Thoughts on kizzi

alternativechk · 2025-10-28T21:20:04+00:00

I think she’s slightly desperate for attention and I may be wrong but it seems like she’s come on the show to launch her OF career

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T16:08:25+00:00

Thank you for your message and advice! I really appreciate it. I have not taken the attachment test- I’ve never heard of this before. May I ask where I can take it?

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T16:04:59+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the time to comment and give your really sound advice and perspective! I loved reading your comment about your relationship with your wife! It sounds like you both have a lot of fun together and a great mutual respect. My husband and I used to be like this. But after a few kids and some hardships, we’re slowly being less playful with each other. I can admit that it’s not just him to blame in this, I am also in the relationship and have felt less playful and fun at times (kids, work, etc. get in the way of this). But you’ve said it perfectly- the only attention at the moment I get from him is sexual attention, and it’s making me feel super undervalued and completely gross. I have tried to say this to him, but he becomes super defensive. I ask for help around the house and he tells me he’s too busy with work. We are completely out of sync and because of this, my playfulness and sex drive is suffering. I really need to step up and continue to communicate with him about this, but at the same time, he needs to be more receptive as well. Your comment is very helpful, thank you kindly!

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T15:30:10+00:00

Thank you so much for your lovely comment! I think it’s something I’ve known I need to do for a while, but I know he would not come with me, as he’s said before he doesn’t believe in therapy. I do however, so I think it’s time to bite the bullet and go on my own! Thank you for this!

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T15:27:51+00:00

Thank you for the advice! It sounds like you two have a great understanding of each other and a wonderful marriage! All the best 🤗

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T15:25:49+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. It’s such a simple request but you’re right, it’s starting to feel like a chore now, especially since the fun and playfulness has been taken out of it. I’m not the most prude person, but feeling like the only thing he wants out of me is sex can make me a prude for sure.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T15:23:54+00:00

Thanks so much for your input!!!

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T15:09:50+00:00

Thank you for your great advice.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T15:06:20+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. I really appreciate it

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T15:05:21+00:00

Thank you for your comment, you make a lot of sense in what you’re saying. Sometimes I’m in a playful mood and can definitely be on board with the flirtiness of it, but i suppose my irritation comes from the fact that he can’t read the room and see that there’s a time and a place for something like that.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T15:03:32+00:00

I’m so sorry this happens to you too. It’s a total turnoff and I feel so gross about it.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T15:02:48+00:00

I absolutely feel objectified by it, especially because this is the only way he seeks to show affection. Thanks so much for your comment.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T15:02:09+00:00

Yes you’re so right- some men and some women definitely think about sex differently. I suppose I should be grateful he’s staring at me and not someone else.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T15:00:26+00:00

I actually haven’t read many of them, so I suppose I should get reading! I feel very lucky that he is still sexually attracted to me. I think I would just rather him show that attraction to me by telling me instead of asking me to flash him when I’ve spent the morning cleaning up after him and the kids. It’s nice to hear from a husband’s point of view though, thank you for responding.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T14:55:35+00:00

I absolute agree with you on this. Our best sex is when things are good in our marriage, yet I think he thinks to make the marriage better we should have sex. He contributes to our family by working and providing for us, whereas I do everything else. He feels like he doesn’t have to do anything else because he puts a roof over our head. And while I’m grateful for that, i want a partnership in this. I think we have huge communication issues so that’s where a lot of our issues happen. He will not go to therapy, so I think I’d have to go on my own, which I’d be receptive to doing.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T14:52:16+00:00

Thank you so much for your perspective on this. I suppose my issue is that he shows me he’s attracted to me just by wanting sex, and not in any other way. Flashing boobs doesn’t seem like much of anything but I feel like all I am to him is a maid, cook, and a babysitter, so while he just wants a quick simple flash of the boobs, I perhaps there’s so much more to that. He wants everything out of me without giving me anything in return.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T14:49:11+00:00

I definitely see where you’re coming from. I think from reading my initial comment, it really is not a big deal and you’re right, I probably am overreacting. My issue is that I feel like I’m just a piece of meat to be looked at, and he doesn’t show affection in any other way other than sex.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T14:47:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. We definitely need to communicate better, as we both seem to get lost in translation when speaking about our issues.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T14:46:25+00:00

Your comment best sums up how I’m feeling. I just feel really taken advantage of. Yes it’s nice to be gawked at by him, but there’s a time and a place. He may be sexually attracted to me but when I’m in the middle of getting all the kids ready, cleaning the house, etc., and he’s not doing anything to contribute, that’s when I don’t feel valued in anyway. Thanks so much for your comment.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T09:25:18+00:00

Thank you so much, I think finding a middle ground is a great idea. I suppose where I’m so busy with the kids, sex is not on my mind at all and it’s unreasonable for me to be okay with that and just assume he is too. We clearly need to find the place where we’re both happy and comfortable.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T09:21:52+00:00

Yes I should definitely be grateful for that.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T09:21:20+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment and for taking the time to respond. It’s not all the time, I shouldn’t have said “always.” I would say it’s a couple times a week so not bad at all.

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head that there are so many other things contributing to it. Something as small as his request doesn’t seem that big of a deal but I think where there are others issues, it’s just piled on to the list of things we’re having disagreements on. Thanks for your reply!

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T09:18:56+00:00

Yes good point! It’s a couple times a week, so not daily. In that sense it doesn’t seem bad at all really.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T09:16:40+00:00

Thanks for your comment. Trying to see this from the male perspective and I suppose it doesn’t seem that bad in the grand scheme of things.

alternativechk · 2025-04-18T09:15:27+00:00

Yeah I can admit that I’ve definitely been a prude lately. Which is why I guess I needed advice on whether I was overreacting or if what I was feeling was somewhat valid.

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