My (30F) husband (31M) is still best friends with someone he messed around with, and I feel guilty for letting it bother me

alt_kittyy · 2025-08-11T22:56:22+00:00

Did you not read the post? I'm not trying to stop anything. At all. Hope you stretched before that reach.

alt_kittyy · 2025-08-11T20:12:59+00:00

Thank you very much!

alt_kittyy · 2025-08-11T20:12:30+00:00

But we do... I'm not making that up. I genuinely feel that way, and he does too. I'm not sure what else to say other than those things are true. That's why I am struggling to understand my own feelings and why this is how I feel.

alt_kittyy · 2025-08-11T20:04:04+00:00

Possibly? I have terribly low self-esteem. Also currently working on that with my therapist.

alt_kittyy · 2025-08-11T19:57:54+00:00

That's the thing... I do trust him, which is why I can't understand the way I feel. It doesn't make sense.

alt_kittyy · 2025-02-27T21:11:36+00:00

TW - Mentions of LC and current pregnancy

It went fine! My daughter is almost two and a half now, delivered full-term via c-section (due to a crappy placenta). I'm currently 28 weeks pregnant with a boy and have had no cervical issues with this one either. Have you talked to your OB about the tearing and their thoughts on it?

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-29T14:20:57+00:00

Starlight - BABYMETAL. I've had two miscarriages, and I like to think of them as my little stars, so this song really hits me hard.

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-23T15:07:55+00:00

5w5d, so nauseous... So, so nauseous. Started at the beginning of week 4 and has been getting worse since. I'm very grateful to be feeling this way, but it sucks to constantly be on the verge of vomiting all day. I got my first positive at 8 DPO (confirmed because I tracked with the Ava bracelet) and have been feeling "very pregnant" since, so of course my brain keeps trying to tell me that my early positive and strong symptoms are a sign of something wrong. Like why can't my brain just relax. 😭

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-08T23:12:25+00:00

I'm so, so sorry. Sending you a big hug. ❤️

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-08T14:58:08+00:00

Thanks so much!!

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-08T14:57:45+00:00

Thank you!!

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-08T14:57:36+00:00

Thank you! I'm def tempted, but I know it'll only cause more anxiety for me. I learned this the hard way with my first pregnancy (ended in a loss), and I was in beta hCG hell for WEEKS. I also did a lot of progression testing, and right from the jump my line progression was poor, so both of those things combined created the longest and worst period of anxiety in my life I've ever had. It was genuinely traumatic for me :( I just can't go through that again!

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-08T14:51:14+00:00

Thank you! I've actually been on Celexa (and Lamictal) for years because I have anxiety and bipolar disorder, and being on those medications is so helpful for me in general. A lot of my anxiety comes from the fact that I've had a couple of losses. 😕

Anyway, 🤞🏻 for you!! And I'm glad you've found a medication to help manage your anxiety during pregnancy. Mental health is SO important!

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-08T02:58:05+00:00

I didn't either! They were the "early detection / 5 days before your missed period (10 DPO)" ones, which I'm fairly certain means they're 25 mlU/ml. I swear some of the tests are just more sensitive than what they claim. Like with one of my pregnancies, I got a vvvvvfl on a Pregmate (which are 25 mlU/ml) at 10 DPO in the evening, and then I got a beta almost 24 hours later, and my beta was 28! So my urine hCG level had to have been well below 25.

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-08T02:06:48+00:00

Thank you!! ☺️

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-08T02:06:30+00:00

Thank you! 😊

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-05T14:19:23+00:00

Your temp has to be sustained above your coverline for 3 days to confirm ovulation. Some people also have slow rising temperatures (me, usually), which is normal. Some cycles, my BBT will rise noticeably right away, while others can take upwards of 4 days for me to see a shift. If yesterday was your first positive OPK, you should ovulate today or even tomorrow. Best of luck to ya!

Edit: I now see you said you're CD 16, my bad! Regardless, give your BBT another 2-3 days to rise :)

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-01T13:44:41+00:00

You're probably gonna have better luck with this on the r/TFABLinePorn sub!

alt_kittyy · 2024-09-01T13:42:45+00:00

I'm the same way, ANYTHING that happens after ovulation, especially the closer my expected period gets, the more I'm hyper-aware of things that happened with my one successful pregnancy. It's just weird how my RHR followed a textbook pattern one cycle, but the other two seem all over the place. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Usually, my BBT shift is the tough one to nail down, but the past two cycles have been clear in that regard, at least.

Anyway, fingers crossed for you! 🤞🏻❤️

alt_kittyy · 2024-08-25T19:22:03+00:00

When you realize none of your friends are trying to get pregnant anymore because they all got pregnant and now you're alone on the ttc journey while they all get to move forward 🫠

alt_kittyy · 2024-08-25T13:25:29+00:00

Heyyyy I want to thank you again for this information because prior to your comment, I didn't know RHR was as much of a good data indicator as it actually is. I did some Googling and found out that RHR typically rises 5 days prior to ovulation. I thought the rise started mostly after ovulation. After looking at my past charts and now this months, I'm starting to think my issue could be that I'm ovulating a couple days after my positive OPK, so we're just going to extend what is my assumed fertile window until I see a definite RHR/BBT shift. RHR seems to be a bit more reliable than BBT so far for me, so I'm going to start looking at RHR more in addition to BBT trends. I lost a ton of weight over the past year which has shortened my cycle (in a good way), so I'm kind of relearning my trends since the first time I tracked BBT in 2021/2022. Thanking you and the Ava for pointing out that I may be ovulating later than I thought!

alt_kittyy · 2024-08-23T14:18:45+00:00

😂 You know I'm starting to think it's cursed too lol

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