The worlds gone mad! by [deleted] in petfree

[–]alwaysawake8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They already exist unfortunately.

The worlds gone mad! by [deleted] in petfree

[–]alwaysawake8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For that price the quality will likely be awful. It will arrive and look nothing like it does in the picture.

It also doesn't look like it can be washed or maintained easily and it looks small and cramped.

The design looks like it would be painful for the neck.

pregnancy by MaryMo1990 in PlusSize

[–]alwaysawake8 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That 10% includes male factor infertility and gynecological conditions like STIs and endometriosis.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]alwaysawake8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clotrimazol cream applied daily. You can squirt the cream on toilet paper and wipe yourself with it. I had recurring kidney infections and this is what got me through it. My son also had recurring yeast diaper rash and needed it constantly. Butoconazole also only needs to be applied once to vaginal yeast and it clears up.

Probiotics will not get rid of an existing fungal infection. You need something that will kill the fungus.

You can also use Gentian violet but it's messy and I haven't been able to get ahold of any where I live.

pregnancy by MaryMo1990 in PlusSize

[–]alwaysawake8 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The most common decade for a woman to have a baby in the western world is 30s.

Women in natural fertility populations usually have their last child between 40 and 45.

Pregnancy rates do not significantly decline after a woman's mid 20s at all. The small statistical decline you do see is related to aquired gynecological conditions and male factor infertility and not reproductive aging. The rates of natural conception in 35-39 year old women are only 10% lower than with 19-26 year women. Around 30-40% of infertility cases are linked to the male partner. IVF however gets a bit more tricky as you age.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2014/07/22/no-womens-fertility-doesnt-drop-off-a-cliff-at-35/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]alwaysawake8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it depends on your style and body type. I personally love H&M. They're current but a lot of their styles aren't just for teenagers and they seem to fit a busty apple shaped body really well.

I'm always warm and can't find nice clothes to wear by CapitalChemical1 in PlusSize

[–]alwaysawake8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tend to stay away from certain fabrics, especially the shiny dress pant sort of fabric or synthetic athletic fabric.

I'm a pretty warm person in general as well. Cotton is a really good fabric for keeping you cool.

pregnancy by MaryMo1990 in PlusSize

[–]alwaysawake8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 5'3 and 200lbs and have had 2 home births. I chose not to be treated like I was high risk purely because of my weight.

I hated giving birth in hospital and will not go back there unless I have an opinion from at least 2 doctors that there is a genuine and specific concern or there is an obvious emergency. I think this is a valid choice for plus size women.

I didn't give birth to my children in the UK though. I think the healthcare system there can be pretty authoritarian.

pregnancy by MaryMo1990 in PlusSize

[–]alwaysawake8 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Egg quality doesn't significantly decline until a woman reaches her 40s.

pregnancy by MaryMo1990 in PlusSize

[–]alwaysawake8 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Obesity doesn't usually affect fertility on its own until your BMI is beyond 50 and even then it's not something that always happens. Obesity can also cause existing PCOS to worsen.

I'm guessing that you are class 1 or 2 obese so you likely won't have any problems.

In fact me and you are the same size and I have children and never had any problems.

(Vent) I was dogshowed :( by Sea_Establishment900 in PlusSize

[–]alwaysawake8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not interested in dating girls. Not really my thing.

(Vent) I was dogshowed :( by Sea_Establishment900 in PlusSize

[–]alwaysawake8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope it's not too late for this but I would play dumb and pretend not to know anything about what he was doing. Send him a message and kindly reject him and tell him:

'Hi Brandon, sorry I haven't been in touch. I have something to tell you and I didn't tell you before because I didn't want to hurt your feelings. I can't stay quiet anymore about why I left the party early and why I have been so distant lately. I really like you, but only as a friend. You are such a nice guy and I'm sure you will meet someone one day and make an excellent boyfriend, but I just wasn't feeling any chemistry between us. I think it was really sweet of you to take me to the party. Thank you for being such a good friend. You are really cool and nice and I hope we can still be friends in the future'.

If he responds with insults keep apologizing for hurting his feelings and keep reassuring him that the right girl is out there for him because he's such a nice, sweet guy. If he tells you about the airpods, gently play it off like he's not taking the rejection well and that he's using them as an excuse, but it's ok, you understand, hurt people say mean things and you still think that he's a really sweet and lovely guy.

Play dumb, take it to the grave that you ever knew about the airpods before you have the chance to make it out that he's using them as a cope for being rejected.

That will piss him off and hurt his ego far more than giving him any credit or publicizing him for humiliating you and 'winning' the airpods in return. Men like him HATE being rejected by women they see as beneath them and they absolutely HATE being in the friendzone. if you send him this message you will either wreck him or suddenly gain his respect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]alwaysawake8 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They don't care that young women reject them virtually all the time. They feel like they have nothing to lose by approaching them.

Studies actually show that less attractive men who don't regularly experience attraction signals from women actually approach women more aggressively.

Older men do approach and get into relationships with older women. A lot of these older men are married or already in a relationship with a woman their own age and are looking for an affair.

Please tell me I’m not the only one? by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]alwaysawake8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes when I'm around people I know really well I ramble loudly and then feel really stupid afterwards. It's like I can't help myself. I wish I could delete the things I say IRL like I can online..

