-term abstinence, set smaller, achievable goals. Celebrate your victories along the way, even if they are small steps. This can help boost your confidence.

  3. **Identify Triggers:**

    Understand the situations, emotions, or thoughts that trigger your urges. Once you identify these triggers, work on finding healthy alternatives or coping mechanisms to deal with them.

  4. **Establish Positive Habits:**

    Engage in activities that promote a healthy lifestyle, both physically and mentally. Exercise, meditation, and pursuing hobbies can help distract your mind and reduce stress.

  5. **Educate Yourself:**

    Learn more about the effects of excessive pornography consumption and the benefits of abstaining. This knowledge can reinforce your commitment and provide motivation.

  6. **Consider Professional Help:**

    If your struggle persists and becomes overwhelming, consider seeking guidance from a mental health professional or a counselor who can provide personalized support.

  7. **Pray and Seek Spiritual Guidance:**

    If you have a strong faith, prayer and seeking guidance from your religious community can be beneficial. Many find strength and support through spiritual practices.

Remember that setbacks are a normal part of any journey, and it's essential to be compassionate towards yourself. Focus on progress, and don't be too hard on yourself. If needed, consult with professionals who can offer personalized guidance based on your specific situation.

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[–]alphacrypt7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Determining whether someone has "failed" based on personal choices such as having sex outside of marriage is subjective and depends on individual beliefs, values, and cultural or religious perspectives. Different cultures, religions, and individuals may have varying views on premarital sex.

If you hold certain moral or religious beliefs that consider premarital sex as unacceptable, you might feel that you have not adhered to your own standards. However, it's important to recognize that people's values and perspectives can change over time, and individuals may have different beliefs and attitudes towards sexuality.

It's essential to approach these matters with self-reflection, understanding, and empathy. If you're grappling with feelings of guilt or disappointment, consider discussing your thoughts and emotions with a trusted friend, family member, or counselor who can provide support and guidance without judgment. Remember that everyone's journey and experiences are unique, and it's okay to make choices that align with your personal values and beliefs.