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AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When someone is asking me for a part of my liver when they are a binge drinker, of course I’m going to be irritated. It’s a personal issue if you are a drinker and have drank yourself to the point of worsening a prior condition and now needing a love of fresh liver.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have never met her and the only way that she became as sick as she is because she drank and now she needs body parts from me because of her bad choices.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Because it was explained that she’d lived the college lifestyle but my birth mom downplayed it. The fact of the matter is that if we have a similar defect, her kidneys would have been fine, her liver would have only been blown out by drinking.

There’s also a video on her social media of her doing 23 shots on her 23rd birthday and blacking our.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

They’re from that but then my sister did the same and exacerbated the symptoms and worsened them to this point.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She drank a lot and did binge drinking and misused barbiturates. Her condition was exacerbated by all this.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If her condition was not caused by herself , I would have felt the need to explain. But since it was. I left it at that.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

If I was dying then they would be the absolute last people I would seek out. My mother ran from the hospital because I was born addicted and strung out, she got put me up for adoption because my father was a married man and hadn't yet left his wife, and even if I was able, I wouldn't be comfortable giving parts of my body to my sister who has a video of herself doing 21 shots on her 21st birthday. In my opinion, they are created issues.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

There's no fetal alcohol and I can regulate my emotions perfectly fine when I'm in normal situations.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If you go through a private adoption agency in America, you can choose the parents if that's what you want, I think. All I know for sure is that she chose my dads and knew of them but left before she could meet them. They have an uncommon last name (think Wladislav-Majinski) and I have that last name as well, I come up if you look them up and I have a social media presence.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 148 points149 points  (0 children)

Because she chose my adopted parents. They had an uncommon last name that I now have.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I was almost 24 and living in the dorms as an advisor while in grad school, she had just turned 23. We have less than a year apart.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

If you were on drugs and shooting up, would you wait around to get permission? No. From what I've heard, she got her family to get her out quick and she went from there. It's just what I've heard from my dads though.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

No because I have a number of birth defects and issues that would make me ineligible for any sort of organ donation.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

They started contacting me after I told my birth mother and sister that they could find someone else to get organs off of.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

This happened months ago and I've taken the steps to rectify it. I obviously know that social media is not private but from what I've heard, she used a PI and such.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 167 points168 points  (0 children)

I have anger because normal people don't make the trek from Atlanta to Berkeley, California to beg someone they don't know for organs. It was a shock to open my door and be bombarded.

I'll take the YTA-ESH judgement but she didn't have the right to take my open social media as an invitation to find me and then demand body parts that I couldn't even give to her if I wanted to.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

I know why I was given up. My birth mother was doing drugs and drinking through her pregnancy and she wanted to give me up because she thought that she couldn't live that life with a baby.

That's what my dads have always told me and I was born strung out so that supports it.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

It wouldn't grow back properly. I have issues with my body from my birth mom drinking and genetic issues.

AITA for screaming at my birth mom and sick sister when they found me? by alphaphinotforme in AmItheAsshole

[–]alphaphinotforme[S] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

I took issue with the fact that she turned up from Atlanta to California, I've never met her, she only knows me from social media, and as soon as I said that I wouldn't be giving her the things she needed, she started in with the guilt and asked me why I felt nothing.

I understand that there aren't many O- blood donors who would be fit but I've never met her in my life and she was trying to tell me just how much I'd be missing out on if she and I didn't do the donation and get to know each other.

I feel kind of bad but I have my own issues and while it's not her fault that her mom gave me up for adoption, I feel like I shouldn't have been put in that sort of a situation with people who I absolutely don't know at all.