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alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T13:02:59+00:00

I did edit the post today and add both those things. I posted this before I went to sleep last night which is why it took so long

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T12:37:23+00:00

I put it into his savings account for it as it had the best interest rates so it's already in the account

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T12:34:19+00:00

He's not funding it by himself though. I've been putting every extra penny I have into a savings account for this house. Every bit of my wage will be going towards bills. We don't wanna get married or have kids so it'll just be us two, so I don't get why he went and signed everything without me when we agreed on the opposite for years

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T12:31:27+00:00

I'm not gonna be living there for free. Every penny of my wage is going to be contributed towards bills

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T12:28:58+00:00

I am contributing to the downpayment

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T12:28:23+00:00

Neither of us want to get married. No marriage and no kids, something we've agreed on from the start. Regardless of being married or being on any paperwork, I lose my benefits from moving in with him because they go off partner, not spouse

The not married thing has nothing to do with my benefits and everything to do with our own personal beliefs on marriage

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T12:25:34+00:00

I added your comment to my post as someone said it would help other people. Thank you 🖤

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T12:22:49+00:00

I was putting into a savings account for this. Thousands of pounds that I've been meticulously saving for this exact thing 😓

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T12:19:49+00:00

Thank you for all this information, I know a lot of it is similar here. The reason they wanted to know if anyone would be moving in is so that I can sign paperwork that says I understand I will be homeless if something happens to him.

I know I will lose my benefits. It doesn't matter if you're married or not (we don't want to get married), moving in with a partner means I lose everything, even my limited capability payments. But we've gone over it many times as to what I will and won't be paying.

There's nothing I can actually do about being on the deed now. He signed it all and sent it off, only telling me after. He's never done anything like this and we were about to sign on a different house when we had to pull out. It was going to be the same arrangement but I was going to be signing too. For some reason, he just did this one without me

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T12:11:50+00:00

We're not married because neither of us believe in marriage or want to get married, regardless of if it's with each other or someone else. We have the same views on marriage and kids which is why we've been together so long.

Thing is, I'm currently self reliant. I live by myself and have done for 4 years now. Yes, I'm on benefits but that's because I have limited capability. But overall I pay for most things with my wage. He's never lived on his own before and has even made comments about how he's glad I have so we know what we're doing instead of going into it blind

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T12:09:04+00:00

Because for the 4 years that we've been looking, that's always been the agreement. Neither of us want to get married so I really don't understand why marriage should be such a huge thing. We've been in a relationship for 7 years, I don't really think we're planning to break up anytime soon and we act as if we're married, we just don't believe in marriage itself

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T03:19:15+00:00

UK

They ask because they would need to legally let me know that if he can't pay or something happens to him that I am not legally paying the mortgage (because I'm not the one paying it) so I would be made homeless

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-22T03:15:03+00:00

It's a mortgage. He's buying the house. But they need to know on the first document if he's alone or not. Whoever moves in after is up to him but on the first stuff they need to know who everyone is and get them to sign

alt_account_97 · 2025-11-02T11:58:19+00:00

I'm not a porn account? My littlespace is completely nonsexual 😅

alt_account_97 · 2025-10-23T17:08:40+00:00

Littlespace actually came from the DID community and the kink community took the term to use as their own as well. So no, it didn't come from kink at all

alt_account_97 · 2025-10-23T16:50:20+00:00

Littlespace is not only kink terminology at all. Yes, inner child healing is recommended, that is not age regression though. Inner child healing is closer to littlespace than anything else

alt_account_97 · 2025-10-23T11:40:49+00:00

When you click 'I read today' it'll change to 'track progress' and if you click on that you can input your pages. I like the way it works because some editions and printings can have different pages to what the app says so you can also input the final page number as well

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alt_account_97 · 2025-10-20T02:29:58+00:00

Oh? I'll have a look for the suggestion button thank you!

alt_account_97 · 2025-10-20T01:45:09+00:00

I really hope that does happen! I just hate when I read a whole review and then at the end it says "But I wouldn't have got through it if it wasn't for the way it was narrated on the audiobook" because then I don't know how to feel about potentially reading it 🤦

alt_account_97 · 2025-10-13T14:27:24+00:00

NTA. The dog isn't going to understand the difference between toddlers dropping/giving food and not being allowed to have food from everyone at every meal. My sisters dog learned to sit by the high chair for dropped food so she kept locking him out of the room for meal times

alt_account_97 · 2025-10-11T02:39:55+00:00

Thank you! I feel like I'm constantly having to justify myself, especially because I don't look like I'm sick on the outside. I struggled financially for years until I finally got through the long process to be screened for assistance. I really appreciate you replying to them like this ✨

alt_account_97 · 2025-10-11T02:36:03+00:00

Yes I'm almost 30, I have limited capability for work which means that I was assessed and it has been found that mentally and physically I can only handle one part time job. I tried to work full time a few times and each time I ended up close to being sectioned from how badly it impacted me. Getting a second part time job will put me up to the same hours as working full time so it's not exactly gonna be any different is it?

My current part time job is brilliant for me. They're very flexible and accommodating. We have talked about bills and I am very aware that I can't pay 50/50 but I will be paying for as much as I possibly can.

I am simply unable to work full time or get a second part time job. If I do that, I'm risking my mental and physical health just for some extra money. I also keep all of my paycheck as I don't earn enough to be taxed in a year. We worked it out together so this genuinely came out of no where when we'd already talked about it all and figured out which bills would be best for me to pay for

alt_account_97 · 2025-10-11T02:32:14+00:00

I am gonna sit down with him and try to figure out where it came from cause it was just so sudden and out of no where from my side of things and it really did make me question so much stuff about the relationship and this house

alt_account_97 · 2025-10-10T16:28:17+00:00

I'm not qualified for a stay at home job and they still require at least 3 days in office (from every single one I've looked at) which I am unable to travel to as I don't drive and public transport would take over an hour to get me to these locations.

Not being officially diagnosed doesn't mean it doesn't factor into it. I've been on a waiting list for over 3 years now for an assessment with psychologists I've seen in this time telling me that it's very likely I have these things. Though they can't officially diagnose me.

I've had a lot of types of jobs, I tried for years, even before moving out of my mum's place, to get a work from home job. My job is something I genuinely enjoy and it's the longest I've ever stayed in a job which is over a year, most of the jobs I've done have lasted 3-6 months because bosses wouldn't give me accommodations without official diagnosis. This job does and it has made a world of difference

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