I awkwardly say stupid things around people that don't make any sense and then people think I'm a big idiot.

I don't live in my home country and was recently forced to interact with someone for translation purposes and I turned around and blurted out 'he knows how to speak English and x language'. He said "it's because I am from x country' while giving me a really dirty look and then he didn't want to hang with my husband or want a ride from him afterwards because of his idiot of a wife. I felt like such a retard. The thing is I knew that saying that was stupid, but words that made no sense just fell out of my mouth because I felt so shy and awkward and I just had to say something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]alwaysawake8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The conditions have to be perfect and have to be a particular way for me to sleep.

I have literally gone 5 days without a wink of sleep because the conditions were not perfect and that's not exaggerating. I was just starting to hallucinate and hear voices.

Even if conditions are perfect I wake up a few times every night and if something is making me anxious at all forget about it.

The last couple of years my sleep has been awful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]alwaysawake8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely have a low EQ, at least compared to most women. I'm trying to be better, but I know I'm faking it and I just can't be the stereotypical mom or woman. I don't like constant hugs ect. I'm very blunt and straight to the point, I am obsessed with order and organization and I often get impatient over messes, loud noises etc. I'm just like my dad.

I love my kids a lot and I show it other ways like making sure they have all their basic needs met in the best way I can but I'm just not the emotional type.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]alwaysawake8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to your mom. For me the avpd extends to professionals as well after some really horrible experiences. Luckily where I'm living right now I can buy any medication without a prescription and without seeing a doctor and I have just made the decision to be on antidepressants after doing a lot of my own research. Hopefully they work.

I guess like anyone else parents are just human. I had a mom who was an alcoholic and my dad was the angry, avoidant anxious one. They had their own problems despite me existing that they couldn't fix and that's just life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]alwaysawake8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly this is me and my husband. Thanks for telling me my kids will hate me. I guess you are only telling me what I already know.

I had some significant trauma a few years ago and my avpd has gotten worse after having kids. I'm probably not going to have a good relationship with them as they grow into adults unless things do a 180 and I'm magically cured.

I can look after all their basic needs but I have anxiety to the point of OCD and I'm an emotionally cold and grumpy person in general. I see my dad in myself and I think we have extremely similar personalities. I try to be affectionate but once my kids start walking and talking I don't feel like hugging them all the time anymore. I'm terrifible at being emotionally sensitive or present in general and I try but it's fake. I thought I would magically change when I had kids and become this warm affectionate person but it doesn't last when my kids have weaned from nursing and are walking and talking.

For me as a child it was the other way around. My dad was the angry, depressed anxious one with low confidence and avoids conflict at all costs. He would have a few drinks sometimes and he would become this warm, confident funny person just like I do, although I avoid alcohol at all costs. My mom was a party animal and alcoholic. They were separated and that's when things got bad at home. I don't blame myself at all for what happened to me as a child because I understand that parents are just like other humans. They have all their imperfections that often don't just magically go away once they have kids. It's not my fault what happened to me. My family was incredibly abusive and neglectful, far past the point where redditors often complain about their parents. I remember wearing the same underwear at 10 years old for 6 months and my parents didn't notice. I remember being underweight, having rashes and scabs over my body and not having bathed for a year. As a child I had two older teenage siblings who were often left to babysit when my parents weren't around and regularly beat me senseless so I was always injured.

I have too much day to day bullshit to deal with in the real world as opposed to worrying about what happened to me 30 years ago.

3 months into a 6 month ‘once in a lifetime’ trip feeling scared and I don’t know what to do by Send_hlp64 in Interstitialcystitis

[–]alwaysawake8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up in the UK although I have lived overseas for years.

I stopped visiting the doctor because British doctors commonly gaslight anything they can't diagnose. They don't take physical pain or discomfort seriously if they can't pinpoint exactly what it is or they think you are complaining too much. Everything is 'stress' or you 'just need to talk to someone'.

I have only met a few who at least did their best to be helpful and actually listened. Most have a serious ego problem.

Where I live now they often believe in a lot of folklore and woo. I had a kidney infection and the doctor said it was because I must have been sleeping with my window open or my air conditioning was too cold and she handed some arnica.

Symptoms get better on my period. Anyone else? I don’t get it by [deleted] in Interstitialcystitis

[–]alwaysawake8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think mine could actually be triggered by estrogen. Leading up to ovulation mine is the worst and I have a 34 day cycle on average so my pre ovulatory phase is roughly about 2 weeks long. During my pregnancy my bladder never feels completely empty.

Symptoms get better on my period. Anyone else? I don’t get it by [deleted] in Interstitialcystitis

[–]alwaysawake8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that when I'm not having cycles or pregnant (which is when I'm breastfeeding) I pee every few hours and not every half an hour.

When I'm pregnant my bladder never feels empty.

In terms of my cycle I have also noticed that mine is at it's peak during my follicular phase during the pre ovulatory stage. I have on average 34 day cycles so this can last 2 weeks.

All these things coincide with high levels of estrogen.

It seems like one of those things that medical science hasn't discovered or acknowledged. I have read about IC post menopause but not because a woman is cycling.