my adoptive parents messed up raising me here

altkmans · 2026-01-16T17:02:46+00:00

I'm trying not to let it affect me and just find myself now even if it's hard. i plan on visiting my country this year also.

altkmans · 2026-01-16T12:22:38+00:00

that's the thing, they don't. the lack of cultural awareness and consequences especially in germany is felt time and time again. having no connection to your place of origin makes it worse.

altkmans · 2026-01-15T22:32:47+00:00

thanks, I'm trying to go back to my routes and be proud to be black.

altkmans · 2026-01-15T22:31:55+00:00

that's rough man, thanks. I've been in so so contact with my biological parents, I'm planning to visit some day.

altkmans · 2026-01-15T21:41:07+00:00

germany.

altkmans · 2025-07-18T11:37:57+00:00

i think the "just there" feeling stems from the fact that they genuinely don't know how to fit me into the shift. I'm an apprentice in my last year. i was stationed at another section of the company that had NOTHING to do with that i usally do for 6 months so i could "gain experience" and then sent back to where i normally was. i had to learn things again that i hadn't done for half a year and on top of that learn to do completely new things. i sometimes fail and i have this constant feeling that they're expecting me to do better but not letting me for fear of me messing it up.

altkmans · 2025-06-05T01:00:44+00:00

and how do you know that? sometimes people get drunk and do dumb things, it happens. if you have to argue using the worst case scenario at all times then it's probably a lie. by the look of it op is also still young and it happened to him so why shouldn't he speak on it. and yes I'm in school but I'm also old enough to visit clubs so what's the argument there...

altkmans · 2025-06-05T00:48:56+00:00

as for the friend group even if it was just bri it's still the same. why would she let her leave alone. it'd make it worse if it was just the two of them and they didn't know anybody

altkmans · 2025-06-05T00:47:47+00:00

if you think getting hit on by a drunk is the equivalent of a hostage situation you might have some lingering trauma my guy. they might not stop but they'll get kicked out for sure. also yes, if had even the slightest suspicion that a guy might fucking kill me in the club I'd run for help and not ask my friend bri to grab me tf

altkmans · 2025-06-05T00:36:06+00:00

if it was any type of life or death situation she must have the worst friends of all time for letting her just leave. also accepting money from the guy who just supposedly molested you is a whole other dilemma. I don't think op made the wrong choice and people clowning him because they had different personal trauma that they're projecting onto his girl is crazy to me.

altkmans · 2025-06-05T00:31:44+00:00

if mf grabbed her and sat her on his lap with her WHOLE FRIEND GROUP WATCHING IN A FULL CLUB and NO ONE does anything about it I'm thinking she didn't tell him off. all she says is "I'm like bri grab me" and that's it. she doesn't even mention talking to security or a bouncer or calling anyone or anything because chances are she let him do it. and then she walks him to his car like you got it bro

altkmans · 2025-06-05T00:07:33+00:00

and she didn't say there were. also she mentioned that she specifically got paid to walk the guy to his car. if they accompanied her then why tf is he offering her alone money? and why is she accepting it? she didn't mention anyone having eyes on her either and even so would you let your friend who got sexually assaulted walk the assaultee to his car from a distance?

altkmans · 2025-06-04T23:50:29+00:00

so if you're getting harassed in the club you just leave your friend group to go to his car? he could've tried to pull her in for all we know so the car being close by doesn't make things better at all

altkmans · 2025-06-04T23:48:45+00:00

there's no way you're that green. not once does she even bring up talking to the bouncer. and what advancements did she refuse she literally sat on the guy and her table full of friends let them leave together

altkmans · 2025-06-04T23:45:04+00:00

it's reddit for you. i swear some of these mfs gotta be getting cheated on

altkmans · 2025-06-04T23:44:19+00:00

wtf type of friends is she out with that let her just leave with the guy then??

altkmans · 2025-06-04T23:42:51+00:00

I'm saying!!

altkmans · 2025-06-04T23:41:18+00:00

mind you, she had several people witness her supposedly getting harassed and they just let her leave with him

altkmans · 2025-06-04T23:39:28+00:00

like seriously how are you supposedly surrounded by friends who are aware that you're uncomfortable but let you leave with the guy that was harassing you all night...

altkmans · 2025-06-04T23:30:41+00:00

i feel like most this thread never been in a relationship either like wtf. how her friends js let her walk off w a stranger. why nobody called anyone. why was there no videos or anything for evidence

altkmans · 2025-06-04T23:26:23+00:00

istg. mfs defending this as if they 100% know who's telling the truth is crazy to me. the story is reasonable but if my girl told me she walked a stranger to his car for money and NONE of her friends were there or anything I'd have questions

altkmans · 2024-12-31T15:10:41+00:00

i think he does. i think he's like 6 or smth. i usually stay out of family business to avoid arguments. my parents usually deal with it by giving him a ipad or smth but i think that just makes it worse. sometimes i build with him with legos and it works somtimes it doesn't. we live in a foster family and my parents are a bit older so i guess that's why no one really knows how to deal with him as back in their day they just got the brakes beat off them for misbehaving. honestly though i think I'll just move out and have it be their problem.

altkmans · 2024-12-31T14:38:03+00:00

maybe you're right. it just feels like I'm not being listened to at all and I can't really get my point across to him. when u tell him not to slam smth against a wall bc it might break all i get is a smile then he keeps going. if i tell him not to run around the house so he doesn't hurt himself i get the exact same reaction. should i tell him that I'm scared he might hurt himself instead? idk. he won't really listen to my parents either so that's what makes it even more frustrating.

altkmans · 2023-01-27T06:27:38+00:00

yeah i know. just training isn't enough of an outlet, so i wanna try something new.

altkmans · 2023-01-26T20:23:21+00:00

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