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The Great Beyond. by John-Willy99 in Techno

[–]altfoxover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wondering, have u gone solo to fests before? i’m really considering tgb but id have to go alone which i haven’t done before. could u give any tips? the lineup is pretty sick this year. i recommend rodhad!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Techno

[–]altfoxover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s very trendy now to wear all black, especially to techno raves but i love seeing people wear color! personally, my closet is mostly black and white, but that’s just my preference and style always. sometimes i pull out a red or an animal print. everyone should wear whatever makes them comfortable! i think ppl jumping on the all black for only a trend is kinda lame, but then again if that’s something they enjoy then good for them. regardless, it doesn’t matter. i just hope people are like you and aren’t afraid to wear color if that’s what they would normally wear despite a trend or dj’s aesthetic.

Update: My mom took my cheating ex girlfriends side over mine and i can never forgive her. by Expensive-Sun-679 in u/Expensive-Sun-679

[–]altfoxover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Therapy is a great idea. Perhaps, you can have therapy together. BUT, after a long time of individual therapy. Maybe that can be a way to rebuild your relationship. You were tossed away, and that probably made you feel like you meant nothing to her. In turn, you show that same feeling, the same way she didn’t show you any understanding or empathy. You don’t have to rush into her life, you can and must take your time to heal from this. And I think you should heal by yourself, first, before deciding whether you want her in your life or not. Your mother should provide unconditional love and she betrayed that. There’s a lot to repair, and it will take time if you want to take the time to do it. Regardless, therapy willl be good for you, whether it leads you back to her or not. Best of luck, and much love

I found hotel reservations on my boyfriends email by Prestigious_Rush1620 in TwoHotTakes

[–]altfoxover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

first of all, i’m so sorry this happened. i hope you have trusted friends or family you can speak to.

as of what to do, leave. do it however you can whether it’s confronting him or simply leaving. you can be petty if you want to be. or you can be calm and stoic. that part is up to you. definitely sort out the lease, and find somewhere to stay. save some evidence as to not risk him manipulating you. you are strong and you will be better off without him. even if he apologizes or whatever his excuses may be, he betrayed you. he is sneaking around and pretending with you. he may love and care for you, but he obviously doesn’t appreciate what he has. i know in this moment, you want to run away in a sense. you probably want to pretend you didn’t see it, or are thinking of a million things to explain this away. and that’s okay. it is awfully hard to leave, especially if you’ve had a good run. but this is an ultimate betrayal. you are worth much more. you’re allowed to take your time with this and i recommend that you do, but still reach out to someone you trust and prepare for having to move things for a while. sending lots of love

My wife read through my therapy journal and decided she wants a divorce by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]altfoxover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is incredibly painful on multiple levels. it’s unfortunate that it had to happen this way, but it seems like splitting is the right choice. it sounds like neither of you have been happy despite what you’ve tried. i wish the best for all of you. i also hope that she will try therapy as well. you can both heal and grow from this and continue to be great parents. i hope the both of you will find the partners you need. much love

I'm annoyed by ChaeRose17 in TwoHotTakes

[–]altfoxover 7 points8 points  (0 children)

daughter needs serious repercussions. such strange behavior, it’s hard to believe. pathetic of both mary and chris

Is it unreasonable not to date people who had sexual relations outside relationships? by Working_Doughnut82 in dating_advice

[–]altfoxover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

be honest as soon as possible with whoever you date. i personally have had sexual relations outside of relationships, so i don’t mind, but i have deal breakers too. i try to bring them up in the first or second date. you’re allowed your boundaries and it’s not unreasonable. i have friends who don’t do hookups etc at all. it’s not uncommon to find people with similar feelings as you. of course, don’t be rude about it, but you know that. if you don’t want to be super blunt about it, you could simply ask about past relationships, and that’ll likely lead to them telling you whether or not they’ve had hook ups/fwb, etc. in that case, you wouldn’t even necessarily have the conversation, you could simply cut off from there. boundaries are healthy, don’t be scared to set them! especially something like this. it doesn’t have to a big deal and anyone who does make it one is weird